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I saw a thread on ask Reddit about whether people remember others embarrassing moments and a lot of them said yes and they still remember moments from elementary school decades ago and it seems like the still look down on these people and everyone who was there sees these people lowly. this has always been my biggest fear. I’ve had my moments but sometimes I feel lucky it wasn’t worse. this whole thing sometimes makes me want to homeschool my kids, but I also wouldn’t want them to miss out. I feel like I still ruminate about one time specific incidents from decades ago and it kills me. why are people so mean and unforgiving sometimes, for minor mistakes. it would really sucked to be shamed and either move or get constantly bullied. how do I get over this/this fear. I think it’s ruining my life. and that thread def triggered me and it felt like all my fears are real. I feel like I can’t live like this with this worry anymore.

I saw a thread on ask Reddit about whether people remember others embarrassing moments and a lot of them said yes and they still remember moments from elementary school decades ago and it seems like the still look down on these people and everyone who was there sees these people lowly. this has always been my biggest fear. I’ve had my moments but sometimes I feel lucky it wasn’t worse. this whole thing sometimes makes me want to homeschool my kids, but I also wouldn’t want them to miss out. I feel like I still ruminate about one time specific incidents from decades ago and it kills me. why are people so mean and unforgiving sometimes, for minor mistakes. it would really sucked to be shamed and either move or get constantly bullied. how do I get over this/this fear. I think it’s ruining my life. and that thread def triggered me and it felt like all my fears are real. I feel like I can’t live like this with this worry anymore.

I saw a thread on ask Reddit about this and a ton of people said they remember other people’s embarrassing moments decades into the future and how they might ”be dead” now and everyone remembers and seems to see these people very lowly. this has always been my biggest fear in life. I always think of moving away, and it really bothers me. I’ve had bad moments but sometimes I feel like I’ve gotten lucky and it could have been worse but who knows in the future

a while ago, I saw a girl who got trashed all over the internet and her college admission was revoked because she sang along to a song with the n word in it one time. I’m not endorsing this or saying it was good, and I def think she shouldnt have done it. but I feel like the backlash was so harsh for something relatively minor. it’s not like she directly bullied or harmed someone. I’m terrified that some dumb or embarrassing shit I say or do could be exploded into “that incident“ and no one will ever respect or want to be around me again. and I’ll be mocked or hated forever. it gives me a ton of anxiety.

a while ago, I saw a girl who got trashed all over the internet and her college admission was revoked because she sang along to a song with the n word in it one time. I’m not endorsing this or saying it was good, and I def think she shouldnt have done it. but I feel like the backlash was so harsh for something relatively minor. it’s not like she directly bullied or harmed someone. I’m terrified that some dumb or embarrassing shit I say or do could be exploded into “that incident“ and no one will ever respect or want to be around me again. and I’ll be mocked or hated forever. it gives me a ton of anxiety.

I post about my mental health in order to get support sometimes. But there are trolls out there who have stalked my hidden posts commented things like “you deserve to suffer“ on them, just because I said something they didn’t like. and by that something, I mean something like call out blatant misogyny, like saying that the statement “women will betray you with your secret, dont trust them” is misogynistic a f and makes no sense. the Incels on here have zero life for real. they need a ”safe space” to complain and blame women for all their problems and harass women as much as they can.

yeah in general, dont post personal things on here I guess. Huge mistake and didn’t get much help

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is time travel possible? why am I gay? I have a friend I left behind. it was better back in the good ole days of 2018. it is possible. take me back.

I have a fear of peeing myself, and a bunch of people seeing me and making fun of me. this happened to me once when I was like 5 but the memory shook me that much I guess. I feel so ashamed because this is related to OCD I think and I’ve been repeatedly posting about it and people even thought I had a fetish. The whole thing makes me want to die. And now that I’m an adult, my fear has shifted towards more I’m afraid this will happen to someone else, especially my kid. I’m worried they’ll never recover and everyone around them will forever taunt them or something and they’ll never be able to forget it. That one scene from Stranger Things triggered me so hard. this is not a joke. This fear is so hard to live with yet impossible to talk about without getting judged. I’m struggling so much

has anyone else noticed that mean comments that often interpret the OP in the most negative way possible and are insulting/accusing OP are often upvoted a lot? this is why it feels like walking on eggshells here, any vagueness leads to assuming the worst. fuck this place, where so many people want to kick those who are already down to feel better. btw i love that there is a sub for these kinda post, Reddit is really ass some (a lot) of the time, but it is addictive

I’m scared because as a kid, some bullies would love to irritate me. these were the type of bullies that were hard to catch, they would do all their bullshit when the teacher wasn’t watching. idk why but when I’m angry I have intrusive thoughts to say the most offensive thing possible. I know this is dangerous because it could ruin my life when I’m most vulnerable. anyone else experience this?

you gotta read what you write a hundred times. because if there’s anything vague, people assume the worst. and it’s all your fault. people literally come to this site to prey on vulnerable people to put them down. it’s disgusting.

