u/Top_Cable8799

So it's been a while I'm in Ahmedabad and I've seen these words and heard this line like 100s of times.

Almost every Gen C who doesn't like being pointed out or just doesn't agree with you or is heartbroken by their own expectations just randomly throws away statements like

Sexual Harrasment ka case lga dugi/ lg jaega...

Like seriously?

And it's funny how uncles and mods take them seriously even after knowing they're wrong but still sympathize with the self proclaimed harrased babies.

The worst I came across was literally when a 22YO who's back and forth around this 28YO suddenly started hating him and threatened a complaint based on party events after seeing him with his GF.

I mean what kind of betrayal did she feel from a guy she met 12 hrs earlier and barely might have talked for like what 3-4 hrs.

She threw a tantrum and suddenly everyone in the meet-up started sympathizing with her and treating the guy like some criminal.

When I talked to the guy, he's kinda shattered!

Also also, some guy was rude to people in their DMs (not bad language, just rude) and suddenly people started flagging him as a harraser.

Ik legally these POS complaints doesn't have any leverage but the way judgemental people react to it is literally f**ked up...

PS: Putting it in Ahemdabad Subreddit cuz it's very normal here, in Punjab n MP public judgement waits for a fair trial. (I lived there, so I know)

Hey Guys

I'm planning to write a novel where narrator is a smart phone.

Do you think it's a good idea?

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This year I’ve already had two situations with genuinely good women end for completely different reasons. I’m tired, and I’m starting to wonder if I’m just good at finding connection but bad at finding something that stays.

The recent one is hitting harder.

Met this amazing woman (let’s call her A). We talked for around 3–4 weeks. In that time we got surprisingly close personal family stories, opinions, everyday life stuff.

She was comfortable around me, had these shy smiles at my terrible jokes, and conversations felt easy.

We went out 3 times in 1 week.

Important context: early on she said she was looking for something casual because of family constraints / where

she was emotionally. We still kept seeing each other.

This were smooth and everything felt so good. And on our last date she literally said "When will I see you again."

Then around 6 AM the next morning she sent

“Hey, I’ve thought about it and I really enjoyed hanging out with you and getting to know you, but if I’m being honest, I just don’t feel the kind of romantic chemistry I’m looking for. I do think you deserve to be with someone who genuinely feels that way about you, and I don’t want to force something that isn’t naturally there. So I think it’s best if we leave it here…”

We had a thoughtful conversation after. No ghosting, no cruelty.

I said goodbye while still hoping it wouldn’t be permanent,

“I’m just leaving the door open… Hope to see you again someday ❤️”

What’s messing with me:

👉 She wanted to know when she’d see me again.

👉 Shared personal things.

👉 Seemed comfortable.

👉 Smiled, opened up, cared.

Then: “No romantic chemistry.”

I understand people can enjoy you and still not want you romantically. Intellectually I get it.

Emotionally I’m stuck on:

How can something feel warm, safe, and promising… and still stop?

I’m also realising I’m not only sad about her. I’m exhausted by the pattern of meeting good people and ending up alone anyway.

Would appreciate perspectives, especially from people who’ve been the person saying “I like you, just not romantically.”

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This year I’ve already had two situations with genuinely good women end for completely different reasons. I’m tired, and I’m starting to wonder if I’m just good at finding connection but bad at finding something that stays.

The recent one is hitting harder.

Met this amazing woman (let’s call her A). We talked for around 3–4 weeks. In that time we got surprisingly close personal family stories, opinions, everyday life stuff.

She was comfortable around me, had these shy smiles at my terrible jokes, and conversations felt easy.

We went out 3 times in 1 week.

Important context: early on she said she was looking for something casual because of family constraints / where

she was emotionally. We still kept seeing each other.

This were smooth and everything felt so good. And on our last date she literally said "When will I see you again."

Then around 6 AM the next morning she sent

“Hey, I’ve thought about it and I really enjoyed hanging out with you and getting to know you, but if I’m being honest, I just don’t feel the kind of romantic chemistry I’m looking for. I do think you deserve to be with someone who genuinely feels that way about you, and I don’t want to force something that isn’t naturally there. So I think it’s best if we leave it here…”

We had a thoughtful conversation after. No ghosting, no cruelty.

I said goodbye while still hoping it wouldn’t be permanent,

“I’m just leaving the door open… Hope to see you again someday ❤️”

What’s messing with me:

👉 She wanted to know when she’d see me again.

