r/November25babybump

Had a very stressful evening yesterday. Second day of starting solids and gave baby a bit of eggs and tomatoes. She kept chomping happily but after the meal noticed a hive on her neck. Husband drove like an F1 racer to the emergency room. Thankfully no breathing problems but after getting antihistamines her hives didn’t completely go away and she started vomiting an hour later so had to give her an epi.

Definitely one of - if not the- scariest moment of my life. But I had to hide it so I could be strong for her. I know she was already going through so much. She took it like a champ though, much braver than I could ever be. So unbelievably proud. Giving her extra cuddles and extra kisses today. The exhaustion and benadryl made her sleep much longer, but I couldn’t sleep with the mom guilt and the what ifs.

Starting solids is an exciting, but incredibly scary journey. Before starting we were so scared she would choke on anything and now we have to add allergic reactions to that list. I sincerely hope none of you have to go through what we did yesterday. And if you live far from a place with a good pediatric ER unit, might be a good idea to introduce common allergens closer to the hospital.

I cannot choose where I get seen for healthcare due to my crummy insurance so I’m stuck at this pediatrician office and have been consistently booked with this one provider who is an older lady. She’s been doing weird stuff since first time we saw her - using her bare finger to feel my kid’s gums and acting like something’s really wrong with my kid when he couldn’t hold his head well when she tugged on his arms at his 4 month (he does tummy time perfectly but we’ve been doing OT and he’s doing fantastic).

This 6 month visit I inquired about how he still wakes up 3 times a night to eat and she recommended me putting a tablespoon of olive oil or butter into his milk and that will make him sleep through the night and that there’s no reason for him to be waking up at this stage. I also showed her some of his diapers because he had blood in stool and she gave it one look and said he’s sensitive to dairy and if I put creamer in coffee, drink milk, etc - all to which I said NO. The only dairy I eat is string cheese as a snack and I’ve been eating that thing since before he was born until now so I don’t think it’s that and I told her so but she said there’s no other reason for blood in stool.

I don’t mean to judge but I wonder if it’s because she’s old maybe she doesn’t know pediatric guideline and relies only on anecdotes? I’m also in healthcare (not a physician) so when doctors explain things to me I can see their train of thought and understand it physiologically but I really don’t understand her? For good measure, I asked ChatGPT and it said definitely DONT add olive oil or butter. (Also to note, my kid is 95th percentile so he doesn’t need it for weight gain).

Can anyone tell me if I’m being too much here or should I be skeptical of this doc? I can’t leave the practice but I may try to ask for a different doc next time…

Also, does anyone know how to get their kid not to wake up at night? I believe he wakes up on a schedule because he’s used to waking up to eat. Half his daily bottles are nighttime…we considered sleep training but our current life circumstances doesn’t allow us to kill ourselves for a week to adjust. One of our friends took PTO for a week to do this and we are just not at a place to do that. Maybe in May or June…

I feel like my baby is a bit upset all the time (except right now, he’s pooping). The only thing he likes is when I walk around with him and tell him about things. But doing that all day gets a bit tiring and monotonous! I’m feeling a bit at wits end at the moment and would love some tips on what yall get up to. What do your babies love?

My pediatrician gave us the green light to start oatmeal at her 4 month appt (she was really 4.5 months by that point) but my gut said she wasn’t ready. She still needed lots of assistance to sit up and didn’t seem interested in food at all. Ped said wait until 6 months for other foods, which didn’t really make sense to me to separate the two. Baby will be 6 months on May 14 and in the last couple weeks we’ve tried oatmeal a couple times but she didn’t seem at all interested. I’m wanting to do a combination of mostly BLW with some purées. Is it ok that we haven’t really started yet? Just interested in what other folks are doing.

