r/Polygamy

سلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

حاولت انزل الإعلان في قناة الزواج بس رافضين متزوج ف عاد بنزل هنا وربنا يكتب لنا اللي فيه الخير. 😊

من مكة المكرمة عمري ٣٤ سنة

انا متزوج من ٢٠٢٤ وابحث عن زوجة ثانية.

طبعا كلمت والأولى وعمي وعمتي وأهلي والكل موافق الحمد لله.

ما قصرت مع الأولى ولا بقصر مع الثانية.

الزواج المتعدد له ايجابيات وسلبيات زي الزواج الفردي له ايجابيات وسلبيات ولو حابة نتكلم ف أنا مستعد ان شاء الله

كنت مهتم بالرياضة قبل الوظيفة الجديدة لاكن بحاول ارجع على صحتي واسوي رياضتي.

مهتم بالصلاة الحمد لله ان ما صليت ف المسجد بصليها بالبيت على وقتها الحمد لله.

مقدر للحياة الزوجية مهتم بعيلتي واحب اشوفهم سعيدين وراضين

اموري المادية طيبة الحمد لله. اقدر اقول الحمد لله ناجح مهنيا

أنا الحمدلله مثقف في حياتي وبالذات في الزواج، مآخذ دورة تأهيل المقبلين على الزواج وأخذها كل فترة والآخرة، الحمد لله عندي دورات مختلفة تساعد في الزواج مثل الذكاء العاطفي ومهارات تواصل.

انا انسان رومانسي واقدر الحياة الزوجية واتمنى اكون اسرة امنة مستقرة مع زوجتي وعيالنا ان شاء الله.

شروطي الأساسية هي البنت تكون منقبة تخاف ربها محافظة على صلواتها، ما تشتغل، وعندها نية انها تكون ست بيت

هذه شروط أساسية خط احمر لي بس عادي ممكن اشرح لك السبب وراء كل شرط

وعندي شرط مهم مو أساسي انها ما تسوق وهذا ممكن نتناقش فيه وأغير رايي

ارجوكم هذه آخر محاولة لي في هذا الأمر واتمنى ما احصل هجوم شخصي عليا ولا على عيلتي

ان وجدتي بيننا مستقبل بس ارسلي لي نقطة على الرسايل الخاصة وانا برد عليكي وبكمل، الهدف من الرسالة اني اعرف انو عندك نية فقط والمبادرة عليا 😊

شكرا لكم

What's the point in being rich or successful or being in shape or being a "top tier man" if your need for connection and DESIRE from a woman isn't going to be fulfilled?

It's a question I've been struggling with recently a lot since 2024. My motivation has plummeted. I've been wanting to give up on life.

Since the age of 4 years old, when I first gained consciousness, I had the goal to find a wife, a girl who would love me and be by my side no matter what. I fell in love with the idea of that, and I wanted that so freaking bad...

And years past, I'm 19, turning 20 soon, and lots of suffering and isolation have turned that goal into something even bigger. I don't want just one wife anymore. I want more than one. NOT "gold digger" wives or sex workers REAL WIVES. Real high value women who love me deeply and cherish me and are loyal to me and want to be in my life and love and support me till death does us part.

But as I look around my IRL life with friends, with family, online, and even just out in public irl when I was at school or WORK. It seems like love like that will never exist for me, and I won't even be able to get ONE high value girl to even stay.

My mom never stayed with a man, all my friends and people I knew that's been in relationships they're relationships ain't last. My ENTIRE FAMILY is all broken up and divorced and beefing with each other. I can't name a singular, healthy, happy long-term couple, I know. And of course, from MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, I tried 3 times, did everything right, everything I could, and they still left me, and they say it was because I was "too good for them".

Ive always been a lover boy and I'm still a virgin but recently I've been thinking about even letting go of that fantasy and just get my money and status and body game leveled UP and become a toxic fuck boy and have sex with as many girls as I want and can and give up on long term and being truly deeply desired not just for a fleeting moment but for life. Because even the champs get girls, but they don't stay UNLESS they're trauma bonded, and I dont even get down like that.

It's just like in the end my efforts will have been for nothing. And that's a pain I would rather not face because that's far worse than just not trying. Trying your hardest and your efforts still wasn't enough.

I would like reassurance, but instead, I might just get chewed out. But I felt it was worth a try. I'm just in the darkness looking for a glimmer of light again. Looking for hope that my dream can still exist.

i have been single for a while and i have also never been with a girl but i matched with a married couple on a app and i think they are both super cute. They dont want something just sexual they want a relationship which is what i want and i think the dynamic sounds kind of cute and fun? idk how it will turn out in the long term but im looking for any or all advice.

