r/Explainlikeimscared

I really want to get my ears pierced (just regular lobe ones), but I have vasovagal syncope with very sensitive medical/needle triggers. Even just hearing people talk about needles can make my blood pressure drop.

All the advice I see online talks about it being ‘barely any pain’, but the pain isn’t the issue for me, I just know I’m going to pass out at seeing/feeling the needle.

Has anyone got any advice, or maybe even dealt with this themselves? I’d appreciate any kind of info.

Hi, I don't have my license yet but I want to go places. I know I'm supposed to go where the bus stops are, but how do I know when the bus is supposed to get to me? Also, how do I stop at my exact location and do I pay with cash to get on? This is my first time ever wanting to use the bus.

Im 18 and have an issue i keep inhaling dry snot into my throat until it goes wich isnt healthy and i also am constipated and bloated as of feb 19th. I used to drink 1l daily 500ml in 2 decent meals and was 55kg 5ft8 but am at 1.5ml in 2 small meals with 500 as i drink then 250 ish after 30 minutes of gum chewing and am currently 40kg . I struggle to drink throughout the day as its overwhelming and scary and i like having free time to lay in bed on my phone and also pace and i like gum and i have chewing issues and globus swallowing fears and sore throat in general and sticky mouth sometimes, my pee is very clear btw since i do drink alot in the sittings just not throughout. Can someone give me advice how to drink the water throughout but wirhout overhwleming me too fast schedule wise and also bare in mind thr only exercise im capable of is just walking to the local shops and also be able to still fit time in the day to relax without thinking about water or throat or gut.

You can see my post i also clearly have bad issues happeneing alot as of feb 19th. I felt perfectly healthy before despite not doing things right

Im trying to do some reading on them but I am frankly so terrified which is why I’m trying to get over this fear and trying to learn in the first place. I guess this could go for any other phobia-would it really just have to be exposure?

My PC is old. Potato status even. I want to say nearly 10 years at this point?

I did however put in a new SSD a few years back. Though that was with the help of a friends friend who likes Computer parts (and he kept looking down on me for not knowing more, but he did that to everyone all the time).

My knowledge is minimal, and I don't know all the terms. Most guides already presume some understanding, for which I have none.

If I can't do much now (prices be wack), I would at least like to know how to check my specs and what parts are in a PC and probably what I should focus on upgrading first.

I don't currently have a driver's license and my state ID is not a Real ID (long story, my mother is holding my birth certificate hostage). I don't have time to get a Real ID, the nearest train station is 3 hours away, and money is very tight. I need to get across the country. The only option I think is left is taking a bus, but I've never done this before and I have a lot of anxiety surrounding unfamiliar forms of transportation. Could someone please walk me through all of the steps, in detail? How do I get a ticket? Do I need to print it or is digital okay? How much luggage can I bring, does it cost extra? What should I expect? I know that a lot of this information is available online but I am very overwhelmed and would appreciate having it spelled out like I'm five. (I did try posting in ELI5 but was directed here by one of the only kind responses.)

Im going to have a knee surgery in two days, but im just really scared. Its not a dangerous surgery, but it should apparently last for like 1-2 hours, and that seems like alot. The thing im most scared of is the anesthesia. It might sound a bit stupid, but im just scared that i wont wake up, that ill.. yknow. The fact that i also horribly overthink everything doesnt help either. Im young, im healthy, i dont have any issues, addictions, etc. but even knowing this doesnt help me at all. Does anyone also have any experience with this? How do i stop being so damn scared?

I've been trying to get out of an ai addition for a while now, and always finding myself going back because I struggle to write down the fan stories I have in my head due to my ADHD making me bored or get really tired of writing things. I have heard about roleplay before but never tried it due to worrying about groomers/doxers etc. Can you guys please guide me on how to join a roleplay site or something for social anxious autistics like me into trying out cool story focus, non sexual, roleplays?

Title. I have never had to break a lease before and I'm scared that it will make it impossible to find another place. I have some previous (good) rental history with roommates, but this is the only lease in which I have been the sole tenant. Will that matter when I apply somewhere else? Will I even be able to? My credit is decent, but I do not make very much income.

It seems to be a pattern of people not having parents that showed them how to be normal and unfortunately for you guys, i am one of them.

School was awful because of unattended learning disabilities and i couldnt wait to get out of it. By the end of highschool i just didnt care at all and had no plan for my future. I was stuck in intensive reading since 8th grade and even though i passed the class, i could never pass the computerized test at the end of the year.
They gave me the opportunity to do summer school to get my credits up and received what i like to call it, a “try again” diploma. Basically 90% done for the credits but i just need that reading test.

I remember my counselor telling me to contact her once i was ready to retake the test, however do i still contact my highschool almost a decade later?
Ive dealt with a little anxiety about starting school or getting my real diploma but i think the real issue is that i literally dont know where to go and i cant imagine anyone being able to help me??

I also dont live in the same state anymore so i dont know if that also hinders me 😭

I want to get a quote for extending a very thick stainless steel chain necklace. I am not willing to pay much more than $50-100 at most. I don't know if there are places in my city that would even work on jewelry that is not made from precious metals. How do I identify a jeweler who would work on this and get a quote? Can I walk away if the quote is not in my budget?

