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I am genuinely curious, how do you reconcile the idea of being transgender and being Catholic? I've been struggling with this lately, since gender transition is considered a "grave matter" at the very least.
I find myself not very persuaded by arguments of it being a mortal sin, but still, they trouble me deeply. Especially since I accept other Church teachings that I don't understand.
> My sexuality isn’t a perversion, disorder, or cross; it’s a gift from God. I have a happy, healthy marriage and am flourishing as an openly gay Catholic. It’s taken years of prayer, therapy, and affirming community to get here, but I thank God for my sexuality and station in life. If I could choose to be gay, I would, because it’s a powerful and beautiful way of reflecting God’s image in the world. Being a gay man makes me more empathetic, caring, passionate about justice, and creative. Of course, I have my faults, insecurities, and sin, too, but these are unrelated to my sexual orientation.
hi I am looking for a parish in the Denver area that is welcoming to LGBT people that someone can personally vouch for. I tried the new ways ministry list that people recommend but my luck has been horrible. St Bernadette is currently in the supreme court against LGBT in their schools and is on that list. Light of the World had a sermon about how the state is "kidnapping kids and transing them" and is on that list.
im scared to try the others on that list. I reached out to St Dominic and Our Lady of Mt Carmel but havent heard back from either. im also not confident that they are actually welcoming.
curious if anyone has such luck. otherwise im stuck staying Episcopalian as a trans man in this area. thank you.
First, I recently discovered this community and it has been a blessing.
Lately I have found myself very angry (almost to the point of hate) at certain politicians based on their attacks on the LGBTQ community, their blasphemy and heresy. I’m quite aware I need to love my neighbor and pray for my enemies, which I’ve tried but honestly it’s been insincere.
I’m old, but never in my life have I had to confess ‘I hate someone’. I know I have to do, but I’m afraid of the reaction I will get. All the local parishes are pretty conservative.
Any suggestions or direction would be greatly appreciated. For now I’ll keep praying for them and myself.
Hi! I’m 20 years old from California. I’ve been open about my sexuality (gay) to my family and friends. I’m a strong believer in our Catholic faith. Still attend mass regularly and go to confessions fairly regularly (once a month or so). It’s difficult to have gay Catholic friends. Most of my friends who are gay don’t understand why I’m still Catholic or why I even go to church. I try to explain to them my reasonings, but they dismiss me, citing that you can’t be catholic and gay. So hopefully I’m able to make gay Catholic friends.
Hi everybody! I’ve been looking for more community that embraces the two most important parts of my identity. I am a transgender woman and lesbian who is also a Catholic. I do not see these things as contradictory; rather, they complement and reinforce one another in my eyes. My story:
I was raised in a very Catholic family. My grandfather was a Croatian immigrant to the United States and my father grew up with twelve brothers and sisters! We attended Mass regularly until I was in my early teens when my parents—frustrated with the politicization of life in our parish—stopped taking me and my sister. I received First Communion there, but was not Confirmed.
I turned back to the Church in college and was Confirmed at the local Newman Center. The Church remained important to me, but I was still troubled in my heart. Something wasn’t right, and it would take years before I figured out what is was.
When I realized that I was transgender it was for me not unlike the encounter on the road to Damascus was for Paul: swift, apocalyptic, and joyous. I began to feel comfortable with myself for the first time, and it deepened my relationship with God. I would never have made it this far without my faith and the support of the saints.
Now I am about to start a PhD program in Religion. I hope my work can play a small role in healing the rifts that sometimes separate the Church and the LGBTQ community.
Thank you for reading!
Hi everyone, I’m just hopping on here for a bit of advice. I’m gonna be going to college soon and I need to start considering where I’m going to end up, so I wanna find some LGTBQ safe Catholic colleges.
For context, my parents are both Catholic, but extremely homophobic and also have some other ideologies that I don’t support. Meanwhile I’m closeted trans (agender) and queer (questioning if pansexual or aroace). I want to double major in psychology and creative writing, with my dream to become a therapist while writing on the side (and hopefully publishing).
Unfortunately, where I go to college is partially up to my parents, and where they want me to go, which very specifically is gonna have to at least appear to fit their ideologies. Especially with my major, they’re being very picky about where I go so I can fit into their mold.
They know about Jesuit colleges so that option is off the table. They’re trying to push me to go to any college on something called the “Newman List”. I’m extremely sketched out by it and don’t want to go to a “traditional Catholic college”. I’ve already been to a traditional Catholic school once, and I hated it most of the time I was there.
They’re hesitant about me going to a public college as well. They haven’t said anything about it specifically, but I think it’s going to have to take a lot of convincing for them to allow me.
