It a weird one. But why do older dicks look a bit odd almost deformed. When does the look of dick start changing and is there anything that can be done to avoid it ?
I hope it’s okay that I’m asking this here, as I want to be respectful of your space.
I’m a cisgender woman in her early 40s. Over the last couple of months, I’ve been teaching myself how to stand to pee. No need to pull down my pants. I stand straight, aim, and control flow. I typically get a distance of about 2-3ft, with the max I’ve ever reached being 5ft (very full bladder and perfect angle). Aim has been easier to control than I would’ve imagined I could, I’ve even hit a moving target.
I struggle to get a clean finish. That’s the last hurdle for me before I’d feel confident using this skill anywhere, anytime (not gonna lie… I hope to try a urinal someday, just to see how it feels). My stream starts tapering toward the end as pressure drops, and I can’t seem to get the last of it to project. Completely unnoticeable if I’m in a skirt and outdoors, but if I’m wearing pants I can feel dampness. How do you keep the stream from tapering? How do you keep the last bit of it projecting outward?
Also, totally a side note, but feel free to ask me anything about doing this as a woman. I’m an open book.
More and more since I hit my late 30s and especially after turning 40, I'm finding that this spark of motivation I had in my 20s to chase after that next shiny thing, whether it was a bonus at work or over some cute girl I'd just met, it just isn't there for me anymore. I'm careerwise on a somewhat stable path, nothing too crazy. Not so long ago, I was used to knowing what I needed to do next and I guess that's how I convinced myself I'd become even happier and more fulfilled back then. I realized late in life kids and marriage really weren't going to be for me, so that door closed. And especially late at night, I have these moments where I'm left wondering "What're we doing here, Silent? What's the next endgame? Is this it?!"
So I guess my question is, what do men in their 40s with no kids do to resolve that question and maintain a life that's still continually fun and somewhat meaningful?
You’re not horny or otherwise aroused, but just feel like you need to unload?
Curious if this is a common issue among guys. I’m 45, and sometimes, I just feel the need to unload. Not even that interested in the process (masturbation or sex). Anybody else feel like this sometimes? Any ideas as to why this happens? Do you usually make yourself ejaculate to alleviate the feeling?
I'm in my late 40s and I’ve been struggling a bit in the bedroom. My erections aren’t as strong and it’s affecting my confidence. I’m looking into natural erection training but I feel a little embarrassed even posting this.
Has anyone tried things that actually worked? Exercises, techniques, anything that helped you get results without pills? Even small improvements count because I just want to feel confident again.
I [46M] was an active teenager, played loads of sports, joined the Navy at 20 and spent most of my 20s either in the military or as a carpenter, so was always in decent physical shape. With marriage and kids and busy work life, I recognised in my mid 30s that I had let myself slip a little and got into running. I’d say I was in the best physical health in my late 30s, was completing half marathons and one full marathon as well as eating well and cut way down on alcohol.
Since I turned 40/41 I’ve noticed it takes a very long time to get back into shape. I’ve always put on winter weight, and around March to April started to diet and exercise, by June-ish I’m feeling pretty good. However, the last 2-3 years it feels like it takes longer and longer to lose even a small amount of weight.
Was anyone else similar?
My husband is turning 40 soon. I’ve got him his main gift which is something he’s been wanting but want to get him some gifts from the kids and some other people have been asking me for gift ideas but, tbh, he doesn’t really like “stuff” and clutter so I’m a bit at a loss so…what was the nicest gift you got for your 40th?
So I do my best to exercise with weights regularly on my lunch breaks. I usually am able to get in 40 minutes of work and I get to do it 3 or 4 times a week.
It isn't a lot of work and I don't do heavy weight but I'm just doing consistent work to keep the muscles active and strong.
I try to run once a week and at age 42 am still trying to play basketball once a week socially in rec comp - that maybe I still take a little too competitively.
Currently I'm having a big problem with my lower back, it's the second time in a year that it has flared up on me. I'm having no trouble twisting or turning but when trying to get in and out of a seated position I'm getting bad spasms. I didn't feel any twinges or specific pain, it was just a day after playing basketball this week my back started to get tight and then just seized up more and more as the day progressed.
I've spent over 20 years doing office work which I know has meant I have terrible hips but I need to figure out how to change up my exercises to better target the strength and resilience of my back.
It’s been a pretty gradual shift over time rather than anything sudden. Nothing is broken, everything still works, but the overall firmness and consistency just doesn’t feel the same as it used to. Not sure if this is just normal aging or if there are actually things that can help improve it again.
