u/tuftedtittymice

Hi! Sorry if I do not preface this in a good way. This is my first semester learning coding and only a few weeks was spent using R.
My university set up a ‘harddrive’ (?) for us to save R files through Apporto.
I want to now use R on my mac and be able to save things normally to my desktop.
Is there a way to link the already existing files to be saved to my real Mac desktop? I do not understand where I can find the ‘this PC’/ harddrive on my Mac.

I’m sorry if this is confusing, I will try to elaborate better if anyone can help

TL;DR: we are extremely compatible in every area, only source of trouble is understanding each other in disagreements and it makes us highly emotional. when i cry he asks me if he makes me happier than sad. i am wondering if we should take a break and if that will actually help us understand if we are compatible or if we are happier apart (we work together on weekends)

Our relationship is fantastic and healthy in every aspect except for conflict. It is not because we are mean to each other or use insults or walk away. We just go in circles because I tell him what I mean, he says what he means, and when we interpret them back to each other they are wrong. It leads to us talking for 3 hours virtually repeating the same exact points and not understanding each other until the very end after we are emotionally exhausted. for info, i am ADHD but am on medication, he is very likely living with undiagnosed ADHD (he seems to have terrible RSD and is highly emotional).
he feels like i don’t understand him, largely because he struggles to articulate his feelings and understand what is causing them, while i am a very cause-effect person. if he tells me something makes him upset, i want to know what i did that made him feel that way so i can prevent it in the future, but when i ask he says “i don’t know what would have made it better or what you should have said i just know i feel this way”.
anyway, i am sensitive so end up crying whenever these happen. he sadly asks me often if he makes me happy or if he just stresses me out. i know he makes me genuinely happy and pushes me to be my best self, but he is so sensitive to feeling rejected or critiqued he burns me even i am trying to tell him i just want to help and not judge him. FYI, we work together on weekends, but i wonder if some time apart would help us see if we are really compatible or just comfortable and would be more at peace if we were apart.