u/bodyisT

Does anyone else have this? My payments get declined on throne and youpay and idk why

I hate masculinity. The idea men have to be a certain way is misandrist and the fact that masculinity has no actual benefits for the individual man says a lot. Providing, sacrificing, protecting, strength (physical and mental) do not benefit individual men or men as a group. It’s used to force men into a role to benefit women and the people in power.

One thing we as men should do: care for other men. Centre men and empower them. Don’t just say it, do it. We need to try and create change because most people do not care about men. It’s not a male loneliness epidemic, it’s a male isolation epidemic. Men are isolated and alienated. Individual men go unrecognised and men as a group are only ever shamed or treated as canon fodder.
Personally, I’ve been wanting to work with children because I know how much the way you’re raised can affect everything about yourself. I want kids to grow up feeling empowered. Letting boys know it’s ok to be themselves and they should support one another.

Not much to do with being trans but if I talk about it anywhere else people tell me I’m probably a trans woman (not knowing I’m a trans man) or I get told “welcome to being a man” or whatever.
I just feel ignored, lonely, undesirable, etc. And I hate the way men are treated. I had it a lot easier when I was a woman, personally.

But now I’m in a weird limbo. I am proud to be queer but I’m not the kinda person to express it a lot and I pass as just some random dude. But I also don’t fit in with straight cis guys. Even if I did, it still seems isolating. I just hate expectations and the misandry and transphobia like I’m not accepted in any community.

Why am I a man then if I hate it so much? I don’t know to be honest. Being trans for me isn’t “I like the male gender role so I’m a man”. It’s not performing the male gender role. There’s something intrinsic in me that just tells me I’m a man. I just know I am.

There are lots of men here that comment borderline sexual/femdom type things. I wonder if it’s a kink and if they still agree when they’re not horny or is it a genuine view? Because most feminist, pro female spaces don’t have this many men

It is actually astonishing that the concept of patriarchy is still used so much, especially in academia. It’s not the same as saying it’s typically men who have power (which is often true in a political sense), but it’s saying men (as a group) have the power.
This ignores women’s contributions and influence on society. For example, people blame gender roles on the patriarchy but they also exist in matriarchies. Gender roles, unfortunately, develop naturally. For example, people see that men typically are stronger physically, this leads to the idea that men are stronger and eventually to the idea that they should never show weakness. Both men and women contribute to this idea and both enforce it. The concept often substitutes description for explanation. Naming a pattern “patriarchy” does not explain how or why it emerged.

A lot of what feminists call “patriarchy” is stuff that *they* do. They push the idea that men are sexual predators, they’re emotionless, they’re not worthy of empathy, they’re less valuable and vulnerable, etc. They make fun of men that don’t live up to standards of masculinity. At this point, what’s the difference between them and the patriarchy? They are the so called patriarchy. Harmful male behaviour is attributed to male agency. Harmful female behaviour is also attributed to patriarchal conditioning. Their is an asymmetry in agency.

The falsifiability principle. This states that a theory must be testable and capable of being proven false to be considered meaningful. The patriarchy could be anything. You could point to anything and claim it’s the patriarchy. You can use the patriarchy to explain anything. But what actually is it? If it could be anything, it might as well be nothing. If men succeed, it’s the patriarchy. If women succeed, the patriarchy is adapting itself or allowing “exceptional women”. When men face issues, it’s “the patriarchy harms men too”.

What evidence, real or not, could ever actually disprove the existence of the patriarchy?

Circular arguments:
Assume society is patriarchal.
Observe gender difference.
Conclude the difference was caused by patriarchy.
Use the difference as proof patriarchy exists.

I have Virgo stellium (sun, mars, mercury, Jupiter) and I feel like it’s making me too analytical and critical to the point where I feel stuck and I can’t express myself. I am also Scorpio ascendant. I feel like it’s blocking my Leo moon and urge for creativity and expression.

I feel stuck in my head and too scared to speak or do things which just makes me irritable.

But I’m not sure if working with mercury will reinforce this or if it can help. Someone said working with mercury would remove its inhibition but I think I want less mercury. I’m not sure which planet would be best for me