r/PrematureEjaculation

For real I am tired of reporting these fake promotional posts and their OPs. When will the mods become active and start blocking them?

I am suffering with PE and have consulted a doc, but want to know more from people who taking meds and seen improvement.
Is it mostly psychological or related to health for you?

Emla 5% - don't work ❌️.

Promescent Lidocaine 10mg spray - dont work ❌️.

Priligy Dapoxetine 60mg - don't work ❌️.

Dextromethorphan hcl 70ml without panadol - only increased from 10 seconds to 1 minute. Severe headache, nausea, sweating and restlessness 👎.

Tramadol 50mg - from 10 seconds to 1-2 minutes. Dizzy 👎.

Cialis Tadalafil 20mg - Works but only in second round. First round PE as usual. 2nd round i last to 50-60 minutes fast non stop hard pounding until my gf orgasmed few times. If i take on an empty stomach, i can't finish no matter how long or how hard i try ✅️.

I gave the cialis pill to my friend. He tried 2 rounds told me it didn't work for him. So, there is some unknown mechanism cialis works for some people. I think it has something to do with prostate health.

Hey guys,

Five years ago I was a mess. I couldn’t last more than 30–60 seconds once things got intense. It killed my confidence and made sex stressful instead of enjoyable.

I tried everything — Kegels, edging, porn desensitization, “just think about baseball” — nothing worked long term. Then I started researching the actual physiology behind ejaculation control.

I discovered studies showing that most men with lifelong PE have an overactive sympathetic nervous system and weak parasympathetic response (measured by HRV). Basically, their body gets stuck in “fight-or-flight” mode and fires too early.

Once I understood this, I stopped fighting my body and started training the nervous system instead.

I focused heavily on breathing techniques and learning how to shift from sympathetic excitement into parasympathetic dominance while staying highly aroused. I combined this with reverse kegels and practicing under real arousal conditions.

The results were insane.

Now I can last as long as I want — 20, 30, even 40+ minutes if I choose to. The control feels effortless and natural. Not only that, the pleasure is much stronger and deeper than before. I can ride intense waves and even experience multiple peaks without losing it.

Understanding the sympathetic vs parasympathetic switch was the real game changer for me. Once you get it, everything clicks.

If you’re still struggling with quick finishes and nothing seems to work, this nervous system approach might be what you’ve been missing.

Anyone else make a similar breakthrough? Drop your experience below.

I just want to share what has helped me. I'm not saying I've found a cure, but I'm sure it can help a lot of people. I used to last a few minutes now I can regularly fuck 30-60 minutes. I really do feel like 90% of guys don't need any cream or medication.

TLDR Buy a Fleshight to train with. Stop training to cum faster, train to last as long as you can. Takes deep breathes, don't hold your breath. Relax your anus. Try the stop mid-pee exercises. Try not to over-think it. 50% is mental, 25% is breathing and 25% is relaxing the muscles

My first time having sex as a teen I lasted less than a minute. Which held me back a lot, and hit my confidence to the point where I didn't really want to have sex, and would opt for just a blowjob, to be able to last longer. It's also very mental, you're worried you won't last long so you're tense and nervous, and being tense makes you cum faster, so you're stuck in a cycle.

Looking back I was pretty much training myself to cum as quickly as I can. When I used to jerk off, most of the time it would be under 15 minutes, skipping between porn videos. I would get myself to the edge within a minute or so, and then pause, jerk a little more, pause. I would be tense down there, dick and anus, and hold my breathe to get to the edge quicker. So then when it came time for sex my body was used to that.

I really wanted to change, so bought myself a fleshlight to train with. Started off very similar, 5-10 pumps and I would cum. It's the feeling of my whole dick being pleasured that would send me over the edge. I read a few things online about techniques to help. And the 2 major ones that helped me were to breathe slower and take deeper breaths, and to relax your anus. You also want to be less tense overall.

I also tried the stop mid-pee exercise. I didn't do it religious but it did help with the mind muscle connection. If you don't know, basically as you are peeing, try to stop and hold it mid-pee. Do it a few times every time you pee. This mainly comes in handy latter when you are almost about to cum, then you can stop it just before, but ideally you don't want to get to this point.

