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Even in sub ISO domme subreddits, many dommes are telling subs that it's easy to find a domme and that they shouldn't be posting their ad. That posting an ad is done to get people's attention (no shit) as if that's some sort of crime.

Anytime I've posted an ad, I've sincerely wanted whatever I asked for and I've ended up doing at least one session from it. I'm not trying to waste anyone's time, I'm not going to talk to a domme for more than 20 minutes without some sort of tribute, BUT yeah I've also enjoyed getting different sorts of messages and replies and looking through profiles. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with subs "trying to get attention," as in enjoying extra engagement along the way, as long as we're honest about our intent. Human attention and connection are a big part of why people are on reddit or any other social platform. I understand that dommes are going to work here, but I'm not. I'm on vacation. I'm trying to chill and have fun.

I used to enjoy posting an ad and looking at the different profiles and then doing a session or two, but nowadays the dommes are so dang serious and suspicious. They act like I'm supposed to be treating this like work, too. Like I'm supposed to clock in and unzip, no funny business!

I also think subs have gotten more judgy and picky. I don't see a problem with lazy dommes asking for fin and not wanting much dom, or having barren profiles, unreasonable expectations, and low effort conversation starters. Whenever there's a grift that seems low energy/high profit, you're going to find low effort attempts to grab a piece of the pie. I wouldn't send to a domme who wasn't dominant and engaging in some way, but on the other hand the dommes that I've been drawn to have had a well ingrained habit of doing and getting just about whatever they want. Are we really going to judge dommes for not all being type A worker ants dutifully following the findom reddit playbook?

Anyway, I appreciate the irony in bringing this up via lengthy bitching of my own, but there's my little rant and maybe I'm off but I personally think several findom subreddits (especially those dedicated to sub ISO domme ads) used to be more friendly and easy-going.

Just curious to hear from some others on what your favorite experience is. Not necessarily the time when you sent/got sent the most, but just any time that stood out to you more than all the rest?

I think I should stop findom since I don't have much money. Anyone else like this?

before I started taking anti-depressants I wasn't really interested in findom or really any D/s stuff but now these more psychological things have replaced sex in my mind and it's the only way I can really have a lasting erection or cum. Should I be worried about this? I'm kinda shy about mentioning it to my psychiatrist.

So I have been sexually submissive for years. Still am today but I consider my self more of a switch. I started out watching Princess Rene femdom clips and eventually found findom which is essentially the most real and consequential way of being dominated by someone you have never made irl contact with. Money is power so it works well as a prop in power exchange.

Anyway, I became more and more interested in being the dominant one and after a few tries, found a beautiful woman who loves being bossed around, controlled, and denied orgasms and I must say, my experience with femdom and findom has set me up perfectly to be very good at this. I’m also attractive with a large dick so that absolutely helps too.

You do have a considerable amount of control and consequence in someone’s life when doing this and so I’m not pushing for financial punishment when she orgasms without permission by accident. Not that I wouldn’t be willing to do that with someone but she seems very nice and not everyone is interested in the wild West approach that you get on act where people would take your last penny even if it meant depression and financial ruin.

I just think it’s interesting because I truly believe that all of the ideas that dominants have on X, work for both genders and work on both genders. Even though you really only see it going one way.

you're making all of us look bad. Like dude you're a human being, try to like fucking be capable of conversation with a woman before you just go full freak mode.

Trying to slow down my thoughts enough to go to sleep, just not there yet. Been a long stressful day. Ugh insomnia.

I like to send to a lot of different dommes, even if it’s just smaller amounts to some. I’ve heard the term “community sub” before although don’t know if that’s really true for me, I just like to spread sends around (although there’s definitely a few dommes I like sending to extra and have sent lots more to). Sometimes though, I wish I could find just find that one domme who’s right for me, who just takes control of me completely and makes me stop sending to anyone else once and for all so I can only serve her, and doesn’t give me a choice in it. Does anyone else feel this way or is it just me?

So I have been sexually submissive for years. Still am today but I consider my self more of a switch. I started out watching Princess Rene femdom clips and eventually found findom which is essentially the most real and consequential way of being dominated by someone you have never made irl contact with. Money is power so it works well as a prop in power exchange.

Anyway, I became more and more interested in being the dominant one and after a few tries, found a beautiful woman who loves being bossed around, controlled, and denied orgasms and I must say, my experience with femdom and findom has set me up perfectly to be very good at this. I’m also attractive with a large dick so that absolutely helps too.

