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I (17F) have known this girl since first grade. We’ve never been friends, and she’s always been part of the mean girl groups at school.

Recently, I got a scar on my forearm from dropping a heavy PC tower while moving it to my desk. The screws caught my arm, and it was deep enough that I needed stitches. Since it's summer, I started wearing t shirts, so the scar is visible

Well, I found out she’s been spreading rumors that I’m suicidal and self harming, and literally making fun of me for it. It's incredibly messed up. I am absolutely not suicidal, and honestly, it felt so disrespectful to people who actually struggle with that. I decided to confront her when i walked past her one time and she literally started singing “im suicidal suicidal”… that one song. She immediately claimed it was "just a joke", and i should “chill”

In the heat of the moment, I snapped. I’ve noticed over the last few years that she rarely eats at school, idk if she is infact anorexic or not, but I told her, "Well, how about I go tell everyone you’re anorexic since no one ever sees you eat? But don't worry, it's just a joke."

My friends say she totally deserved it, but I still feel awful. I can't believe those words came out of my mouth, and I feel like a shit person. When I said it, she just shrugged and said "I don't care” so I don't even know if an apology would mean anything to her. Should I apologize, or just let it go and move on?

Hello, idk how to start this post but here we go,

I 17F have know this girl since first grade in school, we were not friends just classmates, and she is kind of in the mean girl groups in our school.

I recently got a huge scare one my forearm scar, i got it by lifting my huge pc, and i wasn’t able to hold on so the friction with the screws, it was huge and had to get stitches. Recently i started wearing t shirts to school since its summer and the scar showed.

I find out from other people that this girl has been calling me suicidal and accusing me of self harm, making fun of me for it… thats fucked up in it by itself, but i in fact AM NOT suicidal, and i feel bad to anyone who is. Some people who i think are dumb as fuck believed her.

I confront her about it and ofc she starts making dumb excuses that it was just a “joke”. This bitch

Anyway ive noticed that in the past six years or so that she hasn’t been eating much at school, idk if she actually is anorexic or not, but i just told her “well how about i go tell everyone ur anorexic, since u haven’t eating in school, but don’t worry its just a joke”.

My friends tell me that its fine and she deserves it. It was all said in the heat of the moment, but i still felt bad.

AITAH?

Five months ago, I 17F was in a really dark place. I had gained 20kg due to constant overeating. I had one friend at that time at it was just so shit to live. hated looking in the mirror, and felt completely trapped in my own skin. Out of pure curiosity , I stole my brother’s vape one day just to try it.

I fell in love with it immediately. I saw my brother going insane looking for it and i didn’t care, it was a disposable. That vape completely flipped a switch in my brain. My appetite became basically non existent, the urge to constant binge and eat vanished, and for the first time in forever, my mood actually lifted. I became extremely addicted so much that over the last five months, I’ve easily spent $300 of my own money buying vapes.

The weight melted off me. I lost the entire 20kg and then some by literally just existing , and honestly, it made me love life again. I finally feel confident and happy when I walk down the street.

But the reaction at school has been a total mind fuck. Now that Im not fat, the social shift is insane. people treat you entirely differently when you lose weight. One of my male teachers became completely obsessed with how. He constantly asks me how I lost the weight and what my "secret" is. It’s wild because I obviously can't tell him shit "Oh yeah, I just starve vaped it off”

It’s definitely a weird situation to navigate, but looking back at where I was five months ago versus now, I don't regret picking up that first vape at all.

I don’t recommend for anyone to do what i did

Edit: Don’t worry im working on it, already switching to gums and patches i have plan to be free of nic, in the next month, already joined a gym to keep off the weight. But i dont regret what i did, its been 5 months so quitting will be easy hopefully.