Start very slow for a few minutes or whatever you can do, and work your way up to 30 minutes. Think of it as training yourself, not to cum as quick as you can. Start with just the head if you can't pleasure the whole shaft without getting to the point of no return. You also want take deep breathes (don't hold your breath). You want to relax your anus, so it's not tense. Sometimes you don't even realise you're tense, but when you learn to relax it, you can feel the tension go away.

The next thing is mental. Try not to get too worked up, you want to be aroused so you stay hard but not too aroused that you can't relax certain muscles.

Also try different positions, laying down and on my side I would also cum quicker, and standing up I could last longer. So when starting out try in positions where you can last longer.

Feel free to DM me if you want me to clarify anything, happy to help.

The moderators of this forum specially requested I share this post , I hope it helps

THIS IS WHAT 100%, not 90% or 70%, I mean 100% HEALED ME AND IS MY EXPERIENCE ONLY. IF YOU EXPERIENCE SIMILAR ISSUES THIS MAY SAVE YOU.I’ve posted here before quite a few times, and after receiving thousands of more messages and further revising my work I’ve come up with what is essentially a near total solution for hard flacid (p0r”n induced erectile dysfunction in 95% of cases probably). YES PORN IS BAD AND YES IT DESENSITIZES YOU, IM TALKING ABOUT PHYSICALLY DESPITE AROUSAL HAVING INSTANTLY FADING ERECTIONS, PE, and just overall numbness and near complete loss of function.

**for ALOT of guys this is actually just a trained clenching habit acquired from a young age from quickly masturbating to porn COUPLED WITH BAD POSTURE HABITS. What happens is you kegel and edge to porn for hours for years and simultaneously acquire lower cross syndrome , which is where your core and glutes deactivate from underuse and your pelvic floor which is already tight from edging becomes your dominant stabilizing muscle. YOU ARE LITERALLY CLENCHED TO KEEP YOU STABLE 24/7 BECAUSE OF HOW WEAK YOUR POSTERIOR CHAIN IS AND** ***YOU CANT ACTUALLY RELAX INTO AN ERECTION ANYMORE*** **AND THEN TURN TO PMO TO OVERRIDE THIS AND FORCE ERECTIONS.**

**Here’s what happening:**

**your hips have become rock hard tight particularly the psoas muscles, because your glutes and core don’t work and are in a lengthened and weak position from just lifelong bad posture and laying and sitting too much. I went to the gym for 10 years and am/was a body builder pushing stupid weight and EVEN I WASNT ACTUALLY using my glutes during leg movements; you’d be shocked how common this actually is. This causes your pelvic floor to BE ROCK TIGHT LIKE A FIST. Impossible to have pleasure based natural erections basically; but you can force it by clenching more and getting crazy stimulation to override this via porn etc, leading to this whole cycle of fading erections 24/7 and anxiety and thinking your brain is damaged and you can’t get turned on when IN REALITY; your pelvic floor is automatically contracting 24/7 because of your weak glutes and core and that physically prevents natural erections. I would be losing my erections to porn and with women and in all scenerios thinking my brain was damaged or something from PMO.**

# This is called LOWER CROSS SYNDROME, and it directly causes severe hypertonic pelvic floor which causes ED directly physically.

# ID BET MY LIFE 90% of real PMO ADDICTS HAVE THIS , it’s CAUSED BY SITTING AND LAYING TOO MUCH AND CLENCHING YOUR PELVIC FLOOR FROM EDGING WHICH MAKES IT WAY WORSE.

The amnesia and weakness in your TRANSVERSE ABDOMINIS AND GLUTES ARE FORCING YOU TO CLENCH REFLEXIVELY AND WALK AROUND WITH A TIGHT butthole/ PELVIC FLOOR, and they are causing your hip flexors to be like rocks to stabilize your body.

I HIGHLY ENCOURAGE QUITTING EDGING AND PORN AND ORGASM FOR a 3-6 weeks before starting ( ideally 3-5 months)with this because ultimately you need your nervous system to unwind for a second and relax your pelvic floor without extreme stimulation just so you can effectively do these exercises. It’s not about dopamine it’s about letting your pelvic floor physically heal from microtraumas and parasympathetic holding patterns from over stimulation, ie forcing erections and stabilize your erectjon mechanics that are messed up from laying around edging. These will still work even if you watch porn, and I don’t want to discourage anyone from doing these if they’re unable to quit, because these exercises will normalize your pelvic floor muscle balance.

