u/Several-Sprinkles-10

Hey. I have POF and MET UK CAA in a few days. What’s your recommendation for the next few days. Ideally I would want a high grade as possible but I’m so done I’ll take a 76 if needs to be.

My plan is to do a mock, pick the lowest 3 topics and then just go through them till I have a strong understanding and since and repeat. Well that’s what I’ve been doing already so I think I’ll just carry on. Then the 2 days before I’ll do L500 and then L300 night before and morning of the exam. My aim is to have been through the UK bank 4-5 times before exams in total. I’ve done them about 3-4 times now.

Any advice would be great :)

Ok. I know two people who have a parent who has died recently or is facing an illness that means their time is limited. I know these two people, they are close and the same age as me. But I don’t know their parents. But them going through this grief hurts me a lot. Like my mind goes elsewhere. But it makes no sense as k don’t know their parent. Why is that?

I’m trying to lock in big time. I’m talking about being locked in for the next 2-3 years.

Ok. So for context I am doing an intensive course. My lack of discipline caused me to be delayed as I have exams to complete. I have about 2 years till I finish my course. I wanna be next level disciplined as everything I want is on the other side of discipline. I wanna be locked in for the next 2 years. I want to get phenomenal grades in my course, and I want to save money. I can’t work more hours as I don’t have “time” since I am messing around. I can’t get better grades because I’m messing around.

So is there a quote that changed your life. Something you say to yourself everyday. So when your slacking you have something to get you back up

I’ve been trying to understand why family situations still affect me so strongly as an adult, and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar.

When I was a kid, my extended family had a huge fallout. Before that there was always tension and arguments, but holidays were still the one time everyone came together. One Christmas when I was around 10, I spent the entire day waiting for them to arrive and nobody came. After that, the family basically split apart for years.

I never really processed it properly. I just carried on being the “good kid,” worked hard in school, pushed through everything, etc. But when I got older and went through a difficult period emotionally at university, I started drinking to cope with overwhelm/stress/loneliness. It slowly became a really unhealthy coping mechanism and consumed a few years of my life more than I’d like to admit.

The weird thing is my strongest urges to drink even now are almost always linked to family situations or having to see certain family members. It’s like those old feelings from childhood instantly come back and my brain wants escape/numbness.

I’ve rebuilt my life a lot over the last few years and I’m doing much better now. I’ve worked really hard on healthier coping mechanisms, discipline, communication, routines etc. But I still feel like those family wounds live somewhere deep in my nervous system.

What’s confusing me recently is that these memories actually feel more emotional now than before. I think it might be because love/future/family has started feeling real to me now, and I keep thinking about how badly I want my future kids to experience warmth/stability around holidays instead of what I experienced.

Anyway. I’ve been trying to lock in and study hard. But everytime I do i remember the past and I can’t focus. Idk if it’s because when it was all going downhill I used to imagine this exact life I am living now. I am living the life I used to escape to.

Is there a reason for this. I hate that it haunts me so much.

Hey. So a little crazy but I want to get 100s in 4 subjects. It’s a crazy goal I know. And it’s not about getting 100s it’s about discipline and work ethic for me to get there. I think the habits and skills and the person I become in the process is far more important that the 100, and obvs I need to pass them lol.

I have 3 exams in 8 days and the 4th about a week after. So I’ll be spending the next 8 days on rhe first 3.

This is going to be my accountability post. I’ll keep some random strangers updated on my progress lol.

Hey. I’ve seen people attempt to do 100 hours of study in a week. It’s just under 15 hours per day. I wanna push myself to challenge it. Any suggestions??

FYi I know it’s a lot, but hey what’s life without challenging yourself a bit 😂

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I’ve attempted this before lol. And failed so I’ve already been working on developing habits to aid me with this. I’ve learnt that it all starts from day 0. You want to set yourself up for success. I’ve already meal prepped my dinners (which I always do for the week anyway), done my laundry, cleaned my apartment, did some self care as there will only be the bare minimum of showering and brushing my teeth during the week.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the psychology behind this because I genuinely feel like falling in love changed the way I approach life and my goals.

Before this, I already had ambitions and things I cared about, but loving someone seemed to amplify everything. I started wanting to work harder, become more disciplined, improve myself, and build a future instead of just getting through life day by day.

