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Hi, I am looking for residential mental health care for OCD, depression, and anxiety. I thought that going to an Illinois sub would help, because I am in Illinois. I would like something with a higher rating, if humanly possible. Thank you very much.

Hi, I am looking for residential mental health care, and I thought that going to the Illinois sub would be a better way of finding centers near me. I have OCD, Depression, and PTSD. I am preferably looking for something with a higher rating. Thank you very much.

Hi, I am looking for residential mental health care for OCD, depression, and anxiety. I would like something with a higher rating, if humanly possible. Thank you very much.

TW: CSA, ABUSE

Hi, I’m a 21F. I have been devising an escape plan with my therapist for the past few weeks. I told her that I am concerned that my father is going to, or already has, sexually assaulted my two nieces (we’ll call them L and W, not their actual initials). L is 3 and W is 2. My father sexually assaulted me when I was about 9-10 years old, and I didn’t tell anyone. Here’s what happened:

When my father first started seeing my niece, L, when she was born, I didn’t think he was sexually interested in her. It never dawned on me that he COULD have interest in her. As time went on, my dad would be extremely obsessive about wanting to see L, and later W after she was born. I thought that it was weird that, over time, he was becoming more and more obsessive about seeing L and W. Something in his tone has been so predatory about my nieces. Then, it finally dawned on me, that he is sexually interested in my nieces. He has also had contact with my two underaged cousins, who are about 9 and 10.

My father was supposed to see my nieces for L’s 3rd birthday a few weeks ago, but didn’t go due to the price of gas. I tried to convince him not to go, due to the price of gas, and luckily he didn’t go to see my nieces. I told my therapist a few days later that I am deeply concerned that my father is going to, or already has, sexually abused my nieces. She said that she has to report this, I expressed fear about him being reported while I’m at home.

I had also been seeing another therapist BEFORE the current one that I have been seeing, and was in the process of trying to transition from my old therapist to my current one. So, I had also expressed this concern to my old therapist a few days prior to my new therapist (I had two appointments, with my old and new therapist, in the same week). My old therapist did not believe in mandatory reporting. When I first started seeing my old therapist, I thought that it was wonderful that I could talk about the domestic violence freely while trying to plan to escape. My mother had previously told me to never tell any therapist about domestic violence, because they are mandatory reporters. She said that she didn’t want the violence at home to be reported, because the therapist will report it, and she will lose dad’s health insurance and no longer be able to pay for her medications and medical appointments. I believed her. I basically thought that domestic violence and suicidality were the only things that I had to worry about a therapist reporting. I had no idea that it was illegal to allow a pedophile to be around children without reporting it. My old therapist never told me that it was illegal for my father to be around my nieces, and also never reported it. I had also been asking my mother about whether or not my father will be left unattended with my nieces, and she always says no. So, I took her word for for it. If I had known that it was illegal to not report a pedophile seeing children, I would have reported immediately.

My new therapist said that she was going to talk to her supervisor to figure out what to do. She told me the next day that she was able to delay the report, because of the danger that I’m in, and that my dad didn’t end up seeing my nieces. We have been devising a plan for a few weeks, either a residential mental health care facility, or a DV shelter. I originally opted for a residential mental health care center, because if I escape by myself, there is a strong chance my father will harm or kill my mother. I have tried so hard to convince her to come with me, but she refuses. I want to take my two cats with me, because I have to ability to house them within the next couple of months.

However, my father has a four-day weekend this week. He was planning on seeing L and W. I convinced my mother today, to try to convince my father not to go see L and W over his four-day weekend. I am hoping and praying that she can convince him not to go.

I want to tell my therapist about everything regarding the 4-day weekend as soon as possible, but I know she will probably report this, and that leaves me 24 hours to try to find a place to stay, before the police arrive. I don’t know how to drive, I have no friends or family, I have no money and no job, and there is no cab service in my town. The only cab service near me is in the next town from me, and they charge an $18 fee for picking up people from my town. You can only pay in cash, and the reviews for the cab service were horrendous. They all had to do with waiting for an 1-2 hours before the cab actually arrived. Which would be insanely problematic for trying to escape. If they don’t show up before my parents come home, I am screwed.

I am terrified to try to escape tonight, because I don’t think the cab will take me to the train station tonight. You have to call several days in advance, in order for the cab to take you to the location that is 1 hour away. So I would assume that they would not accept me calling at 8:00 P.M., trying to book a cab to the nearest train station (which is 30 minutes away).

I found some pet-friendly domestic violence shelters online, but they are all 2-4 hours away from me. The nearest general DV shelter is 1 hour away from me. I called the cab company with my therapist, and they told me that it would be $118 to get me to the DV shelter 1 hour away from me. She contacted a mutual aid organization to help me pay for the cab fair. I am wondering if it’s possible to ask her, if the mutual aid organization could also pay for a train ticket? That way I save my pets.

I refuse to leave them behind, because they are worse off without me. One of my cats is elderly, and is statistically less likely to be adopted. I am terrified of my cats being placed into a home that is abusive, or they stay in the shelter until they die. I absolutely need to take them with me. I do have the ability to house them in August, because I got accepted into a college, and can move into a college apartment. I’m going to get my cats ESA certified, that way I can take them into the college apartment. It is a law now, that all landlords and property owners HAVE to allow ESA animals onto their residence, so I have a pretty fair chance at making sure that my cats are housed with me.

I have also been looking into finding a roommate ASAP, in order to bring the cats with me. I wish that this wasn’t happening, that way I would more able to find housing. Now I have to scramble.

I need to tell my therapist about what is happening, but I am terrified about not having enough time alone to escape tomorrow (packing and waiting for the cab to show up). I have thought about contacting neighbors, to see if they would take me to a train station, but I am terrified that they would tell my mother before I had a chance to escape. I NEED to escape, in order to report my father to DCFS. My mother is home with me tonight, and I’m scared about the police showing up tonight. I don’t know what my mother will do. I know she will suspect that it was me. I’m afraid of what she will do. I am completely unprepared to leave.

Should I tell my therapist tonight, or tomorrow morning? I don’t know what to do. I need to escape ASAP! I need my therapist to help me secure funds for a train ticket. PLEASE HELP. I need to get to a DV shelter, in order to report this, but I don’t know if I have enough time to prepare! PLEASE HELP.