1. HEAVY HIGH VOLUME GLUTE BRIDGES USING BARBELL ( start with max weight you can handle and keep going up)

You need to learn to relax your pelvic floor while engaging your glutes and core and once you do this for a bit at the top of the motion hold it and do. At the top of the motion , briefly try and relax your pelvic floor while holding the weight with the other muscles ie core abs and glutes. It kinda happens automatically tbh but become aware of the sensation as this repatterns you permanently and restores muscular balance. Do like 8 sets of 8, almost daily take a couple rest days off but you can’t cheat this, you have to REALLY USE THESE MUSCLES ALOT PROPERLY. Eat a shit ton of protein, this is no joke you need like a bodybuilder diet to seriously correct your body and subsequent nervous system imbalance from the tight hips and pelvic floor ( by massively building your core and glutes).

2. ROMANIAN DEADLIFTS for CORE AND GLUTES + AB WHEEL ROLL OUT. Perfect form, use lighter weight AT first , focus on the stretch. Overtime you need to seriously increase weight and this one motion completely relaxes your lower body and strengthens drastically all the tight muscles from horrible posture and laying around for years. THIS IS KEY ALONG WITH GLUTE BRIDGES FOR FIXING ERECTIONS THAT FADE AND DONT GENUINELY FEEL GOOD. At the top of motion, ie standing learn to relax your body under the weight, this will train you to use your other muscles the way they’re supposed to be used and stop gripping your pelvic floor for stability 24/7.

PRACTICE MASTURBATING IN A REVERSE KEGEL, IE DO NOT LET YOUR BODY AUTOMATICALLY CLENCH AND TENSE UP, PRACTICE MASTURBATING USING THE REVERSE KEGEL TO HOLD YOUR ERECTION and \*\*USE LUBE\*\*. ***You are TRAINING YOURSELF TO BREAK THE CLENCHING REFLEX PROACTIVELY***. USE PORN IMAGINATION WHATEVER BUT THE HABIT YOU NEED TO BREAK IS CLENCHING AND THE ONLY WAY TO DO THAT IS THIS. THIS IS THE NATURAL WAY TO DO IT AND YOU HAVE TO LITERALLY REWIRE YOURSELF TO GET OUT OF THIS PANICKED RUSHED STATE WHERE YOU ARE RUSHING TO ORGASM AND ONLY RELYING ON VISUAL SHOCK.

ITS 100% more pleasurable and satisfying once you get the hang of it, you’ll be able to make your penis jump / bounce via a reverse kegel and that’s when you know you’re really connecting with the tense and tight IC muscle and allowing it to decompress and simultaneously do it’s job.

ITLL TAKE A FEW WEEKS OF DAILY DEDICATION TO REALLY HAVE THIS CLICK BUT YOU SHOULD BE RELAXED WHEN MASTURBATING ENJOYING SENSATION , AND THIS TRAINS THAT.

ONLY DO THIS WHILE HARD/ HARD ENOUGH. Don’t do this soft.

This is the opposite of the exercise that caused your issues , it’s the opposite balancing movement of the lifelong kegel you’ve been doing unconsciously\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\*

This WILL TAKE PRACTICE, DO NOT BE DISCOURAGED. You’ve never done this motion before and your whole life you’ve only kegeled so you’re extremely extremely tight in spasm down there. You should feel a pressure and light strain at the base of your penis underneath it when you’re doing this correctly. You’re activating the IC muscle with this exercise and it’s extremely, extremely weak.

Train yourself to masturbate pushing out vs clenching in, overtime it becomes natural and second nature

this.

4. Bulgarian split squats and weighted Russian twists with. 5 sets of 5 good weight for squats and higher reps for twists, perfect form to build and isolate glutes and hamstrings and stretch hip flexors- and in the case of the twists to work core transverse abdominal. Don’t use your quads , use your rear muscles , this is critical.

