r/2under2

Hello ladies!

Honestly the nicest mom/parent community of Reddit!

I have a question: were you pregnancies different (nausea, tiredness, legs cramping, back pains etc) and if they were (or were not) do you have same sex babies or opposite?

Curious!

My 3 week old newborn baby is staying the night at my moms house because I need to get some sleep and I feel terrible about it. Age gap is 16 months and my toddler is extremely clingy and needy and also wakes up at 5am everyday. Both kids need me at all times of the day and I’m with them alone all day.

My husband only got a week off from work and he is gone from 5am-5pm Mon-Fri. He also doesn’t do any night shifts cause he needs to be “rested for work” so it’s all on me. My newborn is a very fussy and gassy baby, I suspect she has reflux. She doesn’t sleep more than a 1 hour stretch at night and then from 2am onwards I have to hold her to sleep so that she’s comfortable. I am maybe getting 30 min to an hour of sleep each night and I started hallucinating from sleep deprivation so my mom offered to take her for the night and I agreed. I never did this with my son and I never would’ve even entertained the thought of leaving him for the night. I did every single nap and bedtime with him up until I gave birth. So now I just feel like I did her so wrong. I feel so exhausted and depleted and I desperately need to sleep but I just feel terrible like I abandoned her. She is EBF and she is having a hard time sleeping without nursing. I just feel so terrible and empty right now. Idk how I’m going to go to sleep tonight knowing that she is not doing so well. Please tell me it gets better

16 month old and 5 week old. Doing one load of laundry is exhausting. Baby wakes up when put down and cries. I’ve been trying to put him in the wrap carrier every so often, but he’s not a fan so far. I feel bad for trying to do so much and waking him up every time I have to put him down.

My kids will be about 20 months apart, and I’m trying to decide what to do about sleep. I’d prefer not to buy a second crib, so I’m considering moving the crib to the new baby and transitioning my toddler to a floor/full size bed a bit earlier than planned.

She currently sleeps really well (12 hrs overnight + 2 hr nap), which is why I’m hesitant to change anything.

Plan would be to fully baby proof her room and treat it like a safe sleep space, but I’m expecting some adjustment with her getting out of bed, etc.

On the other hand, being pregnant, not having to lift her in/out of a crib sounds a lot easier, and I like the idea of being able to sit/lay with her for bedtime.

For those who’ve done this, did it go smoothly, or did it disrupt sleep a lot? Would you do it again, or just stick with the crib as long as possible?

Thanks for your responses in advance!!!

Hello Everyone

I recently got the news of 2 under 2, and the first thing crossed my mind is the new car.
Current car - 2022 Subaru outback wilderness, monthly expense - CAD 1150 including car payment, insurance and fuel

Situation

• The first one will be 16 months when the second one comes up
• It will be 4 adults and 2 kids, me, my wife, my parents and 2 kids
• Uppababy stroller which support 2 seats and a couple of bags
• less km per year - 10k per year maybe
• Location - Ontario, Canada so winter is brutal (AWD becomes necessary at times)

Practical solution would be Minivan (Sienna Hybrid seems like the best option) but I feel Minivan will be very uncool, so searching for a 3 row SUV. But haven't completely given up on the minivan as they are practically the best vehicle for my situation, us kids and elderly parents and some trips.

Not many options, with regard to reliability, space and comfort. Considering 2023 Subaru Ascent, 2022 Toyota Sienna, 2023 Honda Pilot, 2023 Chevrolet Traverse, 2022 VW Atlas. I also want to be cost effective, new vehicles with insurance and fuel are crossing CAD 1600 per month and for only 1,000 km monthly driving it would be very expensive.

What do other people drive or suggest me. I have 3 months to buy, so the car has to be available.
Thanks in Advance

Our youngest was just born on the 10th, my toddler was nursing all through my pregnancy but now suddenly has a terrible latch. I’m not sure if it’s from engorgement with new milk coming in or what- anyone else deal with this? Talking her through it isn’t helping as she’ll do well then slide right back into a very shallow-painful latch. I’ll take any advice I can get.

My husband and I really want to try for another so that we have 2 under 2 but I’ll be 4-5 months short of my breastfeeding goal for my first one if I get pregnant right now. So anyone breastfeed while pregnant?