You do have a considerable amount of control and consequence in someone’s life when doing this and so I’m not pushing for financial punishment when she orgasms without permission by accident. Not that I wouldn’t be willing to do that with someone but she seems very nice and not everyone is interested in the wild West approach that you get on act where people would take your last penny even if it meant depression and financial ruin.

I just think it’s interesting because I truly believe that all of the ideas that dominants have on X, work for both genders and work on both genders. Even though you really only see it going one way.

Hi,
I'm just curious, this question is for all the Goddess here. Also guys can say what you think.
Don't you think that deep inside you feel something for your subs? Like actual love for your subs.
I mean I get it, most be amazing that someone is always worshiping you and the ego bust an all that stuff.
But if you are in a relationship it suppose that you love the guy and been in a dynamic with other guy (subs) is like cheating because you are fulfilling the needs of the other guy too.
I mean I've been in love and don't even cheat the girl in my thoughts.

And for the domes that are single is the same thing it suppose that you don't this so why satisfying them like this.

Well and another point is that if I'm in relationship with someone and is serious and I found out that she's doing this with other men I would be supper piss of. I even end things right there.

Well I'm just curios about it.
Maybe I'm wrong.

So I came across this girl on Instagram who instantly caught my eye she was really, really pretty, phenomenal , and just straight up hot. We started talking, and pretty soon she told me she was a stripper, which honestly wasn’t a surprise because I kinda got that vibe from her IG what she was posting etc . That just made me more curious about her, and our conversations kept flowing.

During one of our chats, she mentioned wanting to get her nails done. Right then, something just clicked inside me I genuinely wanted to do that for her. So I offered to cover the cost. She looked surprised and asked, “Do you really want to do that?” I didn’t hesitate and said, “Yeah, please. I would actually love to do that for you.” She sent me her Cash App, and I sent the money immediately. After that, she started sending me pictures and little vlogs of her getting her nails done, thanking me repeatedly. I kept telling her, “No, no, no, thank you. I’m just glad I could do that for you and help out.” Honestly, seeing her so happy made me feel amazing.

I don’t know how or why don’t ask me lol , but I asked if she wanted to get her hair done too. She hesitated and said, “Isn’t that a lot for you?” I replied, “Okay, maybe not today, but tomorrow I’d love to pay for your hair as well.” She really liked the idea, and I was honestly so hyped to do it. She was so gorgeous, and being able to do those things for her felt incredibly rewarding.

It didn’t stop there cuz we kept talking and chatting almost everyday, I found myself paying for her morning coffee multiple times , sending for an uber home sometimes if she mentions wanting to get one , just little things to brighten her day. As we got closer, I learned more about her life, her dreams, and what made her tick. We’re still in contact now, and looking back, I know it was a real simp move. But I feel great about it. Making her happy made me happy, and those moments of connection were worth every penny.

I hope this fits the forum standards.

I've never been into findom before. My fetish interests were always adjacent to findom. Mostly femdom related stuff, pegging, cuckolding, toilet play, etc. But I recently had an in-person with a woman who practices findom. I sort of fell for her and after her session I started buying her vids, messaging her online, sending her tips. Then, I found other women like her and I started doing the same with them. I had never been to these fans websites before, and HOLY CRAP! Before I knew it I was truly spiraling, spending way more money than I was comfortable with and unsure how this all happened. It took over my life for a few days.

Anyway, I'm confused by this fetish. Are people into findom itself or are they into other fetishes and just got drawn into findom because the women are demanding money? I get that there is something thrilling about being told what to do, pretty girls being mean, and losing control. But I feel like there has to be something else that draws you in at first. Some of the women on these live cams aren't even doing anything, they are just ordering you to give them money. I get it when they are asking you to buy them videos, but when they are just asking you to send them money to pay for their coffee, dinner, etc. What's the point?

I guess I just feel like this fetish is predatory When you are watching porn already and you have the dopamine rush going, it's very easy to get convinced to hand over money. It's the same problem with online gambling or live-service video games. But what really upsets me is that all professional providers seem to be doing it these days. I personally want to be able to pay sexworkers/porn stars for their work but not got drawn into findom.

Anyone else feel the same as me? Or perhaps someone can defend findom and tell me why I'm wrong?

Prior to venturing into the crazy world of online findom (from a longstanding IRL findom dynamic) I had never come across an actual adult (21+) virgin in the wild!

Is it as common as it seems for subs drawn to findom to be virgins? Are there subs out there making an active choice to not have sex?

