u/strawberryacai99

my son has moved up to elite baseball this season. A lot of of his games are 1 to 2 hours away, and i don’t want to leave my daughter at home. i’m scared that if something happens to her, i will be too far away to help. however, my daughter hates these games and is on her phone, sitting on a chair the entire time and won’t stop asking when it’s done. i feel bad for her because she doesn’t enjoy baseball as much as the rest of our family does, but I don’t want something bad to happen to her. i understand she can stay with friends sometimes, but sometimes there won’t be any that are able to take her for an entire day. does anyone have any advice on what I should do? she isn’t too bad, but she isn’t extremely mature.

love our kids and they love our cats, but why do they act weird around her?

so for context: my kids, 16F and 14M grew up in a cat household. we had 3 cats before our first was born and 2 passed in 2021 and the 3rd past in 2023. we got our current cat in late 2021

our old cats were all males and super gentle, loving, and loved our kids. however, our kids would attempt to lock them in their rooms, chase them around, and even when the kids were small, would try to ride them 😭. they also LOVED to pick up the cats. the kids never hurt the cats, but they would be all up in their faces. these cats didn’t love it at all but tolerated it sometimes. when they passed, it hit the kids extremely hard and are still sad about it to this day.

however, with our newest baby, she is an absolute priss. she is a girl so she is a bit different. when our 3rd cat was on his last months, he got really skinny. we tried to feed him so he could gain weight but our new one took it all and ended up getting fat. the kids to this day make fat jokes around the cat, which is really rude. i know it doesn’t affect our cat but the kids think its hilarious. i tell them to stop because they wouldn’t like someone saying that to them and they have, but will still joke about it here and there. she is also a hisser, and will hiss at everything. my kids have started MOCKING her, so if she hisses at them, the kids will hiss back 😐 sometimes our cat will just be standing there and the kids will start making her sounds like the high pitched “mmmmmmm” she makes or her “angangan” sound. she will be hissing like crazy then 20 seconds later be purring and cuddled up against them.

the kids will also fight over her and will steal her from eachothers rooms. our cat doesn’t mind being picked up but if shes picked up for too long or in the wrong position or wrong timing, she will be pissed. our kids aren’t allowed in our room, so when the cat is in there, they always BEG for her to be let out because they want to see her and get mad if we get her overnight. they want the cat to sleep with them overnight which she loves the kids, but sometimes ill come and rescue her in the middle of the night to let her take a piss. our old bears never stayed with them overnight and would always leave halfway through.

what should i do to enforce some rules on the cat? she loves our kids and is living a spoiled life but no one else mocks their cat while obsessing and joking over the way mine do 😭 tips? i promise the kids don’t abuse her

love our kids and they love our cats, but why do they act weird around her?

so for context: my kids, 16F and 14M grew up in a cat household. we had 3 cats before our first was born and 2 passed in 2021 and the 3rd past in 2023. we got our current cat in late 2021

our old cats were all males and super gentle, loving, and loved our kids. however, our kids would attempt to lock them in their rooms, chase them around, and even when the kids were small, would try to ride them 😭. they also LOVED to pick up the cats. the kids never hurt the cats, but they would be all up in their faces. these cats didn’t love it at all but tolerated it sometimes. when they passed, it hit the kids extremely hard and are still sad about it to this day.

however, with our newest baby, she is an absolute priss. she is a girl so she is a bit different. when our 3rd cat was on his last months, he got really skinny. we tried to feed him so he could gain weight but our new one took it all and ended up getting fat. the kids to this day make fat jokes around the cat, which is really rude. i know it doesn’t affect our cat but the kids think its hilarious. i tell them to stop because they wouldn’t like someone saying that to them and they have, but will still joke about it here and there. she is also a hisser, and will hiss at everything. my kids have started MOCKING her, so if she hisses at them, the kids will hiss back 😐 sometimes our cat will just be standing there and the kids will start making her sounds like the high pitched “mmmmmmm” she makes or her “angangan” sound. she will be hissing like crazy then 20 seconds later be purring and cuddled up against them.

the kids will also fight over her and will steal her from eachothers rooms. our cat doesn’t mind being picked up but if shes picked up for too long or in the wrong position or wrong timing, she will be pissed. our kids aren’t allowed in our room, so when the cat is in there, they always BEG for her to be let out because they want to see her and get mad if we get her overnight. they want the cat to sleep with them overnight which she loves the kids, but sometimes ill come and rescue her in the middle of the night to let her take a piss. our old bears never stayed with them overnight and would always leave halfway through.

