u/redve-dev

Got my life together, good job, car and shit. Took care of my personality (feel free to judge my reddit profile). Have hobbies, do nice things (Quoting on my woman friend "Asking you what's up be like I yesterday wrote a book and today climbed Mt. Everest". Got into trickstery, working out, doing cotton candy, parties with friends, going abroad, learning languages...)

Got many women friends (2 asked me what's going on when I skipped classes due cause i broke down yesterday) so I think they don't perceive me as creep or anything

The issue starts when it comes to meeting new people. There isn't any place to meet partner.

Mutual friend meeting/parties? Usually same people involved. How often someone unseen before joins you? How often is it single woman? How often she will be interested in you?

Clubs? Most people aren't there for long relation, and I never had success approaching someone short term (how many gals go to clubs to meet long term partner? How many want to sleel with guy they just met? Not so much apparently)

College? I study math, so not many women there. Tried with each one I was interested in, and guess the outcome as I post this. I should try with people from other subjects, but that assumes approaching them with little possibility of deeper connection as we share very little time together

Just put yourself there? I train martial arts for year for ~8h a week. Did gym for 3 years. Little people my age (23), and even less interested in dating. Literally half of my free time I put myself out there.

Job? I work remotely. In IT.

Apps? With good profile and "strategy" I got many likes, but turned out 95% profiles or more are literally empty or women like "I am the reward here". I got 4 matches within like 2 days (crazy good for most guys) and nobody replied after 1 day. Most people there are looking for a clown for their boredom this evening and don't bother meeting. Got into one relation from apps 4 months ago, but it ended when she got to hospital after su...de attempt. It lasted 2 weeks + 2 weeks of her in psych ward.

Just wait and somebody will appear? I have been waiting over 20 fucking years. How long should I wait? Next 30? I believe more in Santa Claus. I don't need support, I need a solution.

You need to feel good with yourself - I do. Read first line of this post. Everything I do I feel good with, and I like myself

Every "coach" who will get to my dms with advertisement will be ignored at best. I am not desperate you are looking for. Feel free to post your ideas in comments tho

I kinda ran out of ideas. Now I will get drunk as fuck and cry myself to sleep. Thanks for coming to my TED talk everybody

I am trying to condition my legs to kick without shinguards. At some point it starts to hurt so much I barely can stand. I am curious: How long it takes you to reach that point? How many kicks into heavy bag you do each session? What is the weight of your heavy bag (Google says 30-70kg but it's big range)?

Especially question to Muay Thai people as your shins are pretty fucking hard.

Like, can you do say 200 kicks like that? Or you kick one by one for 10 minutes? I know some people can break metal or wood with their shins, but I am curious what is mean, average or something like that

I (straight guy) use tinder, so I base my opinion on women's profiles, but the same applies to men obviously.

98% of profiles are literally empty. I spent like 10 minutes on my profile to select photos where I do cool things, made bio where I say what I have to offer, made some jokes etc.

Because every damn person which will look on my profile asks themselves the same question:

What do you have to offer? Why would I be interested about you? What differs you from thousands other people?

Turns out I am in minority of people aware of that thing. I usually spend about 3-5 seconds watching other person's profile, and it's not because I am shallow. It's because they are so damn empty!

Every photo is mirror selfie or regular selfie. Nothing I can write first message about. Bio? Either none, is filled with "void content" (technically some letters are written, but they don't say anything), or is just list of demands and complains.

Seriously: "Make me laugh", "Impress me", "I don't know what to write here", [just Instagram name], "Ask me anything", ".", "Don't text me unless..."

THE MOST CONCERNING PART IS IT'S ABOUT 95% OF PROFILES I SEE. I spent 10 minutes or so on my profile (Well, I had good photos prepared). If you don't bother this little to show yourself, why should I bother to try see something interesting about you?

I don't say my bio is perfect and can't be better, but compare the effort:

"Do you like nerds, gentlemen and men with rules? I will invite you to trampoline park, and teach you how to deal with annoying men [Joke about me training martial arts on photos]"

See? The other person already knows something about me, and can decide if I am interesting or not. They already know my vibe, some of sense of humor... Here is my answer to their silent question "Why should I care?"

I can honestly say, if I saw woman with profile like mine I would wish I matched with her. Can you say the same about your profile?

Hear me out:

This post was misunderstood by many people (me included, check out my post history). The thing is, we are still evil autistics who shouldn't hate each other, and be afraid to say what hurts us.

Mods should be modding and remove people who are racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic etc. The only people we are allowed to hate are NeuroTypicals.

I saw 5348903 posts (haven't count, just made some number up) that we need another sub. We used to co-exist in peace just yesterday, and the post was likely triggered by mod seeing one or two assholes, but now entire sub is on fire and people are terrified.

We got to admit - some people are asshole regardless their gender and they need to be called out. This is safe place for men, women, non-binaries, binaries and everyone else.

Just get yourself some choccy milk, and chill out. 99% of people here (including post author, people offended by it, people offended by people being offended by the post etc.) likely don't have bad intentions towards anybody.

Lads - A lot of men cause trouble and we can't lie to statistics. If you aren't asshole - the hatred is not about you. I know it sucks, but it is what it is

Lasses - Most oppressors are men, but not most men are oppressors. I believe mods will make good job removing the bad ones from this sub, and this will be safe place for you and others.

The post caused enormous amount of shitstorm, and nothing good will come out of it for anybody. If you enjoyed it yesterday, I believe you will enjoy it tomorrow. Let's just pretend like this post didn't happen, as it likely wasn't meant to 99% of the sub.

I go to sleep. I have used up all my autism for today. Post some trains I can watch tomorrow

My gym was associated with them, but for some reasons they decided to stop partnership. I see curriculum on exams has KMG logos (I browse PDF file with it) and my coach has some diplomas from Krav Maga Global and United Krav Maga (I am in Poland, and his diplomas are signed by Tomasz Adamczyk, and it seems he brought KM to Poland).

My question is: Can you tell me how legit those organizations are?

Here is example curriculum https://kravmaga-bratislava.sk/wp-content/uploads/P2_eng.pdf

So, basically I know many people got along by doing some mutual activity for a long time, like studying, working, hobby you both attend often...

But how many success stories are there in fast meetings, like concerts or parties? How common it is to get into something meaningful from one meeting?

I feel like trash how I behaved. We were argueing a lot, and we decided to break up after 18 months (15 too many). Boy, was I the asshole...

She was direct with what she wants, and I kept ignoring her. I really was passive aggressive. I did things I won't confess to, but it'd be 200% justified to call me creepy toxic piece of shit.

My intentions maybe were good and I thought I care how she feels, but the outcome... Jesus fucking Christ. I hope she is doing better now, and found something that makes her happy.

We both made a mistake of staying with person who cared very little about the other one or ourself, and we had no clue how to resolve conflicts. We both ignored our red flags, and had no self respect. I recall discussion when we both said we date because we are afraid nobody else would want us X.X We were about 20 yo. After break up I required mental health from a doctor, cause the relationship broke me too. In fact she also kept reminding me how useless I am.

I don't know if I should even apologize her. It was like 3 or 4 years ago, and I think I shouldn't remind her about myself. Maybe I should just let her forget and live her life.

If you somehow read this L. and you recall my username - I am terribly sorry. I know it won't change anything for you, but at least I realized wtf I have done, and I won't repeat those mistakes. I truly regret my behavior