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My sibling has been getting excluded from everything it seems. The thing is it is her fault. She says the most rude and mean spirited things with venom in her voice then when people react she says it was just a joke.

Her last slumber party had all 5 girls go home in tears before they even spent the night. My sister was making rude comments about their acne, weight and hair. She doesn’t even say it in a joking tone- it’s like she is angry and says it with the nastiest tone imaginable.

Our parents insist that my sister is just joking and that everyone needs to learn to take a joke.

No one will hear me because I’m the family punching bag. It’s constant and they wonder why I hide in my room all day. I’m told that I should take my sisters side no matter what and always have her back. Why would I back up a bully?

For example if they have a masters degree and work for the government but continue to live the gritty wook lifestyle outside of work

I’m in my 30s but am frequently mistaken for late teens/early 20s to the point that I can’t always buy alcohol because people insist my ID must be fake.

I think this is because most women have had kids by my age and the hormone/body changes associated with it are mistaken for aging. Is this possible?

I never thought anything of them but i met someone who acts like it’s a big deal and must really hurt.

There are so many ways to gamify it

For example a disheveled photo eating takeout and making a goofy face

I tried explaining that I think it is healthiest to stay on my own account and that I’m not interested in being enmeshed with her. She calls it rebellion and laments about her terrible rebellious child to anyone who will listen.

The only reason I couldn’t move out until I was 20 is because she withheld all of my identification documents because she said I wasn’t ready for them yet. I didn’t know where I was born so it took a while to get replacements.

From 18-20 she had access to my bank account because of the documents thing. She would borrow money without asking or telling me what it was for then return a portion of it saying that I owed her the rest. She had my bank cards and information so that I could only access my finances through her. It felt like she viewed me as an extension of herself.

I also eat pretty clean the other 2000 calories per day- fruit veg beans nuts eggs sometimes cheese or grains.

My weekly training is:

7-8 hours martial arts (Muay Thai, jiu jitsu and mma)

1 hour at the pool (half hour treading water, half hour water jogging)

3 hours physical therapy/strength training (focus on injury atm)

-20 hours walking through muddy fields for work

-sometimes a 5-10 hour hike or paddle

I weigh 125 lbs and am 5’4”

It is physically uncomfortable to not exercise at all.

Have the conflicting coworkers duke it out in the octagon. Two coworkers enter, only one leaves. Fight to the death!

This works because im too likable to ever end up in there. I’d pay good money to watch though.

For example, if someone says they are hungry and are looking forward to lunch and the next person interrupts to one up them with how hungry they are. Or if someone says they can’t wait to go to bed and the next person jumps in to talk about how much more tired they are. It’s just tacky and attention seeking. Like they can’t handle the idea of the conversation focusing on anyone but them.

It feels not very difficult so I’m not sure if it counts. I can hold a conversation while treading.

I don’t want to co-opt a label if it doesn’t apply to me. But I am often asked why I exclude myself from conversations and it is simply because there is too much background noise for me to hear.

My doctors say it’s auditory integration problems- my ears work fine. It’s been an issue my entire life.

Does size or gender play a role in how an altercation is perceived?