Hi, I’m a 21F. I have been devising an escape plan with my therapist for the past few weeks. I told her that I am concerned that my father is going to, or already has, sexually assaulted my two nieces (we’ll call them L and W, not their actual initials). L is 3 and W is 2. My father sexually assaulted me when I was about 9-10 years old, and I didn’t tell anyone. Here’s what happened:

When my father first started seeing my niece, L, when she was born, I didn’t think he was sexually interested in her. It never dawned on me that he COULD have interest in her. As time went on, my dad would be extremely obsessive about wanting to see L, and later W after she was born. I thought that it was weird that, over time, he was becoming more and more obsessive about seeing L and W. Something in his tone has been so predatory about my nieces. Then, it finally dawned on me, that he is sexually interested in my nieces. He has also had contact with my two underaged cousins, who are about 9 and 10.

My father was supposed to see my nieces for L’s 3rd birthday a few weeks ago, but didn’t go due to the price of gas. I tried to convince him not to go, due to the price of gas, and luckily he didn’t go to see my nieces. I told my therapist a few days later that I am deeply concerned that my father is going to, or already has, sexually abused my nieces. She said that she has to report this, I expressed fear about him being reported while I’m at home.

I had also been seeing another therapist BEFORE the current one that I have been seeing, and was in the process of trying to transition from my old therapist to my current one. So, I had also expressed this concern to my old therapist a few days prior to my new therapist (I had two appointments, with my old and new therapist, in the same week). My old therapist did not believe in mandatory reporting. When I first started seeing my old therapist, I thought that it was wonderful that I could talk about the domestic violence freely while trying to plan to escape. My mother had previously told me to never tell any therapist about domestic violence, because they are mandatory reporters. She said that she didn’t want the violence at home to be reported, because the therapist will report it, and she will lose dad’s health insurance and no longer be able to pay for her medications and medical appointments. I believed her. I basically thought that domestic violence and suicidality were the only things that I had to worry about a therapist reporting. I had no idea that it was illegal to allow a pedophile to be around children without reporting it. My old therapist never told me that it was illegal for my father to be around my nieces, and also never reported it. I had also been asking my mother about whether or not my father will be left unattended with my nieces, and she always says no. So, I took her word for for it. If I had known that it was illegal to not report a pedophile seeing children, I would have reported immediately.

My new therapist said that she was going to talk to her supervisor to figure out what to do. She told me the next day that she was able to delay the report, because of the danger that I’m in, and that my dad didn’t end up seeing my nieces. We have been devising a plan for a few weeks, either a residential mental health care facility, or a DV shelter. I originally opted for a residential mental health care center, because if I escape by myself, there is a strong chance my father will harm or kill my mother. I have tried so hard to convince her to come with me, but she refuses. I want to take my two cats with me, because I have to ability to house them within the next couple of months.

However, my father has a four-day weekend this week. He was planning on seeing L and W. I convinced my mother today, to try to convince my father not to go see L and W over his four-day weekend. I am hoping and praying that she can convince him not to go.

I want to tell my therapist about everything regarding the 4-day weekend as soon as possible, but I know she will probably report this, and that leaves me 24 hours to try to find a place to stay, before the police arrive. I don’t know how to drive, I have no friends or family, I have no money and no job, and there is no cab service in my town. The only cab service near me is in the next town from me, and they charge an $18 fee for picking up people from my town. You can only pay in cash, and the reviews for the cab service were horrendous. They all had to do with waiting for an 1-2 hours before the cab actually arrived. Which would be insanely problematic for trying to escape. If they don’t show up before my parents come home, I am screwed.

I am terrified to try to escape tonight, because I don’t think the cab will take me to the train station tonight. You have to call several days in advance, in order for the cab to take you to the location that is 1 hour away. So I would assume that they would not accept me calling at 8:00 P.M., trying to book a cab to the nearest train station (which is 30 minutes away).

I found some pet-friendly domestic violence shelters online, but they are all 2-4 hours away from me. The nearest general DV shelter is 1 hour away from me. I called the cab company with my therapist, and they told me that it would be $118 to get me to the DV shelter 1 hour away from me. She contacted a mutual aid organization to help me pay for the cab fair. I am wondering if it’s possible to ask her, if the mutual aid organization could also pay for a train ticket? That way I save my pets.

I refuse to leave them behind, because they are worse off without me. One of my cats is elderly, and is statistically less likely to be adopted. I am terrified of my cats being placed into a home that is abusive, or they stay in the shelter until they die. I absolutely need to take them with me. I do have the ability to house them in August, because I got accepted into a college, and can move into a college apartment. I’m going to get my cats ESA certified, that way I can take them into the college apartment. It is a law now, that all landlords and property owners HAVE to allow ESA animals onto their residence, so I have a pretty fair chance at making sure that my cats are housed with me.

I have also been looking into finding a roommate ASAP, in order to bring the cats with me. I wish that this wasn’t happening, that way I would more able to find housing. Now I have to scramble.

I need to tell my therapist about what is happening, but I am terrified about not having enough time alone to escape tomorrow (packing and waiting for the cab to show up). I have thought about contacting neighbors, to see if they would take me to a train station, but I am terrified that they would tell my mother before I had a chance to escape. I NEED to escape, in order to report my father to DCFS. My mother is home with me tonight, and I’m scared about the police showing up tonight. I don’t know what my mother will do. I know she will suspect that it was me. I’m afraid of what she will do. I am completely unprepared to leave.

Should I tell my therapist tonight, or tomorrow morning? I don’t know what to do. I need to escape ASAP! I need my therapist to help me secure funds for a train ticket. PLEASE HELP. I need to get to a DV shelter, in order to report this, but I don’t know if I have enough time to prepare! PLEASE HELP.

Hi, I’m a 21F. I have been devising an escape plan with my therapist for the past few weeks. I told her that I am concerned that my father is going to, or already has, sexually assaulted my two nieces (we’ll call them L and W, not their actual initials). L is 3 and W is 2. My father sexually assaulted me when I was about 9-10 years old, and I didn’t tell anyone. Here’s what happened:

When my father first started seeing my niece, L, when she was born, I didn’t think he was sexually interested in her. It never dawned on me that he COULD have interest in her. As time went on, my dad would be extremely obsessive about wanting to see L, and later W after she was born. I thought that it was weird that, over time, he was becoming more and more obsessive about seeing L and W. Something in his tone has been so predatory about my nieces. Then, it finally dawned on me, that he is sexually interested in my nieces. He has also had contact with my two underaged cousins, who are about 9 and 10.

