u/curious_follower_

Maybe a silly question, but one I’ve been thinking about…how does the experience differ for women depending on whether you’re a first wife or a second?

Instinctively it feels like it might be hard to adjust for a first wife. Even if you’re on board with adding somebody else, it’s still a change. Whereas if you’re the second (or third etc) then you can see what you’re joining. But then maybe there are advantages to being the first, like having that one-on-one bond first.

I know the answer is probably that it depends and everyone’s different, but I’m interested in hearing people’s experiences. I’m single and curious and I guess it could happen for me either way, though I imagined joining an established family.