My first born will be 20mos when this baby comes. Shes very demanding. How the heck am I supposed to put two babies down for nap and bed? And nurse? Ahhhhh idk I wanted this because well I thought we’re in the trenches let’s just do it half not expecting it to happen. Now it happened. I’m still excited but wishing it would have taken a little longer. Maybe baby 2 will be more chill than sister? 😅

Is it just me, or is having pets the hardest part of parenting? With my firstborn, I hated the dog and how much she needed. Granted, we have a high energy dog and she needed a lot of attention and training before baby was born. Now that I’m 3 weeks in to 2u2, I find myself hating the dog even more. It doesn’t help that she tore her ACL and had surgery 6 weeks ago, so she has extensive medical care now and for the next 10 weeks. But literally she just whines and barks all day because she can’t run to get her energy out. I love her, but seriously. Life would be so much easier without her. I also have a cat who poops by my front door every morning. She never had litter box problems until my firstborn started to walk. Now I can’t seem to find any solution other than just accepting my fate of cleaning up her daily mess. I love her and I hate her so much. If I could do this all over again, I never would have gotten pets before having kids.

I am pregnant with #2 and my 1st will be 19 months old when baby is born. My question is, what all did you buy two of? I am working on my registry and just over all confused on what I should get another of. Did you buy a second crib, diaper pail, high chair, changing pad, rocking chair, etc? I’d love to know your thoughts and anything else you added

I am SAHM (36) I have a 1 year old boy and a 4 month old girl. The question is directed more to my husband who my 4 month old currently seems like she does not like him. My husband is a somewhat present father (working all the time) and tries his best when it comes to comfort but he does not have any patience and isn't really a comforting person.

He loves our daughter but he has left her crying more than a few times. He also seems to smother her with kisses, which is cute but then she is crying and seems to be bothered. When I hand her over to him she screams bloody murder. I've only seen her cry the hardest when she is with him. She hated getting kisses because of his beard and I kept saying to keep the kisses minimal but he just keeps going until she is crying. Now it's harder for me to tend to my 1 year old or clean, Cook or eat because she cries not wanting to be held by him.

Can a baby grow to hate you? She probably goes to him for like 10 good minutes of her not crying when I hand her over without her looking at him. Im just wondering if this has happened to any one else. I hate that to me he bothers her and I cant go do errands or take a long shower because my daughter wants me and will be crying the whole time.

I’m so tired, how are you guys making it work. How am I going to wrangle her with a belly. I’m so nervous for these next 9 months

I am a general proponent of informed choice for parenting. Like go ahead and cosleep if you’re following the safe sleep 7 and it works for you, etc. I hate when people/doctors try to put blanket statements on everything, like cosleeping is dangerous!!! without actually making exceptions for families who are doing it the right way. That brings me to the room sharing rule. Pediatricians constantly recommend room sharing up to 6 months. Now is this an actual helpful rule OR is this just to prevent people from doing things badly, just like the statement “cosleeping is dangerous!!” ? They all say it helps to prevent SIDS but I don’t actually understand why. What is the difference between a baby sleeping in a bedside bassinet, and a baby sleeping in another room in a bassinet, using safe sleep rules, with a monitor, and responsive parents who soothe or feed them when they rouse? I can understand how leaving a baby to sleep in another room without a monitor or letting them cry it out, etc could be bad, but why is the statement not “room sharing can be helpful but if baby is asleep in another room, make sure A B C happens…

Due with #2 in July and we will have a 18 month old.

We currently have a Nuna Pipa and MixX system. Anyone have any hacks that work with this stroller/car seat for a double stroller with adapters? Can I get the City Select base and buy adapters for both attachments?

I feel like I’m trying to solve a puzzle.

For beginning of May. Our kids are 15 months apart and it’s been 5 months since our youngest was born. We are done with these kids. I have a girl and boy and while we are sad at the finality of having kids we are excited about raising our kids. Anyone else feel this way?

Hi everyone! I am 4 months pregnant with anterior placenta, and my doctor advised me every time not to pick up my little 1y and 2 months. She is not walking yet, so I need to take care of her everyday.

Has anyone else been in this situation? I am worried, but I don't have any choice

When we do big hikes, we carry toddler (20 months) in the backpack and baby (2.5 months) in the front pack. I’d love to carry both one day in the near future for when dad isn’t here.

Does anyone front pack carry and backpack carry at the same time??? Any advice? Thanks!!

My daughter since she was born has always been a squirmy little one, just recently she’s been fighting her sleep for naps and she just squirms , during the night it’s like she can’t get comfortable so she squirms and cries and she’s not necessarily hungry each time. We did start her on solids but I can’t get her to sleep through the night and it’s so frustrating an I’m so exhausted. I’ve heard because I had an anterior placenta that’s why she’s always squirming and nuzzling into the mesh in her bassinet but this causes her to wake up and not find a comfortable position. I need help, any advice would be welcomed