r/Borderline

Hallo Leute, ich war 3 Jahre mit meiner Ex Freundin zusammen welche Borderline hatte. Oft wurde mir in der Zeit gesagt, ich solle schnell das Weite suchen und laufen so lache ich noch kann..

Auch wenn die Beziehung am Ende auseinander gegangen ist, muss ich sagen das ich diese Zeit auf keinen Fall bereue. Ich würde sogar sagen, das ich in dieser Zeit am intensivsten geliebt habe und wurde.

Damit möchte ich eigentlich nur sagen: Scherrt nicht alle über einen Kamm und lernt die Personen erstmal kennen, bevor ihr vielleicht vorschnell Urteilt.

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Lately I’ve started drinking alone and it makes me feel better. I’m ashamed that I’m doing it. I know that I should just not do it. It makes me forget to binge eat. It makes me forget about myself for a bit. I don’t want to to it but I feel alone and like I have no one to turn to

Hello fellow introverts. This is not specifically about introversion, so I’m sorry if this isn’t the place to post it. Anyway…

I am a 29 y/o female. I am self-employed, so with my job I only see clients a few times a week. I live alone in a black neighborhood and I am white, and the racism is crazy, so no neighborhood friends. I cut ties with my family long ago, no regrets there. I am in college but at the end of my degree and mostly take virtual or hybrid courses. Plus being 29 in undergrad courses, it’s mainly people way younger than me in my classes. I do not have any friend that I have had longer than a month or so. My entire life, I have had at most one or two friends, but usually none. This is because I have borderline personality disorder, and I have destroyed every close friendship I’ve had the luck of finding by lashing out on them in a rage. I also don’t put myself out there. At all. And I don’t mean to sound condescending, but I am attractive for a woman, and I am quite sure a lot of other women dismiss me because of this.

I have a boyfriend. And the one new friend, but like I said, just started texting, so feels more like an acquaintance. Other than that- I’m alone.

It seems like if you haven’t made any friends by a certain age, you don’t stand a chance. You have to have friends to make friends. Otherwise you’re an outcast. I just wanted to see if anyone feels similarly or has a different perspective to share.

so i’m together with my bf for 2 years almost, 1 year ago he broke up with me because he was hurting from the false promises i gave him and i kept arguing even when things were unprovoked and stuff .. but we came back together and after that we had some good moments, sure there’s some moments where i get very sad and insecure and i overthink a lot and i do lash out on him.. i just don’t know how to stop this. it feels like when i overthink he is not doing enough and i’m alone sitting there and have to deal with it alone .. i also don’t wanna always be comforted by him it’s also exhausting for him. we do argue like every 2-3 weeks bcs i start something and then the cycle begins again.. we argue for days sometimes too. he wants revenge he says after i hurt him bcs he says he doesn’t know how to make me believe that i am hurting him and that the arguments are unprovoked happening.. and then i get hurt again bcs he wants to take revenge and so on.. and it gets very disgusting.

1 week we had an argument the whole week .. i went home, came back to him after 3 days but the day before we were okay and he said “don’t go” and i’ll miss you and such .. i’m here now at his place and yesterday we also argued bcs on saturday he asked me if i can meet his friend and i was not that happy bcs he knows i get very uncomfortable and i did meet some of his friends before but this time i didnt want to .. and i said to him “yes” on chat and on the train when i went to him i said to him i don’t wanna meet his friend .. he said to me it’s like a betrayal because i said to him before i do wanna meet him. then we argued again and he said im a liar .. and that whenever he wants something i say no. .. it’s not even true. he said to me i should’ve told him before that i dont wanna meet him.. this morning we woke up and he was hugging me not that whole entirely like he usually does but he did hug me .. and then we woke up and he said to me that he has something inside of him that he wants to do today to get revenge because he’s angry of me not always keeping my promises .. and still arguing. and that ticked me off bcs .. he said he wants to move on but wants revenge ?? and now we’ve argued again.. and he went to work and he said he will come home and i should not ask him anything and he said i can touch and cuddle him .. i just don’t know why can’t i change .. i’m trying. it feels like i’m slowly slowly loosing him.

Hey, ich bin Niki, 19 Jahre alt und würde vor kurzem mit BPS diagnostiziert.
Ich bin zurzeit in eine psychiatrische Klinik und nächste Woche werde ich entlassen.
Die Ärzte haben mir für ADHS elvanse verschrieben und für BPS Venlafaxin.
Elvanse funktioniert supi, habe damit keine Probleme….aber mit Venlafaxin schon, es hat mega viele Nebenwirkungen und ich bin mit dem Medikament einfach richtig unzufrieden und möchte was neues ausprobieren, weiß aber noch nicht was,
deswegen wollte ich euch fragen, welches Medikament hilft euch am besten und wieso?

Czy ktoś z Was doświadczał może takich symptomów? Moja bliska koleżanka jest osobą bardzo spokojną i ułożoną, inteligentną i pracowitą kobietą. Tak jest postrzegana przeze mnie i środowisko pracy. Jest pomocna i bezkonfliktowa. Któregoś razu przyznała mi się, że ona ma w sobie dużo złości i nienawiści do innych i do siebie, ale to wszystko tłumi i nikt tego nie widzi. Ma w sobie dwie części tę zdrową i odpowiedzialną i tą autodestrukcyjną, która nienawidzi jej i ją sabotuje. Ta część uwielbia ryzykowny seks, jazdę autem, silne emocje, adrenalinę bo bez nich boi się, że umrze. Do życia potrzebuje właśnie silnych emocji. jak jest spokój to pojawia się lęk że zaraz coś złego się stanie i pojawiają się myśli paranoiczne. Ma ogromne problemy z pamięcią i nie potrafi skupić się nawet na czytanym tekście. Czyta i nie rozumie, nie zapamiętuje. Ta autodestrukcyjna część zabiera jej wiele energii, choć nie widać tego na zewnątrz, bo wszystko maskuje. Ma też bulimię i zrobione testy na BPD, ale nie wyszło nic bo nie przyznała się do tej autodestrukcyjnej części. Czy ktoś z Was ma podobne doświadczenia?