5. I strongly believe 3-4 months of no masturbation of any kind or edging will make a big difference in helping your body undo this muscle spasm imbalance ( this is not nofap for the sake of arbitrary dopamine receptors magically coming online, I believe for a lot of people these exercises MAY not be enough without giving rest to their pelvic floors. IE you cannot fix a broken wrist while still pitching 300 shots a day etc. however, I believe the erectile reverse kegel using porn as a stimulation to get hard will still work in engaged the IC and not relying on deep pelvic floor muscles to prop artificial hardness, you’re so tight basically and your IC is not engaged solo instead you’re using your pelvic floor to grip you can’t hold an erection. This also is why PE occurs in alot of guys; because their orgasm muscles are clenched 24/7 ready to blow and they’re literally never relaxed. This is a trained habit from porn at a young age to finish as fast as possible and bypass desensitization

\*THIS WILL WORK , STAY CONSISTENT, it may take 3-8 months but again, this is A PHYSICAL ISSUE YOU NEED TO FIX THIS ISNT SOME DOPAMINE ISSUE ONLY IN THE EXTREME CASES LIKE MYSELF. I spent my entire adult life not realizing I had a giant muscle imbalance despite being a semi pro Body builder, if it took ME this long despite having a good mind body connection to figure this out: most people won’t make the connection that HARD FLACID PORN EDGING ED iS A PHYSICAL MUSCULAR IMBALANCE.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*

More detailed explanation of hard flacid:

“hard flacid” is when you quickly lose erections and at rest penis is tight and soft and pulled in and very hard to arouse physically without ALOT of novel visual+ physical stimulation. It’s IN MY OPINION, what “ p0rn induced erectile dysfunction” actually is; it’s a PHYSICAL neuro-muscular adaption to “edging”, where you stay hard for hours kegling subconsciously and switch between videos and do this endlessly for months or years. This affects young people the most who grew up on the internet. Basically you kegel so much, and all day even when the edging stops, that your pelvic floor becomes EXTREMELY COMICALLY WEAK for AND SIMULTANEOUSLY TIGHT- AND IT TAKES OVER STABILIZING YOUR BODY BECAUSE YOUR CORE ANS GLUTES ARENT ONLINE AT ALL. It’s a muscle spasm in a sense and a compensation for weak stability muscles. your glutes and hamstrings are extremely, extremely weak which causes the Asshole to clench even harder to stabilize the area and compensate , which in turn makes your pelvic floor tighten AND makes it impossible or near impossible for your Ischiocavernosus muscle (IC which holds your dick up) to function and hold your dick up hard because the asshole being clenched prevents the IC from working properly and \\\\\\\*\\\\\\\*your IC is already spazzed and tight and weak in the first place from extreme over use.

\*Hard flacid IS a WEAK AND TIGHT COMPENSATING PELVIC FLOOR FROM WEAK DEEP CORE AND GLUTES PARTICULARLY THE TRANSVERSE ABDOMINIS in the core. It’s from sitting and edging for years\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*THE CURE IS TO BUILD YOUR GLUTES AND CORE SO YOUR HIP FLEXORS AND PELVIC FLOOR RELAX PERMANENTLY. HEAVY HIGH VOLUME GLUTE BRIDGES and ROMANIAN DEADLIFTS TO STABILIZE YOUR PELVIC FLOOR AND ALLOW NORMAL ERECTIONS.- BASICALLY JUST THE OPPOSITE MOVEMENTS OF WHAT CAUSED THIS IN THE FIRST PLACE. It’s simple

Additional exercises:

• ⁠Hindi squat, try and hold this 10-15 mins a day. Start with a bar or something to help you if you can’t do it yourself and need some support for your hands. This relaxes your pelvic flooor and loosens chronic tightness. Extremely important. It’s like a reverse kegel that combines the stretch with your tense and weak glutes and hamstrings.

it’s really just extreme edging orgasms and laying around and having horrible posture and mobility and muscular imbalances that causes a severe imbalance in your pelvic floor namely the IC and BC muscle balance , making it impossible to stay hard without forcing it through extreme porn.

Like the topic says, I’ve noticed every time I touch my member even when flaccid, my pelvic floor flexes and I can’t make it not happen by any force. Every slight movement makes this happened again. I realised there is a strong pattern in this, now wondering about the algorithm to break it.
i don’t masturbate and watch porn for years

TL DR: take care of your body, do internal focus work.

