r/GenZ

My Gen X parents think that having a bachelor's degree and a master's degree will set you up for life. I mean, I don't regret pursuing an education but my god is the job market brutal.

they're running off a 80's and 90's mindsets

Hey guys, I am a 28 year old guy who has never gone on a date and has no experience with women. Now as a guy, I know and am totally fine with being expected to put in all the effort into dating and getting to know women. But is it normal to have never gotten any interest, or even signs from women at all? Like never?

Even a few of my friends who are also somewhat inexperienced, they have at least had women try to flirt with them, match with them on apps, show interest in them or anything like that. I dont know what thats like.

Now I am not a bad guy, I think I am a really solid catch. I have a job I love, a good head on my shoulders, am in good shape, social with good friends, and cool hobbies. But I guess thats not enough to attract interest.

I have asked my girl friends from time to time if they know anyone who might be interested, had a crush on me at one point, or knew of any girl who though I was cute. And nothing. How normal is that? It seems like most other guys have at least had a girl like them, but I havent.

What gives? Is this common for guys? What am I lacking or missing that other guys have?

*Disclaimer this is just the worst I've seen and most extremes I've seen. Not everyone, but a pattern I've noticed*

You have these weird ass men who don't grow up past 13 in terms of house chores or self efficacy because their mothers worship them. They expect a maid and have the emotional intelligence of a gold fish. They don't have any motivation at all to accomplish anything and have such heavy nonchalant to them.

Then you have entitled women who don't have any concept of themselves. They think having a vagina is a good enough standard and expect you to chase endlessly. I still can't get over hearing my friend rant how much better she was than a guy who was 5 foot 7 because he's short while she is hardly able to walk from being so morbidly obese.

I'm just tired of it. I feel like everyone has a complaint what the other should be doing while absolutely not reflecting on themselves and how they come off.

I used to think my attention span was getting worse, but I’m starting to think it just shifted instead of disappeared.

I can’t sit through a movie without checking my phone, but I can spend two hours deep in random videos without even noticing time pass. I struggle to focus on one thing, but somehow I can bounce between five things and stay mentally engaged the whole time.

The other night I was playing on my phone and ended up going from one video to another to a comment thread to looking something up, and suddenly it was way later than I expected. I wasn’t bored at all, just constantly switching. It makes me wonder if it’s not that we can’t focus, it’s that we’ve trained ourselves to prefer constant input instead of sustained attention.

I don’t even know if that’s good or bad, but it definitely feels different from how things used to be. Does anyone else feel like their brain didn’t get worse at focusing, it just got used to a different kind of focus?

this is gonna sound stupid but I'm in like 13 discord servers and a bunch of group chats and I talk to people every day. but nobody actually KNOWS me. like nobody in any of these spaces could tell you what I'm going through right now or what I'm actually interested in beyond surface-level stuff.

I'm 19, been in NYC for a year, and I keep joining these big online communities thinking I'll find my people but it's always the same. to many people on the server, conversations move too fast, nobody even remembers your name. I'll post something personal and it gets buried under 40 messages about something else.

I don't need more people to talk AT I need a small group of people who actually give a shit about what I'm saying is that too much to ask? anyone else dealing with this feeling or am i being weird?

I hate to be a downer but I’m so tired of people (cough cough.. boomers) telling me to “stop buying Starbucks” and “just work hard like I did”… I work 6 days a week, brew my own coffee, pack my lunch, my wife works part time. Now here I am, laying awake at 1:45am when I have no sleep to spare because all I can think about is my dream of owning my own home and not renting. Could I buy a house, yes, I’m pre approved and everything but how am I supposed to compete in this housing market.

I know it’s not healthy but misery loves company and my natural instinct is to assume the reason I can hardly afford a starter home is all my fault. I just figured if I knew I’m not the only one feeling overwhelmed it would help me sleep.

And maybe it is my fault and if so I hope you guys call me on it.

Cheers to staring down the rough road left for us zoomers to travel, we are going to be one tough generation when it’s all said and done.

I live in the US and It seems like every girl around my age (early/ mid 20s) has tattoos. It’s not a total deal breaker I just find them unattractive (no offense). I’d prefer someone without them but it seems like a needle in a haystack unless tattoos are just more common where I live?

I see it a lot less these days in public. Typically you see people handle themselves much more professionally. But I remember getting yelled at a lot in public by genx/boomers for really anything. Skateboarding, playing tennis too close to dark, being at the women’s aisle in Walmart (when it’s also the cold medicine aisle) smoking cigarettes at a smoke section outside a grocery store.

I’m not just talking about a Karen threatening or saying things, I remember people trying to intimidate us by yelling loudly a lot.

Curious how much Gen Z experiences this?

Changed my city a few days ago and am getting super bored. I am an introvert and making connections is already super tough lol. This sub is the only place where I have made some connections, but none of them are from my place. What would you do in my place?