u/Southern_Mud3841

I’m 31M and struggling with jealousy when I look at people I know on social media. Some mates and acquaintances seem to have everything, independent lifestyle, stable careers, travelling often, active social lives, relationships, always out doing something. It feels like everyone I know has moved on while I’m still in my hometown living with my parents due to setbacks in my life.

I’m currently doing my MSc online (Part time) and , hoping to land an entry level role soon. But it’s hard not to compare. There’s one girl from my hometown who moved out for a tech job and now has a very glamorous lifestyle. She’s always travelling to new places, going to work events, celebrating birthdays abroad, surrounded by friends, and just seems very confident and outgoing. I find myself checking her profile often, even looking at tagged posts and the people she’s with, and it’s turning into a fixation.

It’s getting out of hand and affecting my mindset and confidence. How do you stop feeling jealous and constantly comparing yourself to others?

For people who were working in corporate/tech (or similar fields) and got laid off, contracts ended, or let go. Let’s say you have a few months of savings left but the job market is brutal right now, especially in tech, and those savings are running out.

What are you doing to survive financially? Are you picking up minimum wage jobs, deliveries, or trying to make money using your existing skills?

Would you take any job (even low-paid) while searching, or do you try to stay within your field first?

Also curious, how do people in workplaces or college/school circles usually react to this? Do they look down on it or are they generally understanding?

I’m 31M and struggling with jealousy when I look at people I know on social media. Some mates and acquaintances seem to have everything, independent lifestyle, stable careers, travelling often, active social lives, relationships, always out doing something. It feels like everyone I know has moved on while I’m still in my hometown living with my parents due to setbacks in my life.

I’m currently doing my MSc online (Part time) and an internship online, hoping to land an entry level role soon. But it’s hard not to compare. There’s one girl from my hometown who moved out for a tech job and now has a very glamorous lifestyle. She’s always travelling to new places, going to work events, celebrating birthdays abroad, surrounded by friends, and just seems very confident and outgoing. I find myself checking her profile often, even looking at tagged posts and the people she’s with, and it’s turning into a fixation.

It’s getting out of hand and affecting my mindset and confidence. How do you stop feeling jealous and constantly comparing yourself to others?

I came across a girl online through family and mutual friends. We come from a similar background (same culture/religion). She moved out (From strict family background), works in tech, travels a lot and has a more outgoing lifestyle compared to most people in our community. She is quite beautiful (wears revealing clothes) and I ended up checking her profile a lot, even going through her friends/family pages just to see more pictures of her. This has been going on for over 2 years now.

Now it’s getting out of hand. I’m currently unemployed, doing my MSc, living at home and not really doing much else, so I keep going back to her profile. I know it’s unhealthy but I can’t seem to stop. How do I break out of this?