Hi guys! I learned about the existence of this sub and decided to post my story. I dealt with premature ejaculation about 7 years ago, and I would like to share with you how I did it. Statistically, more than seven out of 10 cases are based on performance anxiety and excessive arousal, so for 7 out of 10 of you, this solution will be very effective, and the remaining 3 will get huge benefits because the pathology itself is, for the most part, mental, not physical.

Premise: I know about temporary solutions like lidocaine and jerking off before having sex. I tried them too in my time. Those are Band-Aid-style solutions. I am offering a natural one, so to speak.

So basically, most often premature ejaculation, a combination of performance anxiety—which implies the expectation of premature ejaculation due to a multitude of failures and being anxious about having sex and during sex itself—and excessive arousal, when you just can't contain yourself thinking how good it is that you are finally having sex, your partner is so beautiful naked, and you both are going to get busy RIGHT NOW... aaand it's over in a minute :(

These mental states, accompanied by different physical changes in your body, like tense muscles in the pelvic floor or overall stress, are the reason why one ejaculates prematurely—statistics say in about 70 to 80 percent of cases. There are some other more physical reasons, like increased sensitivity, serotonin-related issues, but they are rare - and still involve psychology and mind-body issues more than one can think.

Here's my solution. We'll divide it into physical preparation, mental preparation, and the sex act itself.

Physical preparation: Optimize your well-being. I mean, you need good sleep, good enough nutrition, and some training. It doesn't matter if you'll hit the gym, do martial arts, go jogging, or do yoga. Anything that gives work to your muscles and brings corporal relaxation and endorphins after a training session works. If you add stretching after a workout, that's even better. And thanks to the mind-body connection, a relaxed body, as one knows, brings calmness and peace to an anxious mind.

Mental preparation: Here things get interesting. You can't just stop thinking about something that brings you anxiety. But what you can do is alter your focus and switch your attention to something else. That's achieved through using the state of increased internal focus. It has many names - being in the zone, trance, self-awareness, deeper meditation and etc. It's achievable through many techniques like hypnotherapy, meditation, breathwork—you name it. That's a reason why the suggestion of hypnotherapy in this sub is a good idea—but not primarily to set up a kind of a block so that you won't have premature ejaculation anymore, but more to learn how to guide yourself into a state of inner concentration and become capable of switching your attention to the things you want to. So - let's give it a demonstration, shall we?

I presume you are sitting somewhere comfortably, I hope. I will show you right now how it is to shift your focus. Just read my words and take a small pause after each sentence, will you?

You are probably wearing some kind of shoe or socks —and I really wonder.... how your left pinky toe feels right NOW... Is it lying comfortably in the shoe?... Does the fabric of the sock press on the nail?... Is your pinky toe warm or cold?... How is the pinky toe on the other foot doing, by the way?.... Do you have a T-shirt or shirt on your body?..... Does your body feel its weight?.... Are the air currents moving across your room tickling the hairs on your left forearm?....

If you followed my words, you now suddenly realize that a couple of moments of time slipped by without you noticing it, as you were engaged in exploring feelings in parts of your body. Congrats— that was a brief moment of trance. We experience it all the time. Everyone has had a moment of being deep in one's thoughts and not noticing the passage of time. That's natural to people.

That's your, in my opinion, best weapon against PE — being able to control your focus. It does not matter how you learn it — through meditation, assuming yoga poses for hours, or going to a hypnotherapist. Or maybe you are a sportsman and know this feeling of being in the zone — like everything is gone except you and your goal: an upcoming jump, a run, a basketball hoop. Learn to guide your attention, to get into a deeper focus whenever you want. You can start with my simple body-wandering technique, you can meditate and focus on your breathing—inhaling, exhaling, and the pauses in between—or find something on your own. You got the idea.

Now, the final part—sex itself.

Come to sex prepared—after a good sleep, a good workout, preferably with stretching, and being calm in your mind with no immediate troubles in your head. No substances. As you start, SLOW DOWN. Enjoy undressing your partner (I am hetero, so I will speak about women), undressing yourself, and lying skin-to-skin with each other. Focus—as you already can—on what you feel. Be in the moment. You'll think about her pleasure a bit later. Enjoy the sensation. Enjoy how her body touches, tastes, and feels. The Prelude is the main dish by itself, too—penetration comes as a separate dish to savor later.