Hi everyone. Feeling a bit silly but I've been booked onto a several hour hour flight with Virgin Australia in the next few days. It was booked through work corporate travel partner so could not see/select seating until close to the date of flying (I had preferences but maybe it was too full). Now, the only seats available are middle seats between two strangers and I feel incredibly sick and worried about it - I am very socially anxious, the seats are very, very close.

I guess my question is: is it inappropriate to call the airline and say I've got really bad anxiety (couldn't get documentation in time if needed)/adhd stimming and wondering if there is any way to get another seat? Is that frowned upon/not worth doing? Is there another process to follow?

Or do I not mention anything medical and just ask to be notified if any become available? I don't want to seem entitled or overreacting but I also want to explain the reason.

Checked the business class and other upgrades and nothing at all in my price range.

(I know it might seem like a big overreaction. I will take whatever steps to manage if I can't do anything about this, just really want to know if I can do anything to increase changes to not have to deal with it)

Edit: Thank you for everyone who has taken the time to reply so far. I am hoping I will feel more grounded in the morning: lot of new environment and other factors maybe amplifying this for me. I am typically pretty good at handling my anxiety these days (or I wouldn't have agreed to fly for work), so this really caught me off guard at how visceral my body's instant panic is/was. I will see if I can speak to someone calmly and if I can't do anything, will definitely remember the tips for being as comfortable as possible. ❤️

Autistic adult living alone (with my cat) for the first time in a studio apartment. I’m used to cleaning my room and bathroom back at home, but now that I’m on my own, there is so much more. I have a whole kitchen, laundry area, and office space to take care of. I get kind of paranoid about how clean my space is compared to others. Can someone give me a brief run down of how often I’m meant to clean these spaces? Eg is vacuuming once a day too much? How often do I deep clean an oven or wash out garbage bins? Do I need to clean the cover to my sofa?

Thanks

I have to get my blood work done (this time it’s a “no backing out” kind of situation) but I’m not afraid of the needle, it’s the veins. The concept of something going into a vein, feeling it, seeing it, it makes me gag and squirm and have crazy anxiety that makes me laugh or cry lol.

What do I do? I know it’s quick, but the reaction is so visceral and uncontrollable I’m so worried I’m squirm and break the needle or something horrifying

I accidentally threw away a brand new pack of birth control. My doctor’s office sent a refill request to the pharmacy today but they said most likely my insurance won’t want to pay since it’s a month early for the refill. The RN said then I’ll have to go to the pharmacy and explain the situation.

Do I just go to the pharmacist and tell them I want to pay out of pocket? Will they even fill the request without the green light from my insurance? Normally I get a text from CVS when my prescription is being prepared/is ready and I haven’t gotten that yet. I honestly don’t want to get into a whole back and forth with my insurance so I just want to know the simplest way to get what I need.

UPDATE: Thanks everyone, you were right and it was very simple. The pharmacy hadn’t filled the scrip because of insurance, but they did once I said I’d pay OOP. They automatically placed a coupon on it and I spent $30.

Hey, so I'm applying to jobs online. People say call/visit to show you're interested, but I'm not sure what I'd say. Some typical conversation starters for this situation would be soooo helpful! I'm afraid of sounding arrogant/expectant rather than motivated

Hello! I am struggling to get outside a lot unless it is 100% necessary and recently realised that it harms my mental health. So I came to a solution to find some extra courses to which I could go to and maybe learn some new things to do.

I mainly have two problems: I am unsure of what I want to do, despite having a list and wanting to do a lot of things. In a sense that I don't really know where to start from.
And second is the problem with anxiety to contact them, it's like I hit a block or something, really frustrating (I guess it is because I fear I won't like the activity that much and then have to deal with anxiety of saying "hey I actually don't like it, goodbye").

So my main questions are: how do I choose? What should I say to enroll? What information (for example, do I need to ask something besides payment, available slots, etc?) do I need to ask? How should I act on the first session?

I wonder if any of you guys had this issue, it sounds a bit embarrassing to me but I really want to fix it.

Update: Thanks a lot for the answers! Truly appreciate the help🫂

i applied for a job at my mall a bit ago and i haven't heard anything back. last time i did something like this my mum went to the place i applied at and when she asked they called me back and i got that position.

i don't know what to say or even what to do or expect when it comes to stuff like that though but i want to ask about it i just don't know where to start.

I have a job interview coming up, and I lack my usual ride. I've never taken an Uber before; usually I just take the bus. But spending an hour navigating various routes is stress-inducing in its own way. I'm visually impaired, autistic, have severe anxiety, and I keep thinking I'm just going to open some random car's door because I think it's the Uber. I have no idea how tips work, how to actually order an Uber, how to make sure I get to the right place. How do y'all actually do this stuff?

I am moving this weekend.

The last time I moved, I just had my friends help. We got the job done because my friends are very strong but I said I wanted movers to help next time.

My plan would be to hire a few people to help my friends and me load up a UHaul. Everything is already packed and in storage.

I have two storage units and wanted to rent a 15 foot Uhaul and basically make two trips. It’s less expensive and the 15 footer is easier to drive.

Do I hire people for a certain amount of hours? Will they stay as long as it takes? Will they help me both load and unload?