Are we the only ones that are waking up anywhere between 30-40 minutes on the dot during daytime naps? Baby is 5 months and 2 weeks. If I could bet 10 dollars each time that he will wake up anywhere between 30 and 40 minutes I would be rich by now. Crib, stroller, contact whatever. 40 minutes max and he is awake

My girl is 24 weeks on Saturday and I'm wondering what everyone's days look like. She's usually up at 7, has her WW are 1.5/2/2/2/2.5, with 4 naps per day because her naps are short (30-40 mins) unless I do a contact nap then I can get 1.5-2hrs. bedtime depends on when the last nap ends (ranges from 7-830pm).

She's been having bad nights, some up every 1hr and some up every 2-3hrs. Idk what to do and if this is all normal? Any advice would be great.

My 22 week old daughter is just about ready to transition out of her bassinet. She’s been in a Snoo since birth and is still in our room. I had recently posted that I was thinking about moving her crib into our room and continuing to room share, but then I had an idea.

She has been an exclusive contact napper her whole life. Just recently, we’ve transitioned her to napping next to me on our bed (which means she can get all the room she wants, and I can roll away.) She’s napping longer, going down for sleep quicker, and the set up is better for us both.

Hence, the idea of a floor/Montessori bed in her room came into play. It seems the best place to meet in the middle. Transfers are hard with her. I can crawl in there with her and breastfeed/stay drowsy and snuggle up to her if need be. If I fall asleep in there with her, I wouldn’t hate it either. I can also roll away once she’s asleep and get back in my own bed if I need to. I can continue to be responsive to her needs at night without sacrificing too much of my own sleep.

I am aware the AAP doesn’t recommend this until your baby is 12 months+, but many do it before that at this exact age. We would obviously fully baby proof her room and have an infant safe mattress.

Has anyone else tried this out yet?

After the first two teeth erupt, is it possible to continue teething continuously?

Our girl had her first 2 teeth break through last month. Super early 😵‍💫. It’s probably been 2 weeks. But the constant drooling, super runny nose, and intense chewing never stopped. Ruled out illness.

Maybe it's my deodorant but I'm 6 months pp and still feeling stinky. I put deodorant on and I won't even be sweating that much and later I smell my armpits and it's bad 😅 anyone else still stinky?? I'm not breastfeeding anymore either so I was hopeful my hormones were getting more stable.

Mines Turning 6 months on the 15th, rolled one night in March a few times and nothing since!

My previously chill little dude is just so unhappy. Needs to be held all the time and waking up more at night. Constantly fussing. It hurts my ears!

My first son was fussy since birth lol so I never noticed it with him. In fact at the six month mark things got easier, not harder!

I know this will pass. Teething, developmental leaps, just general baby shit… it changes all the time. It’s not my first rodeo. But dang can he just chill out for a second please so I can drink some coffee in peace 😂

How’s everyone else’s babies doing?

Baby is 23 weeks. She has been so fussy the past few days. She woke up screaming crying multiple times last night. I thought it was too soon for her to get a tooth, but she’s just been in such a funk I checked. Well to my surprise, when I ran my finger on her gums, I felt a tooth!

She’s growing too quick on me!!!

Is anyone else’s little one struggling with sleep? More often than not, my son is crying while I put him down for naps and for bedtime. Routine is the same every time - lights off, sleep sack, rocking, sound machine, and singing. I’ve tried shorter and longer wake windows. It’s breaks my heart to hear him cry and it can be so frustrating at times but I know if he doesn’t go down it will get even worse. Any advice???

hi everyone. we’re all on the same boat here! so i wanna share some things im still going through in postpartum.

i’m so dizzy. first it was anxiety (went on meds)
then it was low vitamin d (been taking vitamins for it for about a month now)
now it’s like if i don’t drink enough water early enough in the day where im just struggling for the rest of the day and night with dizziness and lightheadedness.
like what is it? The amount of blood i loss? (had two postpartum hemorrhages)
is my body really still this fragile at 6 mos postpartum
i hate this i was never this weak and im about to go back to work and im just feeling super frustrated with myself with my body.
the gas… diff story. after every meal just tooting up a storm. how embarrassing really.