Hi, I (M28) am dating my partner (F22). We don't even live together yet, but we've been together for almost two years now. She's Catholic, I’m more of a deist (I believe in God but not in any religion, and I believe God doesn’t intervene in the world),

I’m not American and I don’t live in the US—I’m Latino. I haven’t brought up the subject with her yet. The idea of polygamy has been on my mind for years. I know it’s not the right time yet. We’re currently planning to move in together, and I plan to propose to her at some point. I already know she’s the right one; I want the confirmation of a life together, and only because she’s still very young do I want to give her time to mature.

But at some point, I want to have this conversation with her. What advice would those of you who have already done this give me?

My motivation, as you might guess, isn’t religious or cultural;

for me, it’s a matter of family. I have this mental image of an extended family. We’ve already talked about having children and getting married, and I’ve told her many times that I see myself with more than 12 children.

I’m asking because I don’t want to hurt her. In fact, if it’s healthier for us not to practice polygamy, I’d accept that, because I’d rather she be happy. It wouldn’t make sense to me to ruin my chance of starting a family with her over such an ambitious plan.

Another thing I’m unsure about is whether it’s right that I haven’t mentioned it to her yet; I think I should tell her before I propose, so she marries me knowing where I stand.

I’m a 37 y/o M married for 18 years to my 37 y/o wife and together we have a 32 y/o Female partner (our fiancé) for about 3 years now. There’s been many ups and downs the last couple years with coming out publicly and some family and friends lost because of it. But I have to say it’s been a completely amazing relationship. I still struggle with some childhood wounds and those are amplified when introducing people to my life that doesn’t currently know. I have this idea of just to start creating content solely to take that power back as well is answer questions and be a voice for men in this lifestyle. I figured this is the best place to start before I flat out put my face on camera for the world to see! With that said I’m at a blank on what to create content on. I do a lot in my workshop from laser engraving to making rings and pens etc. I’ve thought about making stuff on camera while talking about throuple life. The biggest goal is to help myself get past the scary of telling people about my relationship. The part I love about this idea is that it’s a chance for me to help other people. I’m just struggling to come up with topics of conversation.

I'm very upfront about what I want in my dating app profiles, ads on Reddit, and even my outreach messages. It's so wild to me how some people react. They're disgusted that I'm married and want kids. That I'd have the guts just to be honest about what I want. Yet, I know countless examples of "normal" people who have children with multiple people and sometimes don't even take care of them! But I'm bad because I want to build a loving life with multiple women. Ridiculous.

In your experience, what character traits are absolutely necessary for a biblical polygynous marriage to truly work?

More specifically, what are the traits a man MUST have, and what are the traits each woman MUST have? Not just “nice to have,” but the qualities that, if they’re missing, things will fall apart

I’d really love to hear from those who have actually seen it work (or not work), and what made the difference?

Where are you guys finding candidates? Looking for a second wife but feel like it’s next to impossible to find the right spaces to connect with potentials. If you’re a potential reading this feel free to message me haha...

It's more out of curiosity, but I realized that the subreddit simply disappeared, although I don't know how long ago because I didn't notice until today.

Hey so I need some help , sorry this is a little long
for context me (20F) and this girl went on a first date and she told me in the middle of the date that she’s polygamous.
I really liked the time I spent w her and I liked her a lot too, however I’m not 100% sure I am polygamous (although I’m sure I’m not 100% monogamous or strictly monogamous although I’d probably prefer to be with only one partner at a time since forme personally I’d be hard to manage more than one. Is there such thing as an in between??
However, after this date I have been very confused about how I myself feel about this and how it would work out between us. She’s not currently in any relationships and told me that if we were to get together and she went out and happened to find someone that she was interested in that she would tell me, etc.
The point of my post is to get more information on polygamy since all I can find are the very basic definitions and I mostly found information on polyamory which I know is very different although I feel like that would fit me better personally.
So id be great if anyone could help me, tell me how I works for you as a polygamous person , any personal experience or advice for me. And if anyone is in a mono-poly relationship could you tell me how is going for you and if it works? Is there such thing as a polygamous and polyamorous mixed relationship?
After searching a bit more and thinking about my own identify I have realised that I would totally be okay dating someone who is poly and maybe even trying to have more than one partner (although if that was the case I’d probably find a polygamous relationship easier to manage) with the right communication.
except for the fact that she described polygamy for her as “relationships that can end suddenly and even reappear” that kind of made me a bit hesitant. Is that actually how it works for polygamous people??
She also asked me if I wanted her to delete tinder which left me a little confused.
Also what is the difference with a polygamous relationship and an open one….could I still be considered poly if I’m okay with my partner being committed to me and others but not okay with them “sleeping around” and having hookups??
Any help, advice would be highly appreciated.

Any polygnous older guys out there who are will to chat with someone who is curious? If not that's cool too, lol.

Hi everyone, I’m looking for honest advice/support from people who are actually experienced with polygamy/poly relationships because I’m feeling very conflicted and emotionally overwhelmed trying to understand whether this could realistically work for me long term.