When penetration comes, bring all your learned power of shifting focus. Guide yourself into her, steadying your body over her, feeling your muscles tense and support your weight, levitating above her. Feel your lips kissing her, feel your glutes contract and relax with each push. Breathe in and out—deep, long, steady. Wander mentally around your body, feeling how your toes dig into the bedsheets. Let your hips and groin do their thing on their own - they are perfectly capable. Go with the flow, concentrating on feelings in your body - arms, torso, legs, glutes, spine. By all means, you can let your mind wander even further, thinking about distant places or abstract things if you want to. And, once again, let your body do its thing on its own.

Arousal becomes too high to ignore? Not a problem. Stepwise, depending on the intensity, slow down, breathe deeply, stop, pull out if you need to, focus on another part of her body, lick her, kiss her, caress her, and go in again when your focus is back on track, and the wave of arousal is behind you. That's something called edging, my friend—and it's a good thing that you will learn to enjoy in time.

And it will work. These anxiety and excessive arousal things — they are like a bully. You beat it once or twice, and they are gone. And after you learn, you can at least once last long enough to be satisfied - you know that you can do it again. And again. And again. And gradually, you will last longer and longer.

There will be times when the arousal is too much — a position too provocative, or some long-awaited sexual pleasure is finally experienced. But that's okay—it is normal to give in to your feelings now and then, especially if you already know how to control them.

That's it, guys. I hope I explained everything clearly.

This is my 1st ever review on Reddit or any PE product

Before anyone comes out and say this was written by AI or I'm being paid to promote the product, let me tell you, you can Fuxc off as your comments will be ignored.

the product, it works. For me and it seems for more users if you search on Reddit.

I have suffered from PE as far as I can remember and I have tried everything you can imagine, creams, sprays, pills...

Some worked for a while, others removed all the sensitivity so while they were effectiveve, sex was not as pleasurable.

Lately my PE got really bad to the point that I would last 15 seconds at most. Sex was not enjoyable and I mostly avoided because of how severe my PE was.

I have bought Arlo after some research on Reddit and because of my desperation, I thought I have nothing to lose. I was also lucky to be speaking with someone in DMS that bought before and told me it worked so I went ahead and bought it

Product arrived very quickly to Portugal, thank you (@reddburn!). I first tried twice solo. 1st time applied on 3 times, last around 10 min with porn. This was impossible for me. I tried with porn because I wanted to see if product worked while I was extremely aroused.

2n time I tried but this time, I applied 5 times and man...I watched porn that would make me cum within 30 seconds but I was banging for more than 30 min non stop and had to choose a second porn to finish. Finally I was able to have a solo session in full control no matter what. Haven't felt this good on a solo session in years.

3rd time, I applied 5 times and had sex with a girl and I lasted around 15/20 min but I was banging non stop!!

This stuff just works!!I haven't felt this confident and enjoying sex in years.

I truly hope redburn is able to take marketing this product well and he makes it so we have this product for a long long time.

It will be a shame to see such a good product end up not making it in the market.

For those that keep doubting, just give this a try. Maybe does not work for everybody. Yes is a possibility. But I believe if you apply 5/6 times pretty sure it will improve your stamina no matter what your issue is

And again, let me tell you...I'm not paid anything to promote this product!

Hello everyone I am 30 year old male. I was married a year ago and I am suffering from severe premature ejaculation, small di*k size (3.5inch), girth is also very less. This problem has been since I got to know about masturbation( basically) forever. All my life I have been worried about it, I have lived all my life in fear what if someone saw my penis, they will laugh, what if I can not satisfy my wife, all these questions have ruined my life to a point where nothing feels good, I have become bitter , I get angry on small things, I just wants to be alone ,locked in a room for my whole life, but I always believed doctors will have some solution for this but as I grew older and went to many doctors and gone through all the possible medication, I realised there is no solution and never will be, atleast for me. Even with all this I was okay with everything somehow but now I have a wife, a beautiful, gentle and a pure soul, whose life I have ruined by marrying her. I want to make her happy, give her everything that she deserves but I can not. She does not want to leave me, she says she will live like this, so leaving her is not a option, so I am asking all of you what can I do? How can I help her. I know she wants to be loved but she won't even look at anyone else other than me. Medicine can not help me even if there is some medicine which can help with premature ejaculation but there is nothing than can improve size and girth.

