(31m) what is with all the enabling of cheating in this sub?
Every single day I see posts here about older men either asking for "discreet" locations or weaponizing their bisexuality to justify cheating on their wives.
Then you have other posts about women not wanting to be with bi men. or gay men not wanting us. huh, I wonder why? I mean, when I first realized I was bi, the first thing I did was search on reddit "bisexual" and the posts that came up made me disgusted.
Not because I'm disgusted by men or disgusted by sex with men, I'm disgusted bc bisexuality is used as a cover for cheating and being an ultimately selfish person that can ruin many lives. just leave her.
many of you spend YEARS with someone in a committed monogamous relationship, they enter into the relationship assuming you are straight and monogamous and content with them. Then after having kids or spending several years together you confess that ur bi and then get upset when they don't want to open up their marriage?
Since when is bisexuality equal to an apparent uncontrollable urge to have sex? Your partner not wanting an open relationship has nothing to do with being biphobic. Even straight relationships require sacrifice, the fact that ur attracted to another gender does not mean u have an uncontrollable urge to be with them too. and if you do, let ur partner go.
i never understood why gay men were so skeptical of me until I saw these kinds of posts. Not to mention seeing comments about women hating bi men and how hard it is for you guys to date them. when many men here want bi women as partners to live a "normal" life on the outside and reap the benefits of appearing straight socially, with the goal of having sex with men on the side. and this ends up making even gay men feel used. it's just using people on both sides.
Being bisexual has nothing to do with being poly, being swingers, opening relationships. it just means ur attracted to both genders.
the way some of you talk about your girlfriends, wives, and even boyfriends lacks so much respect. I see maybe a few people here actually giving good advice and calling these men out but damn I hate being grouped in with men like this. this sub is less about being bisexual and more about "men are better, more sexual, I love my wife but I need men, I love my girlfriend but when we're intimate I think of men" and the comments are so incredibly enabling sometimes.