My father was supposed to see my nieces for L’s 3rd birthday a few weeks ago, but didn’t go due to the price of gas. I tried to convince him not to go, due to the price of gas, and luckily he didn’t go to see my nieces. I told my therapist a few days later that I am deeply concerned that my father is going to, or already has, sexually abused my nieces. She said that she has to report this, I expressed fear about him being reported while I’m at home.

I had also been seeing another therapist BEFORE the current one that I have been seeing, and was in the process of trying to transition from my old therapist to my current one. So, I had also expressed this concern to my old therapist a few days prior to my new therapist (I had two appointments, with my old and new therapist, in the same week). My old therapist did not believe in mandatory reporting. When I first started seeing my old therapist, I thought that it was wonderful that I could talk about the domestic violence freely while trying to plan to escape. My mother had previously told me to never tell any therapist about domestic violence, because they are mandatory reporters. She said that she didn’t want the violence at home to be reported, because the therapist will report it, and she will lose dad’s health insurance and no longer be able to pay for her medications and medical appointments. I believed her. I basically thought that domestic violence and suicidality were the only things that I had to worry about a therapist reporting. I had no idea that it was illegal to allow a pedophile to be around children without reporting it. My old therapist never told me that it was illegal for my father to be around my nieces, and also never reported it. I had also been asking my mother about whether or not my father will be left unattended with my nieces, and she always says no. So, I took her word for for it. If I had known that it was illegal to not report a pedophile seeing children, I would have reported immediately.

My new therapist said that she was going to talk to her supervisor to figure out what to do. She told me the next day that she was able to delay the report, because of the danger that I’m in, and that my dad didn’t end up seeing my nieces. We have been devising a plan for a few weeks, either a residential mental health care facility, or a DV shelter. I originally opted for a residential mental health care center, because if I escape by myself, there is a strong chance my father will harm or kill my mother. I have tried so hard to convince her to come with me, but she refuses. I want to take my two cats with me, because I have to ability to house them within the next couple of months.

However, my father has a four-day weekend this week. He was planning on seeing L and W. I convinced my mother today, to try to convince my father not to go see L and W over his four-day weekend. I am hoping and praying that she can convince him not to go.

I want to tell my therapist about everything regarding the 4-day weekend as soon as possible, but I know she will probably report this, and that leaves me 24 hours to try to find a place to stay, before the police arrive. I don’t know how to drive, I have no friends or family, I have no money and no job, and there is no cab service in my town. The only cab service near me is in the next town from me, and they charge an $18 fee for picking up people from my town. You can only pay in cash, and the reviews for the cab service were horrendous. They all had to do with waiting for an 1-2 hours before the cab actually arrived. Which would be insanely problematic for trying to escape. If they don’t show up before my parents come home, I am screwed.

I am terrified to try to escape tonight, because I don’t think the cab will take me to the train station tonight. You have to call several days in advance, in order for the cab to take you to the location that is 1 hour away. So I would assume that they would not accept me calling at 8:00 P.M., trying to book a cab to the nearest train station (which is 30 minutes away).

I found some pet-friendly domestic violence shelters online, but they are all 2-4 hours away from me. The nearest general DV shelter is 1 hour away from me. I called the cab company with my therapist, and they told me that it would be $118 to get me to the DV shelter 1 hour away from me. She contacted a mutual aid organization to help me pay for the cab fair. I am wondering if it’s possible to ask her, if the mutual aid organization could also pay for a train ticket? That way I save my pets.

I refuse to leave them behind, because they are worse off without me. One of my cats is elderly, and is statistically less likely to be adopted. I am terrified of my cats being placed into a home that is abusive, or they stay in the shelter until they die. I absolutely need to take them with me. I do have the ability to house them in August, because I got accepted into a college, and can move into a college apartment. I’m going to get my cats ESA certified, that way I can take them into the college apartment. It is a law now, that all landlords and property owners HAVE to allow ESA animals onto their residence, so I have a pretty fair chance at making sure that my cats are housed with me.

I have also been looking into finding a roommate ASAP, in order to bring the cats with me. I wish that this wasn’t happening, that way I would more able to find housing. Now I have to scramble.

I need to tell my therapist about what is happening, but I am terrified about not having enough time alone to escape tomorrow (packing and waiting for the cab to show up). I have thought about contacting neighbors, to see if they would take me to a train station, but I am terrified that they would tell my mother before I had a chance to escape. I NEED to escape, in order to report my father to DCFS. My mother is home with me tonight, and I’m scared about the police showing up tonight. I don’t know what my mother will do. I know she will suspect that it was me. I’m afraid of what she will do. I am completely unprepared to leave.

Should I tell my therapist tonight, or tomorrow morning? I don’t know what to do. I need to escape ASAP! I need my therapist to help me secure funds for a train ticket. PLEASE HELP. I need to get to a DV shelter, in order to report this, but I don’t know if I have enough time to prepare! PLEASE HELP.

Hi, I’m a 21F. I have been devising an escape plan with my therapist for the past few weeks. I told her that I am concerned that my father is going to, or already has, sexually assaulted my two nieces (we’ll call them L and W, not their actual initials). L is 3 and W is 2. My father sexually assaulted me when I was about 9-10 years old, and I didn’t tell anyone. Here’s what happened:

When my father first started seeing my niece, L, when she was born, I didn’t think he was sexually interested in her. It never dawned on me that he COULD have interest in her. As time went on, my dad would be extremely obsessive about wanting to see L, and later W after she was born. I thought that it was weird that, over time, he was becoming more and more obsessive about seeing L and W. Something in his tone has been so predatory about my nieces. Then, it finally dawned on me, that he is sexually interested in my nieces. He has also had contact with my two underaged cousins, who are about 9 and 10.

My father was supposed to see my nieces for L’s 3rd birthday a few weeks ago, but didn’t go due to the price of gas. I tried to convince him not to go, due to the price of gas, and luckily he didn’t go to see my nieces. I told my therapist a few days later that I am deeply concerned that my father is going to, or already has, sexually abused my nieces. She said that she has to report this, I expressed fear about him being reported while I’m at home.

