u/RavenAtN1ght77

Hi so I’ll keep it very short.

I’m M21 living in Germany and I have come to the conclusion that dating is tough AF here. At least for me it is.

To me it seems that certain tendencies you’d see internationally/US/UK etc. in the online space are basically absent here. Many things differ A LOT and tbh I am sort of giving up the online thing as I genuinely can’t find someone whom I’d actually start a LTR with, thus I basically struggle A LOT.

Tbh I just really wan a partner nowadays and intend to marry in my mid-late 20s.

I suppose one big factor is that i literally only have selfies and maybe one outtake pic at most. Also I’m kinda dumbfounded to what I’d actually write in a bio. Mine went along the way of:

Looking for someone to share life experiences with. Preferring the role of the passenger princess would be absolutely amazing. Not too keen on the texting and more-so a fan of the classic coffee date. You’ll see me at Film-Theaters/Pool-Table/Bowling-Lounges

About irl: I am not a shy guy whatsoever but tend to spend most if my time at places where you’d rarely encounter a girl who can be actually approached. I spend most of my time at work or at the library to dive into my studies. We have this giant library here and I thought about approaching a girl once or twice. I should add that I do not intend on interrupting studies or anything. The libraries here have break areas where people chat, enjoy some food etc. That would be one of the places I thought of approaching someone at. Also just when a girl that actually interests me is sitting across the table and seems to be packing her stuff and ready to leave, I thought that approaching might be a possibility since I’m not interrupting anything (PROBABLY)

I should add that many women in terms of online dating automatically fall out of my realm of possibilities just because I’m around 5.5ft. I to have a really good face and physique but I think that many would just swipe left the same way I do with someone way taller. Even though most are actually shorter than me HAHAHA. FYI: I have no issues with my height whatsoever and take great pride in other aspects of my life. It’s just a fact. But fortunately I grew past that a long time ago.

Thanks for the advice/suggestions and DAMN I DID NOT KEEP IT SHORT.

Also a small follow up question: what do you even do after securing some kind of contact info and have tlaked about the basic stuff like food/series/interests/hibbies?

Small note: not looking for hookups or anything at all. I am seeking a genuine connection. I would really like to hear some of you’re women’s/girls’s opinion in the library thing. Or even similar experiences from my male BODDAS

Hi so I’ll keep it very short.

I’m M21 living in Germany and I have come to the conclusion that dating is tough AF here. At least for me it is.

To me it seems that certain tendencies you’d see internationally/US/UK etc. in the online space are basically absent here. Many things differ A LOT and tbh I am sort of giving up the online thing as I genuinely can’t find someone whom I’d actually start a LTR with, thus I basically struggle A LOT.

Tbh I just really wan a partner nowadays and intend to marry in my mid-late 20s.

I suppose one big factor is that i literally only have selfies and maybe one outtake pic at most. Also I’m kinda dumbfounded to what I’d actually write in a bio. Mine went along the way of:

Looking for someone to share life experiences with. Preferring the role of the passenger princess would be absolutely amazing. Not too keen on the texting and more-so a fan of the classic coffee date. You’ll see me at Film-Theaters/Pool-Table/Bowling-Lounges

About irl: I am not a shy guy whatsoever but tend to spend most if my time at places where you’d rarely encounter a girl who can be actually approached. I spend most of my time at work or at the library to dive into my studies. We have this giant library here and I thought about approaching a girl once or twice. I should add that I do not intend on interrupting studies or anything. The libraries here have break areas where people chat, enjoy some food etc. That would be one of the places I thought of approaching someone at. Also just when a girl that actually interests me is sitting across the table and seems to be packing her stuff and ready to leave, I thought that approaching might be a possibility since I’m not interrupting anything (PROBABLY)

I should add that many women in terms of online dating automatically fall out of my realm of possibilities just because I’m around 5.5ft. I to have a really good face and physique but I think that many would just swipe left the same way I do with someone way taller. Even though most are actually shorter than me HAHAHA. FYI: I have no issues with my height whatsoever and take great pride in other aspects of my life. It’s just a fact. But fortunately I grew past that a long time ago.

Thanks for the advice/suggestions and DAMN I DID NOT KEEP IT SHORT.

Small note: not looking for hookups or anything at all. I am seeking a genuine connection. I would really like to hear some of you’re women’s/girls’s opinion in the library thing. Or even similar experiences from my male BODDAS

Hi so I’m M21 (Berlin, Germany) by no means a GigaChad or anything but I used to have a pretty good ratio of matches:dates and matches:likes(compared to the avg).

Recently I’ve genuinely stopped receiving any positive indicators from Bumble and tbh even indicators at all.

I have genuinely received 1 like in the whole span of 2-3 weeks. OF COURSE the problem could absolutely be me but this was just an I’ve made.

And tbh I have noticed even giving out less likes compared to my last time using it (march 2025).

FYI: My looks stayed pretty much the same except for being leaner (which is never visible). I have also added ONE workout picture compared to before.

I have read several reports from women’s POV’s explaining the same experience.

Hi so I’m M21 (Berlin, Germany) by no means a GigaChad or anything but I used to have a pretty good ratio of matches:dates and matches:likes(compared to the avg).

Recently I’ve genuinely stopped receiving any positive indicators from Bumble and tbh even indicators at all.

I have genuinely received 1 like in the whole span of 2-3 weeks. OF COURSE the problem could absolutely be me but this was just an I’ve made.

And tbh I have noticed even giving out less likes compared to my last time using it (march 2025).

FYI: My looks stayed pretty much the same except for being leaner (which is never visible). I have also added ONE workout picture compared to before.

I have read several reports from women’s POV’s explaining the same experience.