Edit 2: some of yall are telling me to report the teacher, but what am i supposed to say? They would not care, and he is well respected. They will brush me off as stupid little girl im sure of it, and im graduating in a month so its all fine. I just have a couple exams left. He has been sending me messages asking how im doing during this study leave, and he wants to help. I said this in the comments but he says he wants to help me reach my full potential…whatever that means, so the school again would see this as a helpful teacher.

To anyone saying this is fake idk what to tell u. This is my life lol

I 17(F) am graduating next week.

Today i went to my school to get my graduation gown, and the invitations.

Turns out they give out only 3 invitation cards, i asked about it and they told me they allow 3 people to come per graduate.

When i went home i told my mother this, and she said that looks like her, my father, and one brother of mine will come. I asked “what about my aunt” and she said that she’ll have to miss this one. I told her that if i had to choose between who’s coming between my father and aunt, i will choose my aunt. I never was close with my father, and he has always been hard to get along with. Im the one who paid for the graduation fee bc he is practically broke and cant take responsibility for his family, so yeah i just cant stand him. My aunt on the other hand is amazing, shes been to my other brothers grad ceremonies, and i dont want her to miss mine.

Anyway my mom told me that if i were to tell him not to come, then im an AH, but I don’t care, and i told her this. She told me to do whatever i wanted, but to not come to her after the fight shes sure is gonna happen between my father and I.

Would i be the AH if i tell him to not come?

My aunt has always made effort with me as a kid and till now to be my friend to listen, she also paid for some of exam fees and contributed to my education. and shes a mother figure to me other than my mom. My father was always distant with me as a kid, he was verbally abusive even yelled at me once during a panic attack. He always criticises anything i do, and i try my best to stay away from him so i dont get yelled at.

My brother and i are very close, and i also would like him to be there. He is a great big brother and i would put him above my father any day.

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I literally had my headphones on and was minding my own business. He sneezed, I obviously didn't hear him, and he took it as a personal insult and started screaming at me for being disrespectful. I feel like I'm losing my mind.

I 17F am graduating next week.
Today i went to my school to get my graduation gown, and the invitations. Turns out they give out only 3 invitation cards, i asked about it and they told me they allow 3 people to come per graduate.

When i went home i told my mother 50F this, and she said that looks like her, my father 54M, and one brother 24M of mine will come. I asked “what about my aunt 45F” and she said that she’ll have to miss this one. I told her that if i had to choose between who’s coming between my father and aunt, i will choose my aunt. I never was close with my father, and he has always been hard to get along with. Im the one who paid for the graduation fee bc he is practically broke and cant take responsibility for his family, so yeah i just cant stand him. My aunt on the other hand is amazing, shes been to my other brothers grad ceremonies, and i dont want her to miss mine.
Anyway my mom told me that if i were to tell him not to come, then I'm wrong, but I don’t care, and i told her this. She told me to do whatever i wanted, but to not come to her after the fight shes sure is gonna happen between my father and I.

How can i go about handling this?

EDIT: My aunt has always made effort with me as a kid and till now to be my friend to listen, she also paid for some of exam fees and contributed to my education, and shes a mother figure to me other than my mom. My father was always distant with me as a kid, he was verbally abusive even yelled at me once during a panic attack. He always criticises anything i do, and i try my best to stay away from him so i dont get yelled at. He was also physically abusive to my brothers and i as kids. But stopped when we got older.

My brother and i are very close, and i also would like him to be there. He is a great big brother and i would put him above my father any day.

Im 17 not 18 sorry for the typo

Hey everyone,

I’m 17 years old and looking for a job here in Jordan for the summer. I’m fluent in English and have been looking into customer service roles, but I’ve noticed that pretty much everywhere requires you to be at least 18. I actually turn 18 this October, but since I’m specifically looking for work just for the summer break, the age limit is making things difficult.

Does anyone have advice on places that hire high school graduates, or are more flexible with the age requirement?

I’m hardworking and ready to start after my exams are over, which they do at the start of June.

I just need some leads on where to look. Any tips would be greatly appreciated! Cafes and retail won’t be a great fit for me