I keep seeking reassurance for my fears and seeking validation. I’m addicted. I’m also always hurt but negative comments, which I get frequently. I am just so filled with anxiety and i feel lonely and I used Reddit to interact with others and vent. but it backfires. I want to somehow get rid of my fears and stop being so affected and addicted to Reddit. it’s just so hard living like this.

how fucking ironic. got a bunch of messages saying I’m a bot and they reported me. just for asking if anyone else gets called a bot if someone doesn’t like what they have to say. WTF. I’m so done with this site. nothing but rage bait trolls. takes absolutely nothing for them to hate on you and be “enraged”

I keep fearing that I’ll screw up somehow, on something minor, and people around me will blow up on me, hate me, never forgive me, etc. I keep thinking about how I should always have a plan to move away if needed. this fear even makes me scared of having kids because I’m afraid this will happen to them. its paralyzing. how do I get over this.

So, finding Reddit isn’t very hard at all. in fact, when you Google a question, a lot of times, Reddit pops up. I’ve been using Reddit for quite some time now. I started in college and I used it more after I graduated, because I’m an extremely extroverted person and I started living alone and got lonely. this seemed like a decent place for me to socialize, vent my thoughts, and generally not feel lonely anymore. I have to say, in general, Reddit has done way more bad than good. Rarely, Reddit can give good advice and help. But I feel like everything good about it is overshadowed by the bad things. You have to be crystal clear about every little detail or else people assume the worst. why can’t they assume good about you? I don’t know. I think they like to gang up with each other and put people down. it makes them feel good. some users just use this platform to bring others down. given all the porn and the straight up harassment, I don’t think this site is good for minors at all. hell, it is trash for young adults as well and basically anyone. you have to have a thick skin to use Reddit. if not, you will be miserable. they will disguise their insults as “the truth” and people generally will upvote accusatory and insulting comments. also, once a comment section is against you, they don’t care about your defenses, you will get downvoted to the oblivion. for the dumbest reasons, you will be branded as “entitled”, “self centered”, “bitchy”, etc. you want to know why? I was on r/tragadeigh and I didn’t know “Desi“ was a name and was confused on why someone would give their kid the name of a ethnicity. on a sub thats dedicated to meddling in others business and complain about names, I was called all these things. lol, over one small thing that I didn’t know. I wanted to do masters degree after college. I was told it was the worst decision ever and I thought I ruined my life. wrong, r/cscareerquestions is only good if you wish to ruin your confidence and destroy your cs career. there will always be someone to bring you down, someone to play “devils advocate”. and no, it’s not just “differing opinions”, it’s straight up insults. an addiction is easier to never start rather than quit. it’s better to never have used Reddit in the first place. yes, there are shitty people irl, but it is much more prevalent here. I have lost track of how many times I’ve been piled on. over the most trivial things. it’s as if I said something hateful or offensive. but in reality it’s for questions like “what are some interesting rare things in Tokyo, like McDonald’s having a phone cleaner” and the comments are like “tHaT’s ALl yOu ThInK tOkYo HaS?” no dumbass, thats not what I said at all. it hasn’t gotten easier getting over it. I’m working on myself and my resilience. so many rude as hell comments. I was never this mean to anyone, online or in person. their opinions are bullshit, always remember that. yes, I also know there are nice people here but too many shitty ones. ok. rant over.

my husband and I own a townhouse and we both equally own and pay for it. Ever since my father in law died, my mother in law has stayed 6 months in my brother in laws house, then 6 months with us, then another 6 months at my brother in laws house. now my husband and mother in law want her to move in to our house again. my mother in law does nothing in the house except gossip and complain and she doesn’t even clean up. she often lies about things as well. It’s annoying as hell. My daughter hates her and so do I. I don’t want her living with us yet my husband insists on her living here every other 6 months. It’s exhausting and I feel like I’m either forced out of my own home or I have to take legal action or divorce my husband of 25 years.