r/AskBiBros

Like its not extreme hardcore shit but like a stroke and suck here and there and a bit more every now and then. we have been friends for around id say 10 years now and seen eachother in all sorts of different ways like clothed, naked, boxers all types of shit like that over the years so idk if its just like a we comfy with eachother so lets just have fun because we can or something more. but like tbh its sort of got me questioning my sexuality rn because like ive always thought i was straight but recently he started teasing a little more than usual and i really like it. im fine with being bi or gay i dont think anyone will really care if i am that i know irl.

Is this just normal horny type of shit or is this a little more and any way to tell properly without straight up asking by friend?

Without going into every detail: I'm 52, actively and comfortably bi going back 20 years. Married a woman just over 10 years ago. We have a great partnership, and we agreed four years ago that's all it is. Both of us are allowed to, and do, explore outside of the marriage.

Over the past year or so and especially recent months my relationships with guys have shifted from mostly sexual to something more. I dated a few guys prior to getting married but obviously I was single then. And while things might change in the not-so-near future, my wife and I plan to stay married.

So I'm curious: if the chemistry was there, would you date someone who was married? I have a lot of freedom with time and there's no sneaking around or anything but it's also true that nobody's coming over to my place so I can cook them dinner, or spending the night there. I get it's weird. But it is what it is for right now so figured I'd ask.

I try to keep this as SFW and PG13 as possible: A very good friend keeps making jokes and signs about a little crush on me. While I always thought I am straight, I started fantasising about it.

It’s not like I have romantic feelings about him, but certainly a “friends” type of love. But the opportunity to test “fun” with another man in a safe environment is intriguing, the risk of me not interpreting these signs makes me worry.

To give you a better understanding: We were talking about toys and where they can go into and he wouldn’t stop making jokes about me being too tight anyway and that I am not brave enough to proof him wrong. I replied that he shouldn’t bet on it in the hope of him shutting up, but after some friends left my place he said to me that I can prove it to him next time.

Then he left. No more. What should I do? Should I “prove” it to him and see where the journey goes? Or should I ignore it?

Hey everyone

I’m 19 and in my first year of college. I just want to explain my situation and hopefully get some advice or hear from people who’ve felt something similar.

I’ve dated 3 women in my life and have also had a fair amount of experience with sex with women in general. I’ve also had a few hookups with men (not many), and overall I’ve genuinely enjoyed everything I’ve explored. I feel a strong attraction to both men and women, and I’m confident that I’m bisexual. The main difference is that most of my romantic feelings have been toward women so far.

Recently though, I’ve been overthinking what it means for me to identify as bisexual going forward. Coincidentally, every woman I’ve dated has also been bisexual. My most recent relationship (about 2 years) ended for reasons unrelated to this, but near the end my ex started having really intense discomfort around my bisexuality. She would get intrusive, upsetting thoughts and imagery about me being with men and said it was triggering for her. That experience really stuck with me.

After we broke up, I decided to explore my sexuality more, including sleeping with a few men. While I enjoyed those experiences at the time, afterwards I’ve been feeling a lot of shame about it. I also find myself worrying that being bisexual—especially having acted on it—might make me less desirable to women in the future.

Logically, I know a lot of this probably comes from internalised homophobia and insecurity, but emotionally it’s hard to shake. I feel like I’ve somehow “ruined” part of my identity or become less masculine in a way that I can’t undo, and I’m scared that being open about this in future relationships will always be complicated. Although even though I have shame surrounding sex with men I overall don't think I could have gone my whole life not knowing how I would feel about actually trying it.

I’ve also recently come out to a few friends, and they were really supportive—like, genuinely warm about it, even giving me a group hug. I’ve also answered some questions about my same-sex experiences because they asked, but now I’m kind of having regrets and wondering if I should’ve just kept it to myself or kept it more of a mystery. I know this is probably just me spiralling internally and that most people don’t actually care that much, but it still feels a bit scary because it’s all new and I’m trying to process a lot of feelings at once.

Has anyone else dealt with similar thoughts or regrets around coming out / being open? How did you move past the shame or fear of how others might see your bisexuality?

Would like to know how and where other mature married bi men meet for new friendships, especially in AA County, Maryland, where I live.

I enjoy staying active—gym, walking, swimming, boating, and tennis—as well as spending time in DC exploring museums, reading, and good conversation over fine food.

I’m interested in connecting with other professional, educated men who enjoy similar interests and have a sense of curiosity and adventure.

Hi, I kinda noticed that there are some women who don't like dating a bisexual man, so I wanted to ask you guys how you experienced dating women and if you told them you were bi.

i have a habit of taking things apart just to see how they work… putting them back together is optional.

There are usually a few screws left over, but somehow it still runs better than before.

Curious and chaotic, Easy to talk to once you get me going.

Just starting to accept myself, and my sexuality.

If you’ve got a sense of humour, a bit of edge, or something interesting going on under the surface… I’m listening.

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Every single day I see posts here about older men either asking for "discreet" locations or weaponizing their bisexuality to justify cheating on their wives.

Then you have other posts about women not wanting to be with bi men. or gay men not wanting us. huh, I wonder why? I mean, when I first realized I was bi, the first thing I did was search on reddit "bisexual" and the posts that came up made me disgusted.

Not because I'm disgusted by men or disgusted by sex with men, I'm disgusted bc bisexuality is used as a cover for cheating and being an ultimately selfish person that can ruin many lives. just leave her.

many of you spend YEARS with someone in a committed monogamous relationship, they enter into the relationship assuming you are straight and monogamous and content with them. Then after having kids or spending several years together you confess that ur bi and then get upset when they don't want to open up their marriage?

Since when is bisexuality equal to an apparent uncontrollable urge to have sex? Your partner not wanting an open relationship has nothing to do with being biphobic. Even straight relationships require sacrifice, the fact that ur attracted to another gender does not mean u have an uncontrollable urge to be with them too. and if you do, let ur partner go.

i never understood why gay men were so skeptical of me until I saw these kinds of posts. Not to mention seeing comments about women hating bi men and how hard it is for you guys to date them. when many men here want bi women as partners to live a "normal" life on the outside and reap the benefits of appearing straight socially, with the goal of having sex with men on the side. and this ends up making even gay men feel used. it's just using people on both sides.

Being bisexual has nothing to do with being poly, being swingers, opening relationships. it just means ur attracted to both genders.

the way some of you talk about your girlfriends, wives, and even boyfriends lacks so much respect. I see maybe a few people here actually giving good advice and calling these men out but damn I hate being grouped in with men like this. this sub is less about being bisexual and more about "men are better, more sexual, I love my wife but I need men, I love my girlfriend but when we're intimate I think of men" and the comments are so incredibly enabling sometimes.

I have an Instagram page where I post pictures of my amazing self, mostly in suits and business casual stuff, dapper basically.

This one guy direct message me and asked if I get h0rny when wearing my suits, I know this is a fetish for some but I’m literally a stranger to this guy.

Why are they like this?

I’m bi but no out and probably won’t come out