I had also been seeing another therapist BEFORE the current one that I have been seeing, and was in the process of trying to transition from my old therapist to my current one. So, I had also expressed this concern to my old therapist a few days prior to my new therapist (I had two appointments, with my old and new therapist, in the same week). My old therapist did not believe in mandatory reporting. When I first started seeing my old therapist, I thought that it was wonderful that I could talk about the domestic violence freely while trying to plan to escape. My mother had previously told me to never tell any therapist about domestic violence, because they are mandatory reporters. She said that she didn’t want the violence at home to be reported, because the therapist will report it, and she will lose dad’s health insurance and no longer be able to pay for her medications and medical appointments. I believed her. I basically thought that domestic violence and suicidality were the only things that I had to worry about a therapist reporting. I had no idea that it was illegal to allow a pedophile to be around children without reporting it. My old therapist never told me that it was illegal for my father to be around my nieces, and also never reported it. I had also been asking my mother about whether or not my father will be left unattended with my nieces, and she always says no. So, I took her word for for it. If I had known that it was illegal to not report a pedophile seeing children, I would have reported immediately.

My new therapist said that she was going to talk to her supervisor to figure out what to do. She told me the next day that she was able to delay the report, because of the danger that I’m in, and that my dad didn’t end up seeing my nieces. We have been devising a plan for a few weeks, either a residential mental health care facility, or a DV shelter. I originally opted for a residential mental health care center, because if I escape by myself, there is a strong chance my father will harm or kill my mother. I have tried so hard to convince her to come with me, but she refuses. I want to take my two cats with me, because I have to ability to house them within the next couple of months.

However, my father has a four-day weekend this week. He was planning on seeing L and W. I convinced my mother today, to try to convince my father not to go see L and W over his four-day weekend. I am hoping and praying that she can convince him not to go.

I want to tell my therapist about everything regarding the 4-day weekend as soon as possible, but I know she will probably report this, and that leaves me 24 hours to try to find a place to stay, before the police arrive. I don’t know how to drive, I have no friends or family, I have no money and no job, and there is no cab service in my town. The only cab service near me is in the next town from me, and they charge an $18 fee for picking up people from my town. You can only pay in cash, and the reviews for the cab service were horrendous. They all had to do with waiting for an 1-2 hours before the cab actually arrived. Which would be insanely problematic for trying to escape. If they don’t show up before my parents come home, I am screwed.

I am terrified to try to escape tonight, because I don’t think the cab will take me to the train station tonight. You have to call several days in advance, in order for the cab to take you to the location that is 1 hour away. So I would assume that they would not accept me calling at 8:00 P.M., trying to book a cab to the nearest train station (which is 30 minutes away).

I found some pet-friendly domestic violence shelters online, but they are all 2-4 hours away from me. The nearest general DV shelter is 1 hour away from me. I called the cab company with my therapist, and they told me that it would be $118 to get me to the DV shelter 1 hour away from me. She contacted a mutual aid organization to help me pay for the cab fair. I am wondering if it’s possible to ask her, if the mutual aid organization could also pay for a train ticket? That way I save my pets.

I refuse to leave them behind, because they are worse off without me. One of my cats is elderly, and is statistically less likely to be adopted. I am terrified of my cats being placed into a home that is abusive, or they stay in the shelter until they die. I absolutely need to take them with me. I do have the ability to house them in August, because I got accepted into a college, and can move into a college apartment. I’m going to get my cats ESA certified, that way I can take them into the college apartment. It is a law now, that all landlords and property owners HAVE to allow ESA animals onto their residence, so I have a pretty fair chance at making sure that my cats are housed with me.

I have also been looking into finding a roommate ASAP, in order to bring the cats with me. I wish that this wasn’t happening, that way I would more able to find housing. Now I have to scramble.

I need to tell my therapist about what is happening, but I am terrified about not having enough time alone to escape tomorrow (packing and waiting for the cab to show up). I have thought about contacting neighbors, to see if they would take me to a train station, but I am terrified that they would tell my mother before I had a chance to escape. I NEED to escape, in order to report my father to DCFS. My mother is home with me tonight, and I’m scared about the police showing up tonight. I don’t know what my mother will do. I know she will suspect that it was me. I’m afraid of what she will do. I am completely unprepared to leave.

Should I tell my therapist tonight, or tomorrow morning? I don’t know what to do. I need to escape ASAP! I need my therapist to help me secure funds for a train ticket. PLEASE HELP. I need to get to a DV shelter, in order to report this, but I don’t know if I have enough time to prepare! PLEASE HELP.

Hi, I’m a 21F. I am currently working with my therapist on an escape plan. A DCFS report needs to be filed against my father, and I need to get to a safe location in order to do so. I’m trying to get into a Residential Mental Health Care Center, then go to college right afterwards. I got accepted into a college a few days ago. If I leave to go to a DV shelter, my parents will cut all contact with me and my father will, more likely than not, hurt my mother. Meaning I will have no way of protecting my two cats while I’m in the DV shelter or college. I see the mental health care center as a better option for being able to bring my cats with me to escape to college later, because it’s less explosive of an escape. If I can make my parents think that they are in control of where I go (ie: taking me to a residential mental health care center), then they will be more likely to let me take the cats with me. Both of my parents are okay with me going to a residential mental health care facility.

My father has been abusive towards every pet we have ever had. He has been especially horrible to dogs. We have two cats currently, one is 11 (Iris) and the other is 7 (Livvie). My father has thrown things at the cats before, violently moved them off of furniture, and kicked them out of the way to go in and out of the house. Last night was a very bad night for my dad. It was the middle of the night, and my mom, dad, and Iris were sleeping in bed. My dad violently shoved Iris’s stomach to move her out of the way.

Today, Iris vomited two separate times, in extremely big amounts. It is full of food, no fur, and has some dark green bile mixed into it. She has also not meowed at all today and has been shuffling around instead of walking normally.