My boyfriend (22, almost 23) and I (23) have known each other for around 5 years, and we’ve recently become serious. He’s honestly amazing to me in many ways — generous, driven, caring, family-oriented, and genuinely wants to provide for the people he loves. He has the financial means to support a family and has already shown me through actions that he wants to build a stable future. He wants children very badly and talks a lot about wanting a large family, helping everyone reach their goals, and creating a strong family unit.

Early on, he told me that in the future he may want multiple wives. At first I was honestly disgusted and appalled by the idea. I saw it as something that mainly benefited the man and sounded emotionally painful and unfair. The more I’ve read this forum though, the more I can at least understand the appeal and beauty some people find in it — especially the sense of family/community, shared support, raising children together, women still being able to pursue careers, etc.

At the same time, I’m still struggling emotionally with the idea of sharing my partner. I naturally lean much more monogamous emotionally. I like closeness, exclusivity, reassurance, and I worry about feeling left out or emotionally replaced. I’m also someone who has attachment issues and gets very bonded to my partner.

My boyfriend says he doesn’t want to rush into anything and would want to start with one healthy relationship, one wife, and children first. He says if that fulfills him emotionally then maybe that’s enough, but if not, he could see himself expanding the family years down the line once the foundation is healthy and stable. He also says he no longer wants cheating or messy dynamics and wants honesty and structure instead.

For context, he did cheat in a previous relationship with me years ago, which he deeply regrets and says he never wants to repeat again. He’s admitted he likes attention from multiple women, but says what he ultimately wants is long-term family structure and commitment, not random hookups.

As for me, I’ve had a pretty unconventional dating past. I’ve been with 100+ men, dated multiple people casually at once in the past, and have always been very social. But in actual serious relationships, I’ve always been monogamous. I don’t really have much desire to sleep with other people anymore, but I do enjoy freedom socially — things like traveling, going to raves/festivals, dancing, flirting, kissing, and just feeling free and expressive. I’ve never actually gone a full year without sex, which is another reason I wonder if maybe I need time to figure myself out more before settling down fully.

One of my biggest conflicts right now is that I’ve always dreamed of traveling the world and living somewhere warm like Australia for at least a year. I’ve never even lived alone before. Part of me really wants family, children, stability, and building a life with him, while another part of me feels like I still need independence, self-discovery, and life experience before fully settling.

He fears that he’s just an “option” to me while he sees me as the woman he wants to build with. But honestly, I feel almost the opposite — I see him as a huge catch and “the prize” in many ways because of everything he offers emotionally and practically. I’m the one struggling with whether I’m ready to fully settle into the life he wants yet.

He has also mentioned another woman he once thought could fit into this kind of future dynamic because he thinks we’d get along well, which honestly both scares me and makes me curious. I’m trying to keep an open mind instead of instantly rejecting everything because I genuinely love him and don’t want fear or lack of exposure to be the only reason I close myself off from something that could potentially work.

At the same time, I don’t want to force myself into a relationship structure that will slowly emotionally destroy me just because I love someone.

So I guess my questions are:

• Can someone who naturally prefers monogamy genuinely grow into this kind of relationship in a healthy way?
• Did any of you initially feel disgusted, jealous, territorial, or emotionally resistant before eventually becoming comfortable?
• How do you know the difference between “this isn’t for me” versus simply fear/insecurity/lack of exposure?
• Is it a red flag that the relationship freedoms feel somewhat unequal (he’s more comfortable with himself having multiple wives than me having other male partners and even male friends)?
• Should someone in their early 20s slow down before making permanent family decisions if they still feel a strong desire to travel and explore life first?

I’d really appreciate thoughtful advice from people with actual experience instead of immediate judgment because I’m genuinely trying to understand myself and this situation honestly.

I'm 33 black female. He's 42 white male

I'm a submissive girlie, and thinking about marrying a man who's wanting polygamy.

I'm curious about how happy you are?

I'm trying to let go of jealousy etc with sister wives, and to be loving.

I would love to hear anything you'd like to share. 🩷

Maybe a silly question, but one I’ve been thinking about…how does the experience differ for women depending on whether you’re a first wife or a second?

Instinctively it feels like it might be hard to adjust for a first wife. Even if you’re on board with adding somebody else, it’s still a change. Whereas if you’re the second (or third etc) then you can see what you’re joining. But then maybe there are advantages to being the first, like having that one-on-one bond first.

I know the answer is probably that it depends and everyone’s different, but I’m interested in hearing people’s experiences. I’m single and curious and I guess it could happen for me either way, though I imagined joining an established family.

I just found out that the guy I'm seeing comes from a family that has practiced Christian polygamy for generations; in fact, this guy has four mothers. I've actually been researching polygyny quite a bit, so it's not something that shocks me, but... it does make me a little uneasy since I've never met a family like this. Any advice? Are polygynous families very different from monogamous ones?