r/FilipinoAmericans

Hi everyone! Wanted to share something i’ve been working on for the past ten days… I wrote an original story, posted a casting form, found my actors, choreographed dances to Yung Kai and Dabin, rehearsed four days straight, performed it Friday, and edited the whole week after. The show is called STARSCOUT and it is about an Asian American DJ who wakes up at 3AM to a UFO in his backyard and connects with the alien inside through dance before a galaxy patrol officer shows up and profiles the alien based on species stereotypes. I wrote that last part because I wanted to write something that puts culture on the forefront, especially since Asian Americans are still growing in the mainstream music industry. The show just went up on YouTube. I am really proud of it and I wanted to share it here because this community is the exact audience I made it for!

Hello! I’m a Texas high school senior graduating next month, and recently I’ve become interested in studying for my BSN in the Philippines. Right now, I’m still trying to figure out where to start besides emailing universities directly. I’m aware that I already missed the enrollment period for the 2026–2027 academic year, so I would most likely be applying for the 2027–28 school year instead.

I currently have family living in Manila, so schools in Manila would probably be the most realistic and cost-efficient option for me. So far, I’ve emailed schools like De La Salle University, University of Santo Tomas, Far Eastern University, and UP Diliman, but I’d like to know if there are other schools I should be looking into, especially ones that are more familiar with accepting international students from the U.S.

While waiting for the next enrollment period, I’m planning to take a few community college classes in Texas to save money and to stay on track academically in case studying in the Philippines does not work out for me. As far as I know, most Philippine universities usually do not accept transfer credits from U.S. colleges, so I understand that there’s a high chance those classes would mainly serve as a backup plan rather than transfer over.

I have a few questions and would appreciate any advice:

1: What schools should I realistically be considering for BSN programs as an international student?

2: What does the application process usually look like for U.S. students?

3: Will taking community college classes affect whether I apply as a freshman or transfer student?

4: Do most universities require an entrance exam, or can SAT scores sometimes replace them?

5: Is there anything important I should know about nursing school or student life in the Philippines before applying?

Any advice or personal experiences would really help, because I’m not sure where to start. Thank you so much

curious if you have even met one born and raised with the accents, I am wondering how they are doing there personally

Can I ask how can I find my sons family in California my sons father was died almost a ago and I’m struggling for my sons need specially he’s milk

I'm a mixed kid, half filipino half something else (my dad doesn't want to learn about his ancestry) so I feel like an alien without a home planet. I'm basically white. My parents are conservative MAGA fans, but even before Trump, I feel like their conservative nature led them to believe that assimilating into American culture meant cutting off linguistic ties to anything "foreign". I just learned that my older sibling was apparently struggling to learn English and my dad suggested that my mom shouldn't also teach him Tagalog. Then, this decision trickled down and affected me. However, I suspect that my dad was/is just a xenophobic guy who wanted us to appear as white as possible.

I'm supposed to go on a trip to the Philippines soon, and I already know I'll feel lonely and estranged from my own family. I can't understand anything they're saying :(

For anyone with a similar story, how do you cope? I'm kind of spiraling and nervous about the upcoming trip. My relatives will probably tease me for still not knowing any tagalog :( Will I ever grow out of this resentment that I feel?

Why do I have trouble understanding why Filipino people would send money back to pay for a condo? Is it common for 2 uncles and an aunt all to have condos in the same place and pressure you into one too that costs years and years to pay?? Doesn’t this type of thing lead to burn out???? Cause stress and pressure to work very hard for years? I feel like it’s coerced manipulation to ask someone to do this. If they feel shy to say no too! when an uncle will (mansplain) things like this to you.And you give in to the pressure and just pay for years. What’s the group’s experience with condos that sit unoccupied that you are paying for????? Does you family believe it’s their condo too???? Even if you slave long hours to pay for it and you are the only one whose name is on the property?

Hi! I need advices regarding my plan. I was born and raised in the Philippines and moved here in the U.S. when I was 12. My adjustment to the culture, people, and everything was really hard and long-process. I got so homesick but I bounced back from it. But now that I’m 16, I’ve grown to be getting used to it and appreciate what U.S has to offer. However, I’ve been having such a FOMO these past few months since I realized that highschool here is vastly different from the highschool in the PH in terms of how friendly the people are, the vibes, and the humor. Seeing my friends in the Philippines enjoying their teenage years a lot make me feel so behind and left out. My school life here isn’t so great. It’s just the same routine everyday. Wake up, go to school, sleep, and so on. I do have friends but they are mostly those superficial and surface-level, and I’m yearning to have a deep connection and also a real circle of friends. It’s taking such a huge emotional toll in my mental health and I’ve became so emotionally aware and drained with how my life would have been different if I was in the Philippines surrounded with so many uplifting and positive people. I just really want to heal myself, redeem my self-esteem and confidence overall by making a lot of real connections and friends and feel at home where I can be freely be myself, which I can’t seem to find here. I want to finish highschool there and study nursing there as well and come back here to work since I’m already a dual citizen so it would be faster than other non-US citizens. I want to continue my last 2 years of highschool in Cebu City (far from our hometown) since I feel like that would be where I can find what I really want but my mom wouldn’t allow me, saying I’m too young to be living in a city alone (we do have relatives there tho). That was really my first option. She gave me a second option which is to study to our province hometown, however, that doesn’t sit right to me since I want freedom and I don’t want it to be appearing such a downgrade. I want to listen to what my heart is telling me but my mom and aunts are advising me otherwise. I’m so stressed out in deciding what to do since I don’t think I can handle wasting my teenage life here and not having anyone in the future to lean on. I need advices please ASAP. Thank you.