Now, here’s another part of the problem: my mom put Bravecto on my cats a couple of days ago. My mom has INSISTED that these are side affects of the meds. However, Livvie hasn’t been vomiting violently or shuffling around. I told mom that shoving a cat’s stomach can kill them, but she won’t listen to me. I keep telling her we need to go to the vet, but she keeps saying we don’t have the money. She keeps insisting that it’s a side affect of the meds. If that’s the case: why is she getting worse with time? Iris has never gotten progressively worse after taking Bravecto. I keep asking her if the money is worth more than Iris’s life, and she still won’t bring Iris to the vet. I told her about ScratchPay, and how the vet possibly offers it, and she still won’t do it. I think she is worried about charges being pressed and animal services coming to take the cats.

Another part of the problem is that I have no friends, no family, no job, no education, no money, I don’t know how to drive, and I have no car. She is the only one who can help me with transporting Iris and paying her vet bill. I would rather be broke than for Iris to die. I am planning on fully pressing charges on my dad after I escape. He is extremely violent and abusive towards my mother (physically, emotionally, financially, verbally) and to me (verbally, emotionally, and sexually in the past).

I don’t know what to do. I keep telling her that dad’s behavior will escalate. He has been giving her full-on death threats for months now. I have tons of voice recordings of him giving her death threats. I keep telling my mom that this is a huge escalation, and he is planning on kill all of us soon, and she won’t leave. I want to call the DV shelter I looked into the other day, to ask if they offer pet boarding. I’m also going to ask my therapist to write me ESA letters, that way it’s easier for me to travel with them.

One of my biggest hang ups is that I need to take a cab or a train to go anywhere, and I don’t know if I can take the cats with me. They meow constantly in the car. The DV shelter that I called, who accepted me, is about 1 1/2 hours away from me.

What do I do?

Hi, I’m a 21F. I am currently working with my therapist on an escape plan. A DCFS report needs to be filed against my father, and I need to get to a safe location in order to do so. I’m trying to get into a Residential Mental Health Care Center, then go to college right afterwards. I got accepted into a college a few days ago. If I leave to go to a DV shelter, my parents will cut all contact with me and my father will, more likely than not, hurt my mother. Meaning I will have no way of protecting my two cats while I’m in the DV shelter or college. I see the mental health care center as a better option for being able to bring my cats with me to escape to college later, because it’s less explosive of an escape. If I can make my parents think that they are in control of where I go (ie: taking me to a residential mental health care center), then they will be more likely to let me take the cats with me. Both of my parents are okay with me going to a residential mental health care facility.

My father has been abusive towards every pet we have ever had. He has been especially horrible to dogs. We have two cats currently, one is 11 (Iris) and the other is 7 (Livvie). My father has thrown things at the cats before, violently moved them off of furniture, and kicked them out of the way to go in and out of the house. Last night was a very bad night for my dad. It was the middle of the night, and my mom, dad, and Iris were sleeping in bed. My dad violently shoved Iris’s stomach to move her out of the way.

Today, Iris vomited two separate times, in extremely big amounts. It is full of food, no fur, and has some dark green bile mixed into it. She has also not meowed at all today and has been shuffling around instead of walking normally.

Now, here’s another part of the problem: my mom put Bravecto on my cats a couple of days ago. My mom has INSISTED that these are side affects of the meds. However, Livvie hasn’t been vomiting violently or shuffling around. I told mom that shoving a cat’s stomach can kill them, but she won’t listen to me. I keep telling her we need to go to the vet, but she keeps saying we don’t have the money. She keeps insisting that it’s a side affect of the meds. If that’s the case: why is she getting worse with time? Iris has never gotten progressively worse after taking Bravecto. I keep asking her if the money is worth more than Iris’s life, and she still won’t bring Iris to the vet. I told her about ScratchPay, and how the vet possibly offers it, and she still won’t do it. I think she is worried about charges being pressed and animal services coming to take the cats.

Another part of the problem is that I have no friends, no family, no job, no education, no money, I don’t know how to drive, and I have no car. She is the only one who can help me with transporting Iris and paying her vet bill. I would rather be broke than for Iris to die. I am planning on fully pressing charges on my dad after I escape. He is extremely violent and abusive towards my mother (physically, emotionally, financially, verbally) and to me (verbally, emotionally, and sexually in the past).

I don’t know what to do. I keep telling her that dad’s behavior will escalate. He has been giving her full-on death threats for months now. I have tons of voice recordings of him giving her death threats. I keep telling my mom that this is a huge escalation, and he is planning on kill all of us soon, and she won’t leave. I want to call the DV shelter I looked into the other day, to ask if they offer pet boarding. I’m also going to ask my therapist to write me ESA letters, that way it’s easier for me to travel with them.

One of my biggest hang ups is that I need to take a cab or a train to go anywhere, and I don’t know if I can take the cats with me. They meow constantly in the car. The DV shelter that I called, who accepted me, is about 1 1/2 hours away from me.

What do I do?

Hi, I’m a 21F. I am currently working with my therapist on an escape plan. A DCFS report needs to be filed against my father, and I need to get to a safe location in order to do so. I’m trying to get into a Residential Mental Health Care Center, then go to college right afterwards. I got accepted into a college a few days ago. If I leave to go to a DV shelter, my parents will cut all contact with me and my father will, more likely than not, hurt my mother. Meaning I will have no way of protecting my two cats while I’m in the DV shelter or college. I see the mental health care center as a better option for being able to bring my cats with me to escape to college later, because it’s less explosive of an escape. If I can make my parents think that they are in control of where I go (ie: taking me to a residential mental health care center), then they will be more likely to let me take the cats with me. Both of my parents are okay with me going to a residential mental health care facility.

My father has been abusive towards every pet we have ever had. He has been especially horrible to dogs. We have two cats currently, one is 11 (Iris) and the other is 7 (Livvie). My father has thrown things at the cats before, violently moved them off of furniture, and kicked them out of the way to go in and out of the house. Last night was a very bad night for my dad. It was the middle of the night, and my mom, dad, and Iris were sleeping in bed. My dad violently shoved Iris’s stomach to move her out of the way.

Today, Iris vomited two separate times, in extremely big amounts. It is full of food, no fur, and has some dark green bile mixed into it. She has also not meowed at all today and has been shuffling around instead of walking normally.