👉 Shared personal things.

👉 Seemed comfortable.

👉 Smiled, opened up, cared.

Then: “No romantic chemistry.”

I understand people can enjoy you and still not want you romantically. Intellectually I get it.

Emotionally I’m stuck on:

How can something feel warm, safe, and promising… and still stop?

I’m also realising I’m not only sad about her. I’m exhausted by the pattern of meeting good people and ending up alone anyway.

Would appreciate perspectives, especially from people who’ve been the person saying “I like you, just not romantically.”

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As a kid I had this huge checklist of what kind of a girl I want and it's mostly inspired by anime characters, and fictional sitcom women...

I literally understand no one's going to be perfect (I'm not 14 anymore) and there always are quirks that comes alongside such character. Then there's mentality difference too.

But over time in current dating marketing, things started getting sucky and I started feeling like maybe she doesn't exist.

Untill recently, I went on a blind date with this really amazing lady I met on reddit only. She's everything I ever wanted.

But then she told me about her orthodox family and how she shut any door of possibility on any long term relationship.

Since I had such a huge wave of affection on our first date itself, I decided to walk away. No casual, not even friends till I can process the whole affection wave...

It's been 7 days n now I'm questioning every single decision of my life since...

Was it the right call to walk away completely, atleast till I can process the affection????

I remember being a part of this reddit group where people were looking for flatmates n flats, I can't find it

Can someone help?

As a kid I had this huge checklist of what kind of a girl I want and it's mostly inspired by anime characters, and fictional sitcom women...

I literally understand no one's going to be perfect and there always are quirks that comes alongside such character. Then there's mentality difference too.

But over time in current dating marketing, things started getting sucky and I started feeling like maybe she doesn't exist.

Untill recently, I went on a blind date with this really amazing lady I met on reddit only. She's 80-90% of everything I ever wanted.

But then she told me about her orthodox family and how she shut any door of possibility on any long term relationship.

Since I had such a huge wave of affection on our first date itself, I decided to walk away. No casual, not even friends till I can process the whole affection wave...

It's been 3 days n now I'm questioning every single decision of my life since...

Was it the right call to walk away completely, atleast till I can process the affection????

As a kid I had this huge checklist of what kind of a girl I want and it's mostly inspired by anime characters, and fictional sitcom women...

I literally understand no one's going to be perfect and there always are quirks that comes alongside such character. Then there's mentality difference too.

But over time in current dating marketing, things started getting sucky and I started feeling like maybe she doesn't exist.

Untill recently, I went on a blind date with this really amazing lady I met on reddit only. She's 80-90% of everything I ever wanted.

But then she told me about her orthodox family and how she shut any door of possibility on any long term relationship.

Since I had such a huge wave of affection on our first date itself, I decided to walk away. No casual, not even friends till I can process the whole affection wave...

It's been 3 days n now I'm questioning every single decision of my life since...

Was it the right call to walk away completely, atleast till I can process the affection????

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I was always this nice-on-the-books kind of guy till college, so I never really had much of a social life. While everyone else was out making memories, partying, or building friend circles, I was mostly focused on doing “the right thing” and building a stable future.

Fast forward to now... Life’s decent on paper, but finding someone I can genuinely vibe with and talk to daily feels next to impossible. Most of my friends are married by now, so it gets difficult getting a hold of them to hang with.

I miss having people to randomly share memes with at 2 AM, talk about life, send music recommendations, discuss anime/sitcoms/philosophy/random shower thoughts, or just sit in silence on a call while both of us do our own thing.

I’m honestly pretty introverted and awkward initially, but once I get comfortable, I can talk about literally anything from career struggles and existential crises to why Ross and Rachel were definitely on a break 😭

Would genuinely love to meet fellow introverts or emotionally tired extroverts who are looking for meaningful friendships without the pressure or weirdness.

If you also feel like making friends as an adult is strangely harder than Dark Souls, feel free to text

PS: I make jokes when I'm scared or uncomfortable!

This like from "2 deewane sheher me" hit hard...

"My biggest insecurity is jb sabkuchh perfect hoga n I'll be attached to you, tab tumhe yaad ayega I'm not good enough. Or you deserve better! Or you should have been with your ex!

And you would not leave me but tolerate me. I don't deserve that. I'm protecting me from the pain of that later..."

Am I the only one who could relate to it so hard?