What’s interesting is that it doesn’t feel like I’m changing for the person in an unhealthy way. It’s more like loving someone unlocked a stronger version of myself. I care more about my career, my routines, my health, my mindset, and long-term stability now. Almost like my brain suddenly attached deeper meaning to my future.

At the same time, I know love can also make some people lose themselves or become emotionally dependent, so I’m curious about where the difference comes from psychologically.

Has anyone else experienced this?
And from a psychology perspective, what actually causes this shift in motivation and self-development after falling in love?

Right. So my boyfriend and I have been friends for a few years. We both had feelings for each other but didn’t say or do anything about it till a year ago. It’s been 9 months since we first said I love you.

Since I have been working harder with my career to the point people above me have noticed and congratulated me. Before I wasn’t doing so well, I didn’t the the work ethic, I was also me me me so the consequences of my laziness fell on me.

I have always wanted to do well but I was always lazy. Since we said “I love you” to each other I have been doing a lot better for myself. People have noticed and have recognised the improvement (I did keep the bar low for myself though) and I continue to strive to do better. I am still fixing the mess I caused before we said I love you but I’m getting there messily.

Anyway. Has falling in love encouraged you to work harder and do better.

Right. This is a bit of a hard post but I want to become better so I need a bit kf a hand.

My discipline is terrible. When I was younger I used to be able to study 12-14 hours a day. I could study for 3-4 hours in one sitting.

Then I went to uni because my parents made me. I didn’t want to go. I was working towards a degree but didn’t have a why. My discipline towards studying collapsed and I started to party. I saw that I didn’t want to live like that and had 0 interest in my degree so I started putting my energy towards other areas in life. Finished uni and took a gap year. I worked 2 jobs, volunteered at 2 places and did a course.

I then started working towards my ATPLs and they weren’t going so well. I was confused why so. I was told by an instructor and colleagues I don’t work hard enough, this career isn’t for me as k can’t work hard. Left me feeling crap as I know I can work hard, i “worked” 80 hours a week during my gap year, same in my final year of uni. I was failing, struggling etc. anyway after 9 months and some fails I realised my discipline is crap, which is terrible for a career where discipline is so important. I can work hard, I’m willing to make the sacrifice but I don’t have the discipline. I’ve already accepted it’ll be challenging for me to get my first job. I’ve made peace worth that. But I do not want to repeat the same mistakes.

Anyway since coming to that conclusion I’ve been trying to get better and have made progress but I need to make more. I’ve started to use my phone as a timer more often so I don’t waste time messing around doing random tasks. eg I set a 1 hour timer the second I get up and use this for my morning routine, I managed to get my study block up to 1 hour 20 mins, I use my phone to time my breaks etc. I now need to ensure I wake up and sleep at a consistent time everyday. That’s my new adventure. Anyway I want to get to 8-10 productive hours a day, 6-7 days a week. I won’t be able to consistently do 12–14 as I’m not 15 anymore, I now need 40g of protein in every meal, gym, social life every now and then etc.

Anything else I should be doing to get to 8-10 hours of study per day?? Or anything to help to become more disciplined

So my boyfriend and I have been in a LDR for some time now.

I’ve known him for 4 years but we didn’t get together until last year. Now before him I never actually got into a relationship as I had my walls up until I met him. It started off with us meeting at an event, then we stayed in contact. I had a crush on him, so point during our friendship I fell in love with him without even fully realising. Turns out he felt the same.

Anyway. We are long distance. How can I show him that I love him, as I do not know how to explain how I feel. Or do anything to make him feel special. He always makes me feel special and loved. I want to do the same.

Cheers in advance :)

Hey. So I’ve done a chunk of my exams and they haven’t been so great. I am doing dual licensing, UK and EASA. I’ve completed the banking multiple time and have done over 60k questions on the bank and have some decent understanding. I’m am a demotivated but I have pressure from my family now as they are fed up of my failures.

I noticed that when the am getting 90+ in the L300 I’ve always passed my exams with 90+ when I don’t I either scrape through or fail.

I have 3 CAAs left and 10 EASAs. I’ve already done the full bank about once or twice. I’m thinking for the rest of my exams to do: get to 95% in L500 UK and 95% in Austro control L300. And for EASAs 95 in L500 Austro control and 95% in the Malta bank. And ensure understanding and why the answer is the answer if that makes sense.

Is there anything else I can do that can help me and guarantee some high marks.

I feel like I failure right now, but there’s no time to be sad as my parents are pressuring me to be done within the next 2 months.