Now, here’s another part of the problem: my mom put Bravecto on my cats a couple of days ago. My mom has INSISTED that these are side affects of the meds. However, Livvie hasn’t been vomiting violently or shuffling around. I told mom that shoving a cat’s stomach can kill them, but she won’t listen to me. I keep telling her we need to go to the vet, but she keeps saying we don’t have the money. She keeps insisting that it’s a side affect of the meds. If that’s the case: why is she getting worse with time? Iris has never gotten progressively worse after taking Bravecto. I keep asking her if the money is worth more than Iris’s life, and she still won’t bring Iris to the vet. I told her about ScratchPay, and how the vet possibly offers it, and she still won’t do it. I think she is worried about charges being pressed and animal services coming to take the cats.

Another part of the problem is that I have no friends, no family, no job, no education, no money, I don’t know how to drive, and I have no car. She is the only one who can help me with transporting Iris and paying her vet bill. I would rather be broke than for Iris to die. I am planning on fully pressing charges on my dad after I escape. He is extremely violent and abusive towards my mother (physically, emotionally, financially, verbally) and to me (verbally, emotionally, and sexually in the past).

I don’t know what to do. I keep telling her that dad’s behavior will escalate. He has been giving her full-on death threats for months now. I have tons of voice recordings of him giving her death threats. I keep telling my mom that this is a huge escalation, and he is planning on kill all of us soon, and she won’t leave. I want to call the DV shelter I looked into the other day, to ask if they offer pet boarding. I’m also going to ask my therapist to write me ESA letters, that way it’s easier for me to travel with them.

One of my biggest hang ups is that I need to take a cab or a train to go anywhere, and I don’t know if I can take the cats with me. They meow constantly in the car. The DV shelter that I called, who accepted me, is about 1 1/2 hours away from me.

What do I do?

Hello, I am 21F. I have been working with my therapist on escaping, in order to file a DCFS report against my father. I need to be moved to a safe location, such as a DV shelter or a Residential Mental Health Care Center. I am very afraid of my father retaliating if I make the report while I’m still living at home. I got accepted into a college, and can go in the fall. Here’s the problem: My mother will not leave, even though we have two cats and everyone needs to be moved to safety.

My father is the primary breadwinner of the family, and my mother is disabled (she can walk). We live in an area with minimal jobs, so her and I have struggled severely with finding jobs. My mother quit her last job a couple of months ago (and she was making $20/hr which is insane!!), and DIDN’T SAVE ANY OF THE MONEY SHE MADE. I begged her to, and she wouldn’t. I told her to make a secret bank account to siphon small amounts of her money into, and she kept telling me, “I’ll do it later.” “This stresses me out.” I found out after she confessed to me, that she has a secret bank account the entire time.

If she knew that I wanted to leave as well, why would she lie to me about having a bank account?

I initially settled for a residential health care facility. I knew that going to a DV shelter would be too explosive of an action, and could cause my mother and cats to be harmed by my father for escaping. I opted for the residential health care facility, because if I can make my parents think that they are the ones in my control of me leaving, and the fact that they think I’m coming back, it would be less likely for the mother and cats to be harmed. It would be way worse to try to escape without telling them. I told my mother already that I am calling different mental health care centers, and she is okay with it. Both of my parents know, and are alright with it. My father has been being more abusive than usual, but I am planning on leaving my Friday or Saturday. My ultimate goal was to go to the health care place, press charges, and then come back about a week to a few days before I’m supposed to leave for college. That way I can take the cats with me and pack my things. This would basically mean hoping that my father doesn’t get arrested (and he absolutely needs to) before I can take my cats with me.

The college that I applied to is legally obligated to take ESA animals. So all I would have to do is ask my therapist to write some ESA letters, explaining my disabilities and mental health problems to the College Housing Department, and they would be legally obligated to accept. I also have an extensive history with PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, and Autism. So I see it as very likely that they could come with me.

Both of my cats are older. One is 11 and the other is 7. I was basically raised with both of my cats. I am concerned that when I file the DCFS report while in DV shelter or Mental Health Care Center, that my mother will be left financially unstable and homeless, due to my father being attested. My cats will probably be put into an animal shelter, due to my mother’s inability to take care of them. My cats are statistically less likely to adopted by other families, due to their ages and disabilities. I can’t bare the thought of knowing my cats are in an animal shelter somewhere, meanwhile I am living a good life at a college. I love them so much, I don’t want anything to happen to them. I know that if I go to a shelter, I won’t be able to defend them. Not until I’m in college. I don’t know how to drive, and don’t have a car. So I have no way of getting back to my cats in order to take them in. I have to take a cab to either the DV shelter or the mental health care place. I am still absolutely leaving this situation though.

The only other hope that I have is my neighbor. He has a cat, and is trying to bring in a stray. I’m hoping that if bad things DO happen while I’m in a shelter or mental health care place, that he would be able to watch them for a couple of months, until I can take them with me to college.

Things have been bad with my father again. I’ve been thinking about switching gears into a DV shelter again. However, I want to bring my mother and cats with me, that way I can take my cats to be boarded in a DV shelter, and my mother wont be hurt. I also wont have to worry about the cost of the cab, because my mother can drive us both.

Here’s the even worse issue, is that she REFUSES TO LEAVE HIM. She doesn’t believe that he loves her, and she absolutely hates him. She is on a benzodiazepine and an antidepressant. My father has health insurance, and she is able to pay for her medications. She once lied to me and told me that her medications were $2,000 out of pocket. I checked the prices online, and they said that they were $30 and $70 out of pocket. I told her she can apply for Medicare, and she said it takes FOREVER to get accepted for Medicare. She doesn’t want to live in government housing. She was forced to go through withdrawal from the antidepressant back in 2021, due to the pharmaceutical company supposedly “not having enough raw ingredients” to manufacture her medication. She takes an extremely old brand of antidepressant. I don’t think they prescribe it to people anymore. She ended up having to withdrawal from her benzodiazepine at the same time, because her PA at the time wanted her completely off of her medication. It was a horrible experience. Ever since then, she has been hoarding medication. All types of medication, because she is terrified of it being taken away from her one day.