For those who have dealt with this:
Just trying to understand what others have gone through with this.
Is complete alcohol intolerance normal?
46M.
I've never been a massive drinker but went through the binge phase in my twenties and early 30s. Always had hangovers after a heavy night but after some food and a bit of fresh air I'd normally be fine.
I don't drink regularly now but end up in a social situation where alcohol is involved or just go to the pub for something to do.
On Friday I had 3 bottles of lager over the course of 2 hours, I didn't feel drunk in the slightest but my sleep was terrible and I felt groggy all the next day. I also felt a bit nauseous until lunchtime.
While my friends my age also can't party as hard they did they can have 3 or 4 pints on a week night and go to work the next day no problem. The older generations of my family still drink heavily way into their 70s
Could my complete lack of alcohol tolerance indicate a medical issue or am I just old?
Pretty much the OP.
Single, no kids, never married.
I just switched jobs after 3 years of a "toxic" situation to a whole new place. Being somewhat of a recluse not sure what's best for me.
I used to be a musician but that got sidelined in the quest to try to reshape my career prospects (tech). Bass/ Sax.
I tried to get into 3d printing lately but I'm apprehensive, to put it lightly. I just feel like all my hobbies are useless/ nonprogressive but idk I like watching craft videos and thought some of it might loop back to music.
"I'm not sick but I'm not well" is the way to put things; trying to boil off my stress silently without giving too much indication of what happened with the old scene. Trying to lose weight but love the same foods I did when I'm younger. 6'1 and trying to figure out what's both low impact and effective for me.
I have undiagnosed/ updated "autism spectrum disorder" but still wrestling with if it'll mean anything if I get diagnosed other than more paper.
In the last 1-2 years my eyesight has gotten overall more shitty, to the point I have to bring the phone etc up to my eyes (like 3 inches) to see things clearer.
I'm not really going for a play for sympathy but I just feel like the physical changes in my 40s are mixing with conflict of personality/ drive where I used to look towards gaming/ playing music and you reach a point where whatever it is, isn't "cool" anymore. I get done with my shift and I'm just ready to mentally clock out.
Anyone go through a similar patch or am I just showing my proverbial hand of cards?
I’ve been working hard on not being defensive when my wife brings up chores, but man, sometimes my face reacts before my brain does. She caught me 'eye-rolling' yesterday even though I didn't think I did it.
How do you guys handle that split-second physical reaction when you're frustrated so you don't accidentally start a fight over nothing?
I have a “white picket fence” life. A wife, 2 healthy kids, a respectable job, a house in a safe neighborhood. Why am I so glum?
I’m making more than I ever have but struggling.
I dipped into my retirement to keep the house out of foreclosure.
My credit was in a free-fall
I’m in a marriage that is hard due to her past indiscretions.
I’m working all the time but yet I always feel like I’m letting everyone down.
I think for me it’s knowing my dad died at this age from chemical explore leading to sever heath problems.
Does it get better?
My kids make a lot of “art projects” and like to give them to me for my birthdays / Father’s Day. Some things I really cherish and plan to hold onto forever. Other things I never really care for, other than the fact that my kid made the item for me.
I want to hear from dads of older, grown up children. What did you hold onto from your children’s younger years? Did you save too much? Did you ever regret tossing something?
I’m 46 and for the longest time I assumed stress was the answer to everything I was feeling.
Busy job, bills, kids, not enough downtime , it made sense. So when I started feeling tired all the time, less patient, mentally foggy, and generally worn down, I just told myself that’s what stress looks like in your 40s.
But the weird part is even during calmer weeks, I still felt off. I’d get a full night of sleep and wake up tired. I’d have a lighter week at work and still feel drained. Even vacations didn’t seem to reset me the way they used to.
I also noticed lower motivation to train and a pretty clear drop in libido, which I kept brushing aside because it felt awkward to admit.
My wife finally said, Maybe it’s not just stress, and that stuck with me. I booked bloodwork after that.
Now I’m reading more about testosterone and trying to understand how common it is for men to misread symptoms for years. Some guys say they wish they checked sooner, others say stress and sleep were the real issue.
I’m trying to stay realistic and not jump to conclusions.
Did anyone here spend a long time blaming stress, only to find out something else was going on?
49M here. My dad was an old school man and never really told with us about manly issues or sex. My older brother is also like him. Talking with him about sex, junk etc. is not easy. Me and my younger brother are contrary to them. We speak unfiltered with each other and with our mates too. By the way I meant an open talk among us, men. I think that the younger generations become again too reserved and cannot talk with their peers too.