what should i do to enforce some rules on the cat? she loves our kids and is living a spoiled life but no one else mocks their cat while obsessing and joking over the way mine do 😭 tips? i promise the kids don’t abuse her

my 5”0 16yo daughter is small but she isn’t super skinny. not fat, but she is small framed but compact. she normally wears a youth large and we always get her that size for her cheer. however, 2 seasons ago they got new uniforms and required sizing with an “approved size”. they told her to size up to an adult XS, which made her fall deeper into her ed. ot was slightly big on her and the built in shorts in the skirt to it wouldn’t stick onto her legs. she complained about it EVERY SINGLE COMPETITION and the adult XS had a bigger logo then the YL so you could tell what size people got. we did trade it in, but im worried something like this will happen again. should i message the gym about the situation and see if i can just submit her measurements or ask for the same size as last season (we got the YL) because im afraid she will restrict very hard before the fitting so they give her the youth large.

my 5”0 16yo daughter is small but she isn’t super skinny. not fat, but she is small framed but compact. she normally wears a youth large and we always get her that size for her cheer. however, 2 seasons ago they got new uniforms and required sizing with an “approved size”. they told her to size up to an adult XS, which made her fall deeper into her ed. ot was slightly big on her and the built in shorts in the skirt to it wouldn’t stick onto her legs. she complained about it EVERY SINGLE COMPETITION and the adult XS had a bigger logo then the YL so you could tell what size people got. we did trade it in, but im worried something like this will happen again. should i message the gym about the situation and see if i can just submit her measurements or ask for the same size as last season (we got the YL) because im afraid she will restrict very hard before the fitting so they give her the youth large.

my 5”0 16yo daughter is small but she isn’t super skinny. not fat, but she is small framed but compact. she normally wears a youth large and we always get her that size for her cheer. however, 2 seasons ago they got new uniforms and required sizing with an “approved size”. they told her to size up to an adult XS, which made her fall deeper into her ed. ot was slightly big on her and the built in shorts in the skirt to it wouldn’t stick onto her legs. she complained about it EVERY SINGLE COMPETITION and the adult XS had a bigger logo then the YL so you could tell what size people got. we did trade it in, but im worried something like this will happen again. should i message the gym about the situation and see if i can just submit her measurements or ask for the same size as last season (we got the YL) because im afraid she will restrict very hard before the fitting so they give her the youth large.

love our kids and they love our cats, but why do they act weird around her?

so for context: my kids, 16F and 14M grew up in a cat household. we had 3 cats before our first was born and 2 passed in 2021 and the 3rd past in 2023. we got our current cat in late 2021

our old cats were all males and super gentle, loving, and loved our kids. however, our kids would attempt to lock them in their rooms, chase them around, and even when the kids were small, would try to ride them 😭. they also LOVED to pick up the cats. the kids never hurt the cats, but they would be all up in their faces. these cats didn’t love it at all but tolerated it sometimes. when they passed, it hit the kids extremely hard and are still sad about it to this day.

however, with our newest baby, she is an absolute priss. she is a girl so she is a bit different. when our 3rd cat was on his last months, he got really skinny. we tried to feed him so he could gain weight but our new one took it all and ended up getting fat. the kids to this day make fat jokes around the cat, which is really rude. i know it doesn’t affect our cat but the kids think its hilarious. i tell them to stop because they wouldn’t like someone saying that to them and they have, but will still joke about it here and there. she is also a hisser, and will hiss at everything. my kids have started MOCKING her, so if she hisses at them, the kids will hiss back 😐 sometimes our cat will just be standing there and the kids will start making her sounds like the high pitched “mmmmmmm” she makes or her “angangan” sound. she will be hissing like crazy then 20 seconds later be purring and cuddled up against them.

the kids will also fight over her and will steal her from eachothers rooms. our cat doesn’t mind being picked up but if shes picked up for too long or in the wrong position or wrong timing, she will be pissed. our kids aren’t allowed in our room, so when the cat is in there, they always BEG for her to be let out because they want to see her and get mad if we get her overnight. they want the cat to sleep with them overnight which she loves the kids, but sometimes ill come and rescue her in the middle of the night to let her take a piss. our old bears never stayed with them overnight and would always leave halfway through.

what should i do to enforce some rules on the cat? she loves our kids and is living a spoiled life but no one else mocks their cat while obsessing and joking over the way mine do 😭 tips? i promise the kids don’t abuse her

so my daughter (16) hasn’t grown in a LONG time and i know genetics play a role, but i thought she would be at least a little taller. my daughter is 5”0 and in the 90’s 100’s weight range. she isn’t that skinny looking at her but she is small framed and light when you pick her up. however, she is pretty much the exact same clothing size since she was in grade 6.