Here’s my problem: If you take your medication as prescribed, why would your medication be taken away by a doctor?? I am prescribed a benzodiazepine for Tourette’s Syndrome, and I refuse to take it, because I am terrified of being physically addicted to a benzodiazepine. Her withdrawal was absolutely horrible. I was 16. She has been making me keep my bottles meds, even though I don’t take it (and she doesn’t take it) just in case of a doctor telling her she needs to get off of her medication, or if there are shortages due to a war. I don’t know how to tell her that her fears are irrational. She has an entire metal box full of 15 year-old, half broken peach tablets of her benzodiazepine. She got them from a guy going through withdrawal as well. My mother refuses to throw the pills away, in order to get into a DV shelter. I’ve told her a million times that it’s illegal to have all of those meds, that they are expired, and she won’t lose her meds, but she won’t do it.

She is withdrawing from her medication right now. She has lowered her dosage. She doesn’t plan on actually getting off of her medication, because she doesn’t think she’ll survive the full withdrawal. She’s not even doing this with medical supervision.

I’m in a really bad situation. I am leaving no matter what, but it would make life easier if she would come with me, that way I can make sure my cats are safe. What can I say to make her come with me?

Why would she lie about having a bank account, in order to leave? Why would she tell me she hasn’t save any money on it? Why won’t she throw the pills away? Why would somebody keep a bank account for months, without putting money into it? I think she’s lying about not having money in there.

Hello, I am 21F. I have been working with my therapist on escaping, in order to file a DCFS report against my father. I need to be moved to a safe location, such as a DV shelter or a Residential Mental Health Care Center. I am very afraid of my father retaliating if I make the report while I’m still living at home. I got accepted into a college, and can go in the fall. Here’s the problem: My mother will not leave, even though we have two cats and everyone needs to be moved to safety.

My father is the primary breadwinner of the family, and my mother is disabled (she can walk). We live in an area with minimal jobs, so her and I have struggled severely with finding jobs. My mother quit her last job a couple of months ago (and she was making $20/hr which is insane!!), and DIDN’T SAVE ANY OF THE MONEY SHE MADE. I begged her to, and she wouldn’t. I told her to make a secret bank account to siphon small amounts of her money into, and she kept telling me, “I’ll do it later.” “This stresses me out.” I found out after she confessed to me, that she has a secret bank account the entire time.

If she knew that I wanted to leave as well, why would she lie to me about having a bank account?

I initially settled for a residential health care facility. I knew that going to a DV shelter would be too explosive of an action, and could cause my mother and cats to be harmed by my father for escaping. I opted for the residential health care facility, because if I can make my parents think that they are the ones in my control of me leaving, and the fact that they think I’m coming back, it would be less likely for the mother and cats to be harmed. It would be way worse to try to escape without telling them. I told my mother already that I am calling different mental health care centers, and she is okay with it. Both of my parents know, and are alright with it. My father has been being more abusive than usual, but I am planning on leaving my Friday or Saturday. My ultimate goal was to go to the health care place, press charges, and then come back about a week to a few days before I’m supposed to leave for college. That way I can take the cats with me and pack my things. This would basically mean hoping that my father doesn’t get arrested (and he absolutely needs to) before I can take my cats with me.

The college that I applied to is legally obligated to take ESA animals. So all I would have to do is ask my therapist to write some ESA letters, explaining my disabilities and mental health problems to the College Housing Department, and they would be legally obligated to accept. I also have an extensive history with PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, and Autism. So I see it as very likely that they could come with me.

Both of my cats are older. One is 11 and the other is 7. I was basically raised with both of my cats. I am concerned that when I file the DCFS report while in DV shelter or Mental Health Care Center, that my mother will be left financially unstable and homeless, due to my father being attested. My cats will probably be put into an animal shelter, due to my mother’s inability to take care of them. My cats are statistically less likely to adopted by other families, due to their ages and disabilities. I can’t bare the thought of knowing my cats are in an animal shelter somewhere, meanwhile I am living a good life at a college. I love them so much, I don’t want anything to happen to them. I know that if I go to a shelter, I won’t be able to defend them. Not until I’m in college. I don’t know how to drive, and don’t have a car. So I have no way of getting back to my cats in order to take them in. I have to take a cab to either the DV shelter or the mental health care place. I am still absolutely leaving this situation though.

The only other hope that I have is my neighbor. He has a cat, and is trying to bring in a stray. I’m hoping that if bad things DO happen while I’m in a shelter or mental health care place, that he would be able to watch them for a couple of months, until I can take them with me to college.

Things have been bad with my father again. I’ve been thinking about switching gears into a DV shelter again. However, I want to bring my mother and cats with me, that way I can take my cats to be boarded in a DV shelter, and my mother wont be hurt. I also wont have to worry about the cost of the cab, because my mother can drive us both.

Here’s the even worse issue, is that she REFUSES TO LEAVE HIM. She doesn’t believe that he loves her, and she absolutely hates him. She is on a benzodiazepine and an antidepressant. My father has health insurance, and she is able to pay for her medications. She once lied to me and told me that her medications were $2,000 out of pocket. I checked the prices online, and they said that they were $30 and $70 out of pocket. I told her she can apply for Medicare, and she said it takes FOREVER to get accepted for Medicare. She doesn’t want to live in government housing. She was forced to go through withdrawal from the antidepressant back in 2021, due to the pharmaceutical company supposedly “not having enough raw ingredients” to manufacture her medication. She takes an extremely old brand of antidepressant. I don’t think they prescribe it to people anymore. She ended up having to withdrawal from her benzodiazepine at the same time, because her PA at the time wanted her completely off of her medication. It was a horrible experience. Ever since then, she has been hoarding medication. All types of medication, because she is terrified of it being taken away from her one day.

Here’s my problem: If you take your medication as prescribed, why would your medication be taken away by a doctor?? I am prescribed a benzodiazepine for Tourette’s Syndrome, and I refuse to take it, because I am terrified of being physically addicted to a benzodiazepine. Her withdrawal was absolutely horrible. I was 16. She has been making me keep my bottles meds, even though I don’t take it (and she doesn’t take it) just in case of a doctor telling her she needs to get off of her medication, or if there are shortages due to a war. I don’t know how to tell her that her fears are irrational. She has an entire metal box full of 15 year-old, half broken peach tablets of her benzodiazepine. She got them from a guy going through withdrawal as well. My mother refuses to throw the pills away, in order to get into a DV shelter. I’ve told her a million times that it’s illegal to have all of those meds, that they are expired, and she won’t lose her meds, but she won’t do it.