Note- I have taken 60mg dapoxitine, 40mg doses of tadalfil( sometimes twice a day, I know it's risky but ) both of these together. I have taken paroxetine also for a long time. And any other medicines suggested by doctors. Nothing works no matter the dose.

I want to give up everything but I don't have that option either. So what am I suppose to do?

So hello everyone, I’m on here just like everyone else because of porn. Let me start off by saying that I’m 21 and not overweight I’m in fact small and petite if that has anything to do with this. I started watching porn for like 5 years ish now and it’s been on/off.

I can get off by thinking of sex but it is harder than simply watching it that’s for sure! I’m a virgin and I can’t really test it out to see if it works because simply I don’t want to deal with the idea of me not being able to get it up and I don’t have a gf. So I wanted to know your thoughts and ideas… obviously porn is bad and I should stop immediately but I want to know how severe! Anddddd another thing is I have a flashlight (sorry if this is tmi but I legit have no one to talk to abt this) but I can only last like 4 strokes.

I just need advice or suggestions please! I do want love in my life but not right now just an fyi!

I’m 37m and I’ve always struggled with PE. I found substances when I was young that helped, but after years of addiction and getting clean I can’t resort to that anymore.

Been in a long term relationship for almost 3 years and thankfully she has been very patient with me. I’ve tried TRT, viagra, cialis, condoms, ssri’s. Some worked until they didn’t. Currently taking 10mg cialis daily to help maintain erections.

Recently browsed this subreddit looking for suggestions on numbing sprays/creams as that was suggested by a professional and stumbled across an Arlo post. So I thought why not.

First application was a few weeks ago, but nothing panned out that night until we woke up at 4:30 am and had sex. I attributed my endurance that night to the fact that we just woke up because that has happened before. Early morning sex I have always lasted longer.

Fast forward to last night, I applied around 8:30 pm. She ended up just falling asleep so I went to masturbate and ended up having to just stop because I couldn’t finish. 12 hours later I initiated and still couldn’t finish.

I’m not sure what’s in it, but it’s safe to say it works for me.

Throwaway for obvious reasons.
I’ve tried everything. Thick condoms, numbing sprays, SSRIs, therapy, counting backwards, thinking about my grandma, the whole circus. Some of it helped for a week. Then my body adapted and I was back to square one.
What actually worked wasn’t a pill or a product. It was a 7-day behavioral protocol I found buried in a men’s health forum. The guy who wrote it wasn’t selling anything (at least not when I first found it) — he just laid out the mechanics.
The thing that blew my mind: I wasn’t “too sensitive.” My pelvic floor was chronically clenched. Like, 24/7 clenched. I was already at a 6/10 before my pants came off. The protocol had me doing “reverse Kegels” — which is literally the opposite of what every article tells you to do. 10 seconds hold, 3 sets of 10, twice a day. By day 4 I could feel my arousal drop in real time.
There’s also a breathing pattern (4-7-8) that acts like an emergency brake, but only if you hit it at a 6. Not at 8. At 8 you’re already gone. Most guys never learn what a 6 feels like.
And a 5-letter decision tree called STALL that runs on autopilot when you feel it coming.
I’m not saying it’s magic. I practiced solo for a week before trying it with my partner. But I went from 45 seconds to being the one who decides when we’re done.
If anyone wants the exact sequence, I have the PDF saved. Not selling anything, I just know how much it sucks to dig through garbage advice at 2 AM.

Hi, i’m 24 and i’ve suffered from PE since the beginning of my sexual life (17), but i’m dating someone new that i really like atm and it has never been this bad. She was staying at my place this weekend and twice i came while being almost flaccid (she was giving me a handjob). The shame was really hard to bear, especially since i really want to be the best man she’s ever had. She’s been great with me and she didn’t make me feel bad at all for this but man, i did not want her to see me in this position.