i am 5”5 and my husband is 5”9, but has shrunken to 5”7 just because of his posture and he is 50. our 14 year old son was always bigger for his age and he is still shooting up in height. we thought my daughter would end up being like him as a kid, but instead she stopped before my son got his puberty growth spurt. my siblings’ sons are all much taller, so that could be why hes so tall but i don’t know why my daughter is shorter than most 12 year olds.

she reached 5”0 when she just turned 13 and was 4”11 when she was 11 1/2. growing up, she was the same size as all of her friends. we didn’t pay much attention to it because she was always average but by grade 6, while all of her friends entered their growth spurts, she just stopped. she also hasn’t really gained weight but we don’t have a scale at home. she is very aware of her body though so if she gained weight she would probably just try and lose it.

from what it seems, she is very healthy. she loves being short so this is in her benefit, but i always wonder why. anyone have an answer?

i absolutely love our kids and they love our cat, but why are they so agressive with her?

so for context: my kids, 16F and 14M grew up in a cat household. we had 3 male cats before our first was born and 2 passed in 2021 and the 3rd past in 2023. we got our current cat in late 2021

our old cats were all males and super gentle, loving, and adored our kids. however, our kids would attempt to lock them in their rooms, chase them around, and even when the kids were small, would try to ride them 😭. they also LOVED to pick up the cats. the kids never hurt the cats, but they would be all up in their faces. these cats didn’t love it at all but tolerated it sometimes. when they passed, it hit the kids extremely hard and are still sad about it to this day.

however, with our newest baby, she is an absolute priss. she is a girl so she is a bit different. when our 3rd cat was on his last months, he got really skinny. we tried to feed him so he could gain weight but our new one took it all and ended up getting fat. the kids to this day make fat jokes around the cat, which is really rude. i know it doesn’t affect our cat but the kids think its hilarious. i tell them to stop because they wouldn’t like someone saying that to them and they have, but will still joke about it here and there. she is also a hisser, and will hiss at everything. my kids have started MOCKING her, so if she hisses at them, the kids will hiss back 😐 sometimes our cat will just be standing there and the kids will start making her sounds like the high pitched “mmmmmmm” she makes or her “angangan” sound. sorry i cannot describe it 🤣. they still love her.

however, i came on here to vent about this incident. the cat was in my daughters room and my son steals it from her while she was in the bathroom. when my daughter found out, she ran into his room and they started fighting for the cat while she was curled up in the corner. my son is literally 2x the size of my daughter, im not exaggerating, and ended up jumping on her, resulting in a fight. they were screaming at eachother and the cat ended up going into my daughters room. my son proceeds to grab his water pik and start squirting my daughter and cat with it. daughter was holding it away and protecting it from the water until the poor thing went under the bed. i was absolutely pissed and told them to stop. they did and cat stayed in daughter’s room, which made son mad. these situations dont happen often but that happening made me write this.

in addition, the kids have imessage and snapchat stickers of the cat and like to spam them in our family groupchats. it is all ridiculous ones on her yawning, airplane ears, loaf, or photoshopped to be funny. i think they are kind of funny too because she is so cute but i feel like the photoshopping is too much.

the cat still loves our kids. she loves my daughter and is kind of scared of my son but i don’t know why they treat her like a joke. yes i tell them to stop, leave her where she is and to put her down when they’re stealing her but they still think shes a joke. they never did this with the 3 old cats. i feel like its because the old cats were older than them and respected them while our new cat is young, sassy, and thinks she owns everything. don’t worry, the cat is happy and no one hurts her, but i want to know if this is aggressive love or if this isn’t ok.

my daughter (16F) has always had a desire to be small. when she was just a little kid, she always wanted to be the shortest and smallest in everything. it was characters and toys at first. she would always draw herself the smallest in photos, her “favourite” toy was always the smallest and in games she always just chose the smallest character. we told her that being big and strong is good too, since her brother was getting a growth spurt and we weren’t sure if she would end up a little bigger and taller like him.

she was always average height until grade 7. she hit a growth spurt a little earlier than others, which kind of bothered her but she was around the same height or only an inch or 2 taller than her friends, so it wasn’t that big of a deal. once she hit grade 6, her growth slowed. she got called short for the first time (she was 4”11) and it made her SO happy. she was obsessed with her height and would always make sure people knew it. she hit 5”0 in grade 7 or 8, which she has stayed at, but still purposely tries to make herself look shorter in photos. she got her period at 12 1/2 so im sure shes done growing and tell her that she was the one who made herself so short.