Question guys, I have a friend. She and her son just arrived in New york to visit relatives there. Now they are planning to stay there for good as TNT. She also said that she already landed a job in a nursing home. Is their plan possible considering that she brought her child with her? How is her child going to study there if they are only on tourist visa status? Her child is male, around 13–16 years old.

Can anyone give me some clarification?

Bisaya word of the day: Karne (meat)

Just realized half the food words my Lola uses are Spanish loanwords I never recognized growing up. Karne. Bistek. Adobo. Mantikilya. Gulay (okay that one's Tagalog).

What's a Bisaya word you only recently realized was Spanish?

src: https://www.talkbisaya.com/word-of-the-day

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Yesterday was my 34th birthday. This morning, I had a small interaction with my little cousin that affected me more than it probably should have, and I think it revealed how emotionally exhausted I’ve become living in a multigenerational household.

He was trying on new glasses in front of the mirror. I complimented him and said they looked cool. He responded by telling me which relative bought them for him. I lightly joked that usually when someone gives you a compliment, you say thank you. A few seconds later he shut the door in my face.

I took it personally.

I reacted emotionally and told him it was rude. I sarcastically said I’d do it back next time. Later I realized I wasn’t really upset about a door.

I think I’m carrying a much deeper feeling of emotional invisibility.

Ironically, coworkers who barely know me acknowledged my birthday more warmly than my own household did. That contrast hurt more than I expected. It made me realize how long I’ve been functioning more as a helper, provider, support person, and emotional regulator than someone who feels emotionally prioritized or cared for himself.

I live in a Filipino multigenerational household, work in a caregiving-heavy field, contribute financially, help with childcare, and spend a lot of emotional energy trying to keep peace and stay available for others. Somewhere along the way I think I started becoming emotionally burned out without fully admitting it to myself.

The part I’m trying to give myself credit for is that I didn’t fully escalate. I walked away, sat outside, reflected, and tried to regulate myself instead of continuing the interaction while angry.

Still, I feel hurt and ridiculous by how deeply such a small moment affected me.

I think underneath all of this is loneliness, burnout, grief, and honestly a desire for a life that feels emotionally reciprocal like my own partner, my own family unit, or even just feeling genuinely seen inside my own home.

hi everyone.

im daughter caregiver of my mom with vascular dementia and need support from the filipino caregiver community. i am part of caregiver community that is not only filipino and they dont understand i cant just put my mom in a home. they also dont undersatnd that my dad expects me to be the caregiver and that its difficult for me to do it alone. i have two sisters but he does not expect it of them but of me and only me because i am the dutiful daughter that had volunteered and now i am the designated one whome everything is expected of me.

i am desperate for help from other filipino caregivers and would like to know if there is a dedicated sub or interest in forming one.

note i am not looking for services just community to share struggles and how theyre shaped by our culture. my dad doesn't talk a lot and doesn't express emotions well, he and his family grew up poor but i think this made it difficult to ask for help. i am trying to understand how to navigate beyond this pride to get him to accept we need help-- not just for my mom but for him, my family, and myself.

there was a post about other family members not feeling a sense of utang na loob or kusang loob and i just am so lost because we cant control others but just a building resentment why its just me. it's really tough doing alone but i know im not the only one ...

So mother's day is getting close, and this is the first time I'm planning something for my nanay by myself since my father had to take an emergency trip to his mother due to health concerns.

I want to write a small letter to ma from me and my siblings in Ilonggo since ma grew up with it, I may also do it in calligraphy if I have enough time between now and sunday. The letter will be placed in a bouquet of carnations along with other gifts we pick out for her.

"Mama,
thank you for all the years of caring for us even when we were too much to handle. I know that it was hard in the beginning when Xavier, Ava, and I were younger, but now that we're older we want to make you feel as cherished and loved as you made us.

With love for eternity,"

(Also I plan on making arroz caldo as a surprise so I may post an update on monday with pictures)

I just started one actually, wonder if you guys have your own ways of finding people like us. Whatever your answer is, lmk in the comments!