It has not always been this bad : i’ve had periods where it’s been better, lasting sometimes for months. I’ve had and i still have (this happened two weeks ago and last night, but i’m gonna come back to this) miracle nights where i last for as long as i want, but i always end up getting back into severe PE and this cycle of anxiety and shame.

Last week i started reading posts on this sub, trying to see if there is a cure. I’ve started doing breathing exercises, reverse kegels and edging, but it’s too soon to see any real life results. Also i find the breathing stuff unrealistic : how the hell am in supposed to do this during sex ? I do not want to have to do this. I want to focus on my partners, i want to talk dirty, to kiss and to have fun, not enter a meditative state and count the length of my inhale/exhales…

What this post is really about : i realised that almost every time i drink enough to be at least a bit drunk, my performances are through the roof. Meaning i have way more control over my pelvic floor, i can just pound again and again and take short breaks sometimes to regain some stamina but that’s about it. Yesterday night, i had 4 cocktails and we had a long and passionate sex session, it felt so good to be able to give her pleasure. Unfortunately she has a lot of trouble with finishing because she’s on sertraline, but still we felt this sense of losing ourselves in each other. And obviously it did wonders for my confidence, especially since she was leaving this morning, and the other sessions have not been great to say the least.

What does this difference between my performances drunk and sober mean ? How can this reveal the cause of my PE ? If anyone has any idea, please leave a comment so we can discuss about it.

Oh and i ordered a bottle of Arlo since apparently that’s what everyone is talking about right now. I want to see if the review posts are scams are not. I’m from France so i had to pay 25€ shipping hahahaha. That’s how desperate i am.
I’ll keep you updated.

Thank you for reading :))

I want to hear honest experiences from men who deal with premature ejaculation and how it has affected their dating life, relationships, confidence, and sex life overall.

Some questions I’m curious about:

• How do you approach dating and relationships while dealing with PE?
• Has it stopped you from trying to get a girlfriend or pursue relationships?
• Were you nervous the first time sleeping with someone new?
• After having sex, did women lose interest or “drop you off,” or did some stay and give the relationship a chance?
• Have you had long-term relationships while dealing with this?
• Overall, did your relationships last or did this issue create too many problems?
• How did your partners react when it happened?
• Did your partners still enjoy sex with you overall?
• How often were you having sex in relationships?
• Was the second round usually better or longer?
• Did things improve over time with comfort, practice, or communication?
• Did you eventually find treatments or methods that helped?
• How much did confidence, emotional connection, foreplay, or communication matter?
• Did this issue affect your self-esteem or mental health?
• Were your partners understanding, frustrated, supportive, angry, patient, etc.?
• Looking back, do you think PE mattered as much as you feared it would?
• Would you still recommend men with this issue keep dating and putting themselves out there?

I’m looking for honest real-life experiences — good, bad, or mixed. Please keep it respectful and constructive.

Wassup fellas

Put some PYT on today to test it out. Visiting long distance girl in a few days and wanna take her to pound town.

I applied on non-dick skin yesterday to test for allergies and was all good.

Today I put on glans/frenulum and after 30 mins it started tingling and slight uncomfortable burning. 6/10 discomfort, not terrible. Still hit the gym normally and after 2 hours got home and showered. No apparent bad reaction on my dick.

Does this just mean it’s working?

I wanted to share my first experience with Arlo because it ended up being a total accident that proved how long this stuff actually stays in your system.

I rolled it on expecting to get some that night but my wife wasn’t in the mood and said she’d be up for some fun in the morning. I ended up showering and going to bed thinking the application was a waste.

The morning came and we began to have fun. I expected it to be a quickie since I didn’t reapply but boy was I wrong. I usually last between 1-3 minutes of focused trying not to cum, but this time around I want to say it was between 5-10 minutes of non stop pounding trying to actually cum. Not only did I last long but I also felt everything. It was so weird in the best way possible. I kind of had to lock in to nut lol. But I got there and so did she (twice hehe).

I’ve only used it once but the fact that I don’t have to touch the numbing agent is what puts it above pyt for me. PYT is still priced better but that’s the only advantage I’ve noticed for now. Based on my first time use of arlo, it lasts 6+ hours and maintains sensations. I wonder if I would still feel everything if I had fun after only 2 hours of application. I’ll give it another go and keep you guys posted but so far so good.