u/Rhunya_99

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I really need some outside perspective because I feel confused and emotionally drained right now.

I have been dating this man, Godfrey, for about four months. We have had our ups and downs, but we usually found ways to work through our problems. Even so, I always had a feeling that something was not quite right.

Recently, I found out that he is still in contact with a woman he was involved with before we started dating. They still talk, video call, and seem to have an emotional connection. When I confronted him, he admitted it. He told me that they were on bad terms when we first started dating, but he also said that he loves me and would end things with her if our relationship continues.

I also found out that he had been flirting with another woman. He admitted that as well, but said they were only friends.

I decided to give him another chance, but now he says he needs time to think about our relationship because he feels guilty about everything that happened.

I told him that if this relationship is going to work, we need honesty, transparency, and the chance to truly get to know each other on a deeper level. But now I am starting to wonder if he is struggling to let go of his past, or if I was someone he turned to while keeping other options open.

I feel hurt, confused, and emotionally numb right now. Part of me believes that his actions before all of this showed love, but now I am questioning everything.

Do you think this is someone who genuinely loves me but made poor choices, or am I ignoring clear warning signs? I would truly appreciate honest advice.

I really need some outside perspective because I feel confused and emotionally drained right now.

I have been dating this man, Godfrey, for about four months. We have had our ups and downs, but we usually found ways to work through our problems. Even so, I always had a feeling that something was not quite right.

Recently, I found out that he is still in contact with a woman he was involved with before we started dating. They still talk, video call, and seem to have an emotional connection. When I confronted him, he admitted it. He told me that they were on bad terms when we first started dating, but he also said that he loves me and would end things with her if our relationship continues.

I also found out that he had been flirting with another woman. He admitted that as well, but said they were only friends.

I decided to give him another chance, but now he says he needs time to think about our relationship because he feels guilty about everything that happened.

I told him that if this relationship is going to work, we need honesty, transparency, and the chance to truly get to know each other on a deeper level. But now I am starting to wonder if he is struggling to let go of his past, or if I was someone he turned to while keeping other options open.

I feel hurt, confused, and emotionally numb right now. Part of me believes that his actions before all of this showed love, but now I am questioning everything.

Do you think this is someone who genuinely loves me but made poor choices, or am I ignoring clear warning signs? I would truly appreciate honest advice.

Hey everyone, I really need some outside perspective because I feel confused and emotionally drained right now.

I have been dating this guy Godfrey, for about 4 months. We have had our ups and downs, but we usually worked through our problems. However, I always had a feeling that something wasn’t right.

Recently, I found out that he is still in contact with a girl he was involved with before we started dating. They still talk, video call, and seem emotionally connected. When I confronted him, he admitted it and said they were on bad terms when we started dating, but he also said he loves me and would leave her if our relationship continues.

I also discovered he had been flirting with another girl. He admitted that too, but said they were “just friends.”

I decided to give him another chance, but now he says he needs time to think about our relationship because he feels guilty about what happened.

I told him that if this relationship is going to work, we need honesty, transparency, and to really get to know each other better. But now I’m starting to wonder if he’s struggling to let go of his past, or if I was just someone he turned to while keeping other options open.

I’m hurt, confused, and emotionally numb right now. Part of me believes his actions showed love before all of this, but now I’m questioning everything.

Do you think this is someone who genuinely loves me but made bad choices, or am I ignoring red flags? I’d really appreciate honest advice.

Hey everyone, I really need some outside perspective because I feel confused and emotionally drained right now.

I’ve been dating this guy, Godfrey, for about 4 months. We’ve had our ups and downs, but we usually worked through our problems. However, I always had a feeling that something wasn’t right.

Recently, I found out that he’s still in contact with a girl he was involved with before we started dating. They still talk, video call, and seem emotionally connected. When I confronted him, he admitted it and said they were on bad terms when we started dating, but he also said he loves me and would leave her if our relationship continues.

I also discovered he had been flirting with another girl. He admitted that too, but said they were “just friends.”

I decided to give him another chance, but now he says he needs time to think about our relationship because he feels guilty about what happened.

I told him that if this relationship is going to work, we need honesty, transparency, and to really get to know each other better. But now I’m starting to wonder if he’s struggling to let go of his past, or if I was just someone he turned to while keeping other options open.

I’m hurt, confused, and emotionally numb right now. Part of me believes his actions showed love before all of this, but now I’m questioning everything.

Do you think this is someone who genuinely loves me but made bad choices, or am I ignoring red flags? I’d really appreciate honest advice.