She is withdrawing from her medication right now. She has lowered her dosage. She doesn’t plan on actually getting off of her medication, because she doesn’t think she’ll survive the full withdrawal. She’s not even doing this with medical supervision.

I’m in a really bad situation. I am leaving no matter what, but it would make life easier if she would come with me, that way I can make sure my cats are safe. What can I say to make her come with me?

Why would she lie about having a bank account, in order to leave? Why would she tell me she hasn’t save any money on it? Why won’t she throw the pills away? Why would somebody keep a bank account for months, without putting money into it? I think she’s lying about not having money in there.

Hello, I am 21F. I have been working with my therapist on escaping, in order to file a DCFS report against my father. I need to be moved to a safe location, such as a DV shelter or a Residential Mental Health Care Center. I am very afraid of my father retaliating if I make the report while I’m still living at home. I got accepted into a college, and can go in the fall. Here’s the problem: My mother will not leave, even though we have two cats and everyone needs to be moved to safety.

My father is the primary breadwinner of the family, and my mother is disabled (she can walk). We live in an area with minimal jobs, so her and I have struggled severely with finding jobs. My mother quit her last job a couple of months ago (and she was making $20/hr which is insane!!), and DIDN’T SAVE ANY OF THE MONEY SHE MADE. I begged her to, and she wouldn’t. I told her to make a secret bank account to siphon small amounts of her money into, and she kept telling me, “I’ll do it later.” “This stresses me out.” I found out after she confessed to me, that she has a secret bank account the entire time.

If she knew that I wanted to leave as well, why would she lie to me about having a bank account?

I initially settled for a residential health care facility. I knew that going to a DV shelter would be too explosive of an action, and could cause my mother and cats to be harmed by my father for escaping. I opted for the residential health care facility, because if I can make my parents think that they are the ones in my control of me leaving, and the fact that they think I’m coming back, it would be less likely for the mother and cats to be harmed. It would be way worse to try to escape without telling them. I told my mother already that I am calling different mental health care centers, and she is okay with it. Both of my parents know, and are alright with it. My father has been being more abusive than usual, but I am planning on leaving my Friday or Saturday. My ultimate goal was to go to the health care place, press charges, and then come back about a week to a few days before I’m supposed to leave for college. That way I can take the cats with me and pack my things. This would basically mean hoping that my father doesn’t get arrested (and he absolutely needs to) before I can take my cats with me.

The college that I applied to is legally obligated to take ESA animals. So all I would have to do is ask my therapist to write some ESA letters, explaining my disabilities and mental health problems to the College Housing Department, and they would be legally obligated to accept. I also have an extensive history with PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, and Autism. So I see it as very likely that they could come with me.

Both of my cats are older. One is 11 and the other is 7. I was basically raised with both of my cats. I am concerned that when I file the DCFS report while in DV shelter or Mental Health Care Center, that my mother will be left financially unstable and homeless, due to my father being attested. My cats will probably be put into an animal shelter, due to my mother’s inability to take care of them. My cats are statistically less likely to adopted by other families, due to their ages and disabilities. I can’t bare the thought of knowing my cats are in an animal shelter somewhere, meanwhile I am living a good life at a college. I love them so much, I don’t want anything to happen to them. I know that if I go to a shelter, I won’t be able to defend them. Not until I’m in college. I don’t know how to drive, and don’t have a car. So I have no way of getting back to my cats in order to take them in. I have to take a cab to either the DV shelter or the mental health care place. I am still absolutely leaving this situation though.

The only other hope that I have is my neighbor. He has a cat, and is trying to bring in a stray. I’m hoping that if bad things DO happen while I’m in a shelter or mental health care place, that he would be able to watch them for a couple of months, until I can take them with me to college.

Things have been bad with my father again. I’ve been thinking about switching gears into a DV shelter again. However, I want to bring my mother and cats with me, that way I can take my cats to be boarded in a DV shelter, and my mother wont be hurt. I also wont have to worry about the cost of the cab, because my mother can drive us both.

Here’s the even worse issue, is that she REFUSES TO LEAVE HIM. She doesn’t believe that he loves her, and she absolutely hates him. She is on a benzodiazepine and an antidepressant. My father has health insurance, and she is able to pay for her medications. She once lied to me and told me that her medications were $2,000 out of pocket. I checked the prices online, and they said that they were $30 and $70 out of pocket. I told her she can apply for Medicare, and she said it takes FOREVER to get accepted for Medicare. She doesn’t want to live in government housing. She was forced to go through withdrawal from the antidepressant back in 2021, due to the pharmaceutical company supposedly “not having enough raw ingredients” to manufacture her medication. She takes an extremely old brand of antidepressant. I don’t think they prescribe it to people anymore. She ended up having to withdrawal from her benzodiazepine at the same time, because her PA at the time wanted her completely off of her medication. It was a horrible experience. Ever since then, she has been hoarding medication. All types of medication, because she is terrified of it being taken away from her one day.

Here’s my problem: If you take your medication as prescribed, why would your medication be taken away by a doctor?? I am prescribed a benzodiazepine for Tourette’s Syndrome, and I refuse to take it, because I am terrified of being physically addicted to a benzodiazepine. Her withdrawal was absolutely horrible. I was 16. She has been making me keep my bottles meds, even though I don’t take it (and she doesn’t take it) just in case of a doctor telling her she needs to get off of her medication, or if there are shortages due to a war. I don’t know how to tell her that her fears are irrational. She has an entire metal box full of 15 year-old, half broken peach tablets of her benzodiazepine. She got them from a guy going through withdrawal as well. My mother refuses to throw the pills away, in order to get into a DV shelter. I’ve told her a million times that it’s illegal to have all of those meds, that they are expired, and she won’t lose her meds, but she won’t do it.

She is withdrawing from her medication right now. She has lowered her dosage. She doesn’t plan on actually getting off of her medication, because she doesn’t think she’ll survive the full withdrawal. She’s not even doing this with medical supervision.

I’m in a really bad situation. I am leaving no matter what, but it would make life easier if she would come with me, that way I can make sure my cats are safe. What can I say to make her come with me?

Why would she lie about having a bank account, in order to leave? Why would she tell me she hasn’t save any money on it? Why won’t she throw the pills away? Why would somebody keep a bank account for months, without putting money into it? I think she’s lying about not having money in there.