Been absolutely drowning in work the past few months to the point I basically didn’t have time to do anything other than work. Was considering sending again to a domme I had sent a lot to back in the day, but not sure if that’s considered annoying. I can see I’m still at the top of her leaderboard for sends, but I im not sure if dommes want high consistent availability over intermittent availability (even if substantial sends are there)

So some 5 days ago I decided to quit findom once again, this time I deleted all my accounts and unfollowed everyone who I identified as a trigger.

Its working pretty well, maybe even to well. Since doing that I havent gotten aroused even a single time and Its kind of bothering me.

Anyone here went through something similar?

Flair reminder since some people don’t read them before interacting.

This honestly just makes me sad. I used to see dommes being cruel to other women occasionally but I feel as though I see it all the time on here lately. The whole homewrecking thing is especially disgusting to me. I haven’t seen many other subs comment on this so i’m curious if others just aren’t seeing it or if they don’t care.

As Mark looked through the contract carefully, he couldn’t believe what he was reading. He already thought it was odd for Steffi to initiate a prenuptial agreement, but the contents were truly shocking for him. It was full of clauses and conditions that protected her but left him financially exposed.

“Steffi, you can’t be serious about this!” he exclaimed.

“I’m very serious,” she calmly replied. “It’s very reasonable and fair. It states that in the event of a divorce, no one will be at fault.”

“But it says I still have to pay you alimony no matter what happens, on top of half my salary.” He called out the flaw in her logic.

“That’s just what exes do.” She remained calm, sounding reasonable.

He wordlessly stared back as her attempt to gaslight him failed.

“Ok, I meant that’s what you do,” she clarified. Without explicitly mentioning it, she reminded him how he consented to being her personal ATM after their first breakup as boyfriend/girlfriend years ago. “Honestly, I didn’t think you’d have a problem with this.”

“How can I be fine with this? What’s going to stop you from leaving me for another man?”

“Do you think I’m that manipulative?”

He knew the truth, but he stopped short of verbalizing it.

Wanting to end the stalemate, she made a definitive statement. “I’ll make this easy for you. Sign the papers and we’ll continue the wedding planning. Otherwise…well, you may not like the alternative.”

“Steffi…” he pleaded for her to be rational.

“And until then, I think you should sleep in the guest room,” she added. “Maybe that’ll help you make the right decision.”

*****

The next evening

Steffi knocked on the door of the guest bedroom before opening it. She saw Mark lying in bed reading. “What are you reading?” she asked.

“It’s nothing,” he said, turning off the tablet’s display. “Do you need something?”

“Actually, I do.” She walked closer to him and took his hand. “Come with me.” She walked to the master bedroom with him in tow. She hopped on the bed and gestured to him to join her.

“What’s happening?” he wondered in confusion.

She opened up to him with an admission. “This whole situation is hurting me as much as it’s hurting you.” Lying back on the overstuffed pillow, she spread her legs. “Come closer.”

He crawled into bed with her and nestled his face in between her legs. Without further prodding, he began performing oral sex until she had a powerful and messy climax on his face. She rested for a moment basking in the afterglow.

“You can go back to your own bed now,” she casually dismissed him.

He looked at her in disbelief.

She ignored his reaction. “Oh, and you should set your alarm. Remember, we’re meeting with Maya and her new boyfriend early in the morning.”

Feeling dejected, he went back to the guest room.

*****

Two evenings later

While watching a movie on the sofa, Steffi lay on her side with her head resting on Mark’s lap. After the movie ended, she lazily rose from the sofa. “We should go to sleep,” she said.

Looking down, he couldn’t hide his sorrow. He followed her upstairs. As she reached the master bedroom, she wished him a good night without making eye contact.

“Hold on, Steffi.” He went into the guest room and immediately reappeared. In his hand was the contract, which he held out to her.

Giving him a cautious smile, she took the contract. Opening it, she looked through it.

Before I start, not trying to promote myself, just want to ask! Please delete if it counts ❤️

Hey piggies! As a domme who is somewhat new to this, but not new to bdsm and degrading, I’ve started to wonder something. Is it a turn off when a domme is into just the money? I found myself enjoying being the domme and degrading paypigs, but i’ve seen some dommes who are lazy and just want the money without doing the little bit of work you have to do for it.

Most dommes think this is just a grab money and go when it’s genuinely not for most cases.

Is it a turn off for you all? Does it affect how you react to said domme?

Let me know! I’m very curious!!