I hope everyone has the most wonderful Mothers Day! ❤️❤️❤️

I’m (33F) moving to the Liverpool area with my husband and our five month old son this summer. I grew up in the area and went to the University of Liverpool, however I haven’t lived in the city for over 10 years.

I’ve met some wonderful new mums where we currently live and will be so sad to say goodbye.

I’d love to meet some fellow new mums in the city who would be up for baby classes, coffee dates, walks and generally getting out of the house with little ones in tow!

We’ll likely be based north of the city but happy to travel around. If anyone knows of any good baby groups, WhatsApp/Facebook groups, or just fancies making a new mum friend, please feel free to comment or message me 😊

Would also love any recommendations for good baby-friendly pubs around Liverpool!

My boy just constantly whines, whinges, cries ALL DAY LONG. I don’t believe he’s in any pain or discomfort, and he wasn’t like this as a newborn. It began at around 4 months. It is so so difficult, overwhelming, and frustrating.

His first wake window is normally okay and the first ten minutes or so after a nap he’s always happy and smiley but after that it’s game over.

Put him on his play mat? I’ve got a minute or so until he starts. Give him a different toy? Maybe 30 seconds. Sit him in his high chair? Another minute of peace and he starts again. I’m not proud but a couple of times a day I‘ve resorted to sticking Miss Rachel on for a small break and even with that I’d say he gives us a maximum of 8 minutes’ silence before he starts up again.

When I actively sit and play with him, I’m able to hold off the crying for like 15-20 minutes only if I constantly am moving him around, jiggling him, changing position, changing toys, doing silly things to make him smile and laugh. The SECOND I stop he starts the whining and crying again.

I can’t get anything done. My head is full of the crying all day 😭

The only thing that works is taking him out for walks where he seems content.

Otherwise, he’s a good eater, good sleeper, he giggles when tickled or we’re doing funny voices etc… But then yeah… Straight back to crying.

He’s not a velcro baby, either. He’s never been very cuddly and he doesn’t want me to pick him up, so it’s not that. 😅

Is anyone else going through anything similar at all?

Sorry for this rant. He’s just gone to bed and I’m gearing myself up for more of the same tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day.

I’m trying to connect with other parents whose babies aren’t hitting all their milestones and trying to navigate the medical system and make decisions. Everything online just defaults to “talk to your pediatrician” but of course your pediatrician isn’t able to answer every little question that comes up each day! My baby has been assessed by PT as having gross motor delays, and apps like solid starts say she isn’t ready for solids yet but her daycare teachers say she’ll be more behind if she doesn’t start them now… it’s hard to figure out what to do! Anyone else in this boat?

Edited to add the that she has been assessed by PT as having low muscle tone and significant gross motor delays (head lag, not rolling, not sitting).

My little chunky boy is 6 months now and I’m his primary caregiver while hubs is working full time. Our baby has always smiled at me way more than my husband which we think is normal because I’m with him all day but recently he won’t even look at me. I try to get in his line of view and he IGNORES me. Completely looks away and doesn’t smile at me. I try not to take it personally but I’m honestly so sad about it. He’s totally smiley with my husband and they play well together.

I don’t know why he’s becoming this way. Maybe he feels betrayed every time I take him to the doctor or maybe he associates a lot of “bad” things with me like doctor visits, physical therapy sessions, general fussiness.

Has anyone’s baby done this to them? Does it get better? I’m about to solo parent for a whole week next week and I’m afraid he’s not going to have a good time with me :(

Anyone else’s baby rolling onto their stomachs all night long and immediately screaming? It’s a constant battle of wake ups. Wake up to her on her stomach upset- flip her. She rolls immediately back onto her belly and starts crying again. I know she’s just frustrated but my postpartum rage is flaring up. 🫠

Edit to add. Whenever she finally does get content with her belly, she will sleep face down. Add that to another reason I can’t sleep. Tell me I’m not alone 🥲