she has been an average weight her entire life. some years maybe a little chubbier and some years a little skinnier, but pretty average weight. never struggled with it until she was 12. she was healthy weight for her height, but there were still some girls in the underweight range (spoiler alert: they were just growing slower and are now all taller than her), which made her jealous. she started to notice how some girls were super skinny and she wanted to be like that too. she started restricting. she would est nothing all day, then come home and eat 5 cookies, which would be her only fold for the day. when you starve yourself, you get extremely hungry, especially for sweets. she wasn’t losing a lot of weight, but her mindset was very concerning. she didn’t tell us at first but over the years started to mention it. she also wanted to “stunt” her growth too. she has always been a picky eater too, so the normal “healthy” meals she sees disinterested her. the restrictions have changed from when she was younger. she knows a lot more now, which is better but she still restricts a bit. she rarely eats balanced meals and just eats snacks and focuses on calories. she has lost her period for 8 months but got it back. her period still remains light.

since she has remained the same size since early teens, she went from being insecure about her size to trying to maintain her size, and brags about it and always brings up how shes short and wears “youth large” or “xxs”. we had to get fitted for cheer uniforms and the people suggested one size up, which was adult xs, and she was PISSED. she did not stop complaining about it all year and the next year made me go through a complicated trading system to get her the youth large. she is so fixated on this size and im concerned. yes, it fits her but the fixation is what concerns me. shes going to be the only 16 year old wearing a youth size and as much as she loves it, i don’t want other people to think shes weird.

does anyone have any helpful advice? i tell her shes beautiful no matter what and that she isn’t fat, but she doesn’t care. she is very stubborn and bold and will do what she wants to get her way.

also i want to add on that she is in an ed program but its not intense. right now my girl is pretty healthy according to the doctors and she is herself again but shes still obsessed with being small. this is what i want help for!

my daughter (16F) has always had a desire to be small. when she was just a little kid, she always wanted to be the shortest and smallest in everything. it was characters and toys at first. she would always draw herself the smallest in photos, her “favourite” toy was always the smallest and in games she always just chose the smallest character. we told her that being big and strong is good too, since her brother was getting a growth spurt and we weren’t sure if she would end up a little bigger and taller like him.

she was always average height until grade 7. she hit a growth spurt a little earlier than others, which kind of bothered her but she was around the same height or only an inch or 2 taller than her friends, so it wasn’t that big of a deal. once she hit grade 6, her growth slowed. she got called short for the first time (she was 4”11) and it made her SO happy. she was obsessed with her height and would always make sure people knew it. she hit 5”0 in grade 7 or 8, which she has stayed at, but still purposely tries to make herself look shorter in photos. she got her period at 12 1/2 so im sure shes done growing and tell her that she was the one who made herself so short.

she has been an average weight her entire life. some years maybe a little chubbier and some years a little skinnier, but pretty average weight. never struggled with it until she was 12. she was 80-90lbs since she did hit her growth spurt much earlier than most people, but there were still some girls in the 70lbs range, which made her jealous. she started to notice how some girls were super small and she wanted to be like that too. she started restricting. she would est nothing all day, then come home and eat 5 cookies, which would be her only fold for the day. when you starve yourself, you get extremely hungry, especially for sweets. she wasn’t losing a lot of weight, but her mindset was very concerning. she didn’t tell us at first but over the years started to mention it. she also wanted to “stunt” her growth too. she has always been a picky eater too, so the normal “healthy” meals she sees disinterested her. i don’t really want to mention the darker size to her eating because the worst part is over, but some of the restrictiveness still remains. she barely eats any dietary fats, which is good for kids her age. she never has liked the typical “healthy fats” but she will get mad if we add too much oil onto something and always removes it in meals. looking at her food, she probably eats anywhere from 1200-1500 calories now. it was lower before but i want to focus on now.

since she has remained the same size since early teens, she went from being insecure about her size to trying to maintain her size, and brags about it and always brings up how shes short and wears “youth large” or “xxs”. we had to get fitted for cheer uniforms and the people suggested one size up, which was adult xs, and she was PISSED. she did not stop complaining about it all year and the next year made me go through a complicated trading system to get her the youth large. she is so fixated on this size and im concerned. yes, it fits her but the fixation is what concerns me. shes going to be the only 16 year old wearing a youth size and as much as she loves it, i don’t want other people to think shes weird.

we have gotten her help but she HATES it. they told her she was supposed to be 130lbs and 5”4-5”6 when shes older and got worried. i doubt she will be but she is now terrifed.

does anyone have any helpful advice? i tell her shes beautiful no matter what and that she isn’t fat, but she doesn’t care. she is very stubborn and bold and will do what she wants to get her way.