I don’t mind going to a Catholic college, I just want to be careful about what their ideologies are. If anyone has any advice, please let me know, thanks! ^^
Hi everyone, I just discovered this subreddit today and it feels like God Himself led me. Bear with me for this long post lol. I knew I've liked both boys and girls since I was about 9 years old. I am a cradle Catholic with very devout parents. I myself am a pretty devout Catholic. I go to mass, I became involved in the young adult community, I am an INVOLVED catholic. I've had a crush on a girl at my all girls Catholic high school, in college and so on. I've always been very aware of these feelings and have dismissed them for being "wrong."
Last summer in 2025 at work, I met a girl who I had/have a significant connection with. Feelings began to develop the more we became friends, and we both told each other we liked each other. I then pushed her away due to my faith, and told her even though I liked her we couldn't date. I then felt really sad about the decision, and prayed a lot to the Lord about it. I literally couldn't shake my feelings for this girl, and I felt God calling me to let myself like her. She is very supportive of my faith and we discuss it all the time. Cue the problems.
My parents and I are pretty progressively Catholic, and they've always been a huge part of how big my faith is. I fully thought they would respect my relationship and support me as I still live out my faith. While my mom was and still is, my dad is not. He tells me how wrong it is and can't even look my girlfriend in the EYE. He treats her like garbage and she isn't allowed in our house. I was SHOCKED. I've always looked up to my dad, and I love him. I don't understand why he feels this way. I always used to wish I could change myself, but this is who I am. I started questioning the Church and if my own father can't accept me, how can the Lord? Was I even supposed to be in the Catholic Church?
I became frankly very depressed and suicidal. I haven't gone to Church in two months or so, which is the longest I've ever been apart from him. I feel like I shouldn't go because of who I am. I've isolated myself from my YA community for fear of rejection. Despite this, my mom is my biggest supporter and defends me to my dad, and they argue a lot. Their marriage, which I've always looked up to, has been shaken because of this. Because of ME. I feel guilty, I feel ashamed, and I feel lost. I've been praying to God and asking Him what I'm supposed to do. My dad told me recently that he would get over it, but he would never accept that part of me, and to him it will always be wrong. I've brought to his attention how he is making me feel, and he cries every time. I have cried. But his heart is unchanging.
I could use resources, friends, support, ANYTHING during this time in my life. This is the most lost I have ever felt. I am rethinking my whole relationship with my dad. I don't want to abandon my faith. I know the Lord is real and so is the Eucharist. Like I said, finding this subreddit felt like He is listening to me. I'm asking for help and advice PLEASE. Thank you so much!!!!
Hello everyone! Blessed Sunday to you all! 🥰 I’m going to try to keep this short so I don’t waste anyone’s time 🥹 do any of you use any good prayer/bible apps as LGBTQ+ practicing Catholics (Hallow is obviously a no-go) that you really like for iOS? Something with audio through the year daily Bible readings, the rosary, etc? I’m struggling and don’t want to give any money to Ascension or Hallow personally, given they’re very obviously traditional and expensive to boot. 🥲 thank you for your help!
> My sexuality isn’t a perversion, disorder, or cross; it’s a gift from God. I have a happy, healthy marriage and am flourishing as an openly gay Catholic. It’s taken years of prayer, therapy, and affirming community to get here, but I thank God for my sexuality and station in life. If I could choose to be gay, I would, because it’s a powerful and beautiful way of reflecting God’s image in the world. Being a gay man makes me more empathetic, caring, passionate about justice, and creative. Of course, I have my faults, insecurities, and sin, too, but these are unrelated to my sexual orientation.
Yes or no is fine...you don’t need to explain if you are or aren’t.
I’ve (f27) just been feeling like I need to go a bit deeper into this and probably speak with a priest, because it’s been weighing on me lately. I’m a hearty practicing Catholic who experiences SSA, and I’m trying to remain faithful to the Church’s teaching without trying to bend anything or look for loopholes. I don't know...it’s not that I’m trying to find a clear cut answer or a ‘right side’ to land on. Idk, I just feel like I’m carrying two realities in tension.
I think I’m just feeling a bit conflicted and trying to understand where people are coming from because I know what I know and have made peace with it. I’ll likely bring it up with a priest as well, but I wanted to ask here first. The Church is my home. I feel like I’m nothing without my faith and my Catholic roots...again, I just know what I know and I can't unlearn it. At the same time, I almost feel like I’m coming here looking for some kind of validation, even though another part of me feels like my mind has already made up its mind. I’m not trying to offend anyone, and if it comes off strong or defensive, I’m aware that might be how it reads...I'll make an appointment with my Parish Priest.
God bless you all
I apologize if the title is a little confusing, I'm not sure how else to phrase how I feel. In short, I've sort of been drawn to Catholicism and the "idea" of God since I was very little. But every time I find myself giving credence to the idea that there may be a God, the "rational" or skeptical part of my brain immediately shuts it down.
For some background, my parents were both loosely Christian but I'd describe my upbringing as more agnostic than anything. However, I did attend a variety of different Christian private schools (I had familial issues that caused my parents to seek alternative education) and eventually ended up at a Catholic Boarding school for a year. It was here that I felt I could actually intellectually interact with the "concept" or "idea" of God in a way that didn't seem accessible via protestantism.
