u/ThemeJazzlike5901

I saw 3 of them, 3 different days now.

1. Smoking right in front of my apartment while stretching (i get it, he has free will) but it makes me weird while leaving my house.

2. Lying down on the sidewalk, like his personal bed. Ofcourse with a cigarette on his hand.

3. This one genuinely pissed me off a lot. He was peeing in someone’s garden right next to my house and almost bumped me while chaining up his pants.
   I got scared and disgusted out of my wits.

Is this common in Nagoya or big cities like Nagoya?
I live in Mizuho ward

I live in a foreign country and met a desi guy on a dating app (let's call him A) through the app and when he asked me what I am looking for, I made it clear that I am only looking for friends for right now. He also said he's planning to return to India after his term, and since I want to settle in this country, I told him that we should just hangout as friends, he agreed.

Yesterday we went to an international event together and after the event, I was supposed to meet a guy friend from another country who is interested in India (let's call him B).
B asked A to join us, and since it wasn't a date anyways, I didn't mind at all.
After eating I got quite drunk so they both helped me till the game center (our next destination). At the game center I was feeling better, so I asked A to let me stand on my own, he was grabbing my waist and hand very tightly and it was actually hurting.
He let it go for sometime and then held it again.
We parted ways with B and he offered to drop me home.
I said I can go by myself, so he said he will drop me as It is on the way.
When we reached to the front gate of my apartment, he asked me if he can charge his phone before leaving. He said it multiple times during the night before this that his phone's battery is dead, and since he took the effort to drop me home, I invited him in (I never let any man come to my house, I had become good friends with this one and trusted him so I let him).

I made tea for him and offered some snacks and sutta. He sat on my bed and I sat down on the floor to continue doing some office work.
He wasn't leaving even after 30 minutes, and rather just sat next dangerously close to me on the floor. I made an excuse to throw the trash away so I we can go out and I drop him to the station, but he said let's do that later. He was also continuously saying that I shouldn't be doing office work and should be resting blah blah.

Then he asked me directly if I want to make out with him. I was frozen, I had told him quite a few times before that I am a virgin (I am 25 he's 23) and I have no desires to do it with someone I am not in a relationship with. So he started gaslighting me by saying he's not asking for sex, only make out.

I literally had to apologize to him because I didn't want to do it, and made some fake sob story of molestation experience as a child to justify my disinterest because he was continuously saying that this is abnormal and will cause problems in my future relationships.

At the end, i said if we date i can do stuff with him for which he didn’t respond, because obviously he was only looking for something casual.

I am so pissed because of it since morning today because it seems like his kindness was performative and he was trying to get into my bed since the beginning.
I have been living in this country for 3+ years now and this is the first time I experienced something like this, and it’s frustrating that it was a desi guy who made me experience this.

From what I could understand, it was something related to saving Japan and Japanese god. But I couldn't understand most of it.

Is it just a "me" problem or your 🍒 also randomly decide to humiliate you in public?

I cannot go out without a padded bra anymore because my erected nipps are visible right through a normal bra unless I wear like a thick sweater.

It happens whenever I feel cold or I get excited, AND THIS IS AFFECTING MY LIFE😭.

My 🍒 decided to betray me again right now, so I stuffed some tissues for the time being. That looks weird too😭

How do you all handle this?

PS-: To all the men planning to jump into my DMs after reading this. F off

No I won't close my DMs, you have been warned so don't be a creep.