The trouble I'm running into can be summed up in this verse:
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight"
I cannot for the life of me get over this intellectual part of myself and truly believe this. Part of me also feels completely unworthy due to my sexuality, which is why I wanted to reach out here for help. Has anyone else dealt with this? Are there any resources or passages you suggest I study for help? I'm sorry if this all seems convoluted, I'm really going through it at the moment.
I was heavily involved in several music ministries in high school and in college. I LOVED being a part of those ministries. As I came to terms with my own sexuality and accepted it, I started to feel uncomfortable, but stayed put for a while. At one point, my home parish got a new music director. He was extremely talented, but not the most pleasant to work with. A woman in our choir ended up accusing him of sexual harassment. She tried to get me to claim to the diocese that he sexually harassed me too--which he hadn't. At all. That was the first straw. She ended up letting it go and then moving on to attacking him because she found out he was actually openly gay. Then the gossip and chatter started dispersing about how we had a gay music director. That triggered something in me which turned me away from the Church for a while and led to me exploring other denominations. I still sing for Mass very occasionally if a family asks me to sing for a wedding or funeral, but I've recently felt called to return to join a music ministry again.
Fast forward several years from when first left music ministries and I'm the one who is now in an openly gay relationship. Part of me says to just go for it. I'm not particularly interested in how a bunch of church gossipers feel about my situation. But another part of me is reminded of the wholly unwelcoming place the RCC can be at times. Make the wrong person feel uncomfortable and you could easily be ousted from a position such as cantor.
What do you think?
Hi um im 15 and trans ftm, ive been an atheist for a while. Im in a homophobic Christan household. I really do wanna try to reconnect my faith with god with Catholicism, but I really dont know where to start and my moms really bringing me down saying its useless because im "Trans" and going to church is only for people trying to fix sin. i mostly just need advice and guidance, thank you! ^_^
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I decided back in March that I wanted to convert to Catholicism from Anglicanism and am readily looking forward to OCIA in October but I am experiencing some skepticism and conflict (as I'm sure all converts do) around some of the sacraments, particularly the sacrament of marriage for the following reasons; for the past two or three years I have identified as vaguely asexual and not possessing any intrinsic desire for intimacy, and as a result have not had a particular inclination towards having children. However, the vocation of marriage is still quite appealing to me. Now, this seems to pose a challenge for a Catholic marriage since it seems like Catholic couples and women specifically are meant to both posess and act upon the desire to conceive and rear children. I have been told by both Catholics and Protestants who I've brought this up with that a chaste marriage isn't in full fulfillment of God's design and that if I'm not willing to pay the 'marital debt' I shouldn’t get married and don’t ‘deserve’ to get married. Although I understand this in a doctrinal sense, Josephitet feel right to me. As I see it from here, there’s basically two options: get marit itand participate anyways in said conjugal acts, or surrender the desire for marriage and dedicate my life to celibacy. While I have no major objection to either, something about it doesn’t sit well. I understand that the Church also acknowledges a Josephite Marriage as a valid form of matrimony but when I’ve asked other Catholics about it it seems to be frowned upon. I am starting to lose hope because I am afraid of being unfit for marriage because I don't have a natural desire for intimacy and don't want to disappoint a potential future partner
I see a lot of LGBT people say that they struggle with reconciling their sexuality with the Church's teachings. I am openly gay. I am aware of the Church's teachings, but I do not necessarily feel those same struggles; at least not to the extent that others seem to. People will call me a liberal, cafeteria Catholic. If I posted this on the Catholicism sub people would have their pitchforks out, ready to make a human chain blocking me from receiving Communion. Of course, sin can exist within sexuality, but I do not believe that totally suppressing sexuality is healthy for anyone, no matter their situation. Life is rarely black and white. Nuance exists.
I have never once heard a sermon about sexuality. I've only ever heard the culture war rhetoric online. I'm not particularly interested in how my fellow parishioners feel about my situation. As far as I'm concerned, if some holier-than-thou, far-right zealots want to get on their high horse and judge other people, let them. It makes no difference what they think at the end of the day.
Do you feel conflicted by the Church's teachings and/or attitudes that you've encountered within the Church?
I hope this topic is okay.
The fact is I am Eastern Orthodox and gay, and being one is probably in some ways more difficult than being Catholic and gay. (though that's only my own impression)
But I think we probably share the same difficulties of finding likeminded faithful gay people to date.
Up to this point, I have never focused solely on whether someone is a Christian or not when choosing to date, since being a sexual minority is already its own struggle; but considering how many people in gay dating are also extremely commitment-averse, I am starting to wonder if finding someone who is faithful to God might be a better idea if I want a committed, non-transactional relationship.
If anyone has any advice or stories from personal experience to share to help me, a struggling Christian desiring a relationship built on love, please share them!
Thank you.