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I am caught up in this paradox, and I want to resolve it.

I think that a true action arises when someone follows his true purpose and acts from a centre of clarity and understanding, and it is genuine, in the moment, and flows automatically, which many people call effortless effort. And sometimes there are actions that are hollow and not genuine; there is a gap between the centre and the action. A person is thinking a lot and analysing the situation, and then he is saying things that others want to hear or that will provide him with what he wants from others. It is not flowing automatically, and it is definitely not effortless effort. It takes a lot of effort to play this game.

I want to understand that when someone is operating from his true purpose and putting forth effortless effort, and he is not considering the situation around him; that is, the game other people are playing around him, which they are planning to deceive him, rob him, or k*/l him, then he has to make decisions where the game is going on, and that decision will remove the genuineness. And now he has to play the meta-game of what others are doing, and there will be a gap between the action and the actor; otherwise, he will simply be affected in multiple ways, including his life.

The Tibetan monks were the most genuine people, operating from the right centre and acting effortlessly, but they still got overpowered by China because they did not keep track of what others were doing, and then they had to flee, and their very existence became a big problem.

So, what exactly is going on here? What am I missing? When I asked the AP framework, it said that:

"The objection is sound as far as it goes. A man absorbed in genuine purpose can be robbed, k*//ed, or ignored reproductively. The Tibetan monks were genuine and got expelled. These are facts.

But notice what the objection is actually demanding: that the genuine man also be strategically alert, physically imposing, financially secured, and socially dominant. That is not a correction to the previous point. That is a completely different project, and it is the ego's project.

The framework does not promise safety. It says the genuine life is more alive than the defended one, not that it is safer. The man living from actual purpose may die younger, poorer, and without a mate. That is a real cost. The question is not whether the cost exists. The question is what you are actually choosing between: a defended life organized around managing exposure, or a genuine life that accepts it. The Tibetan monks lost Tibet. They did not lose what they were."

So, what is the point of seizing territory that one can't even defend? 'The Tibetan monks lost Tibet. They did not lose what they were.' Very soon the whole world will be overpowered by ignorance and will suffer endlessly, which they were fighting in the first place.

I am caught up in this paradox, and I want to resolve it.

I think that a true action arises when someone follows his true purpose and acts from a centre of clarity and understanding, and it is genuine, in the moment, and flows automatically; which many people call effortless effort. And sometimes there are actions which are hollow and not genuine; there is a gap between the centre and the action. A person is thinking a lot and analysing the situation, and then he is saying things what others wants to hear or what will provide him what he wants from others. It is not flowing automatically, and it is definitely not effortless effort. It takes a lot of effort to play this game.

I want to understand that when someone is operating from his true purpose and putting forth effortless effort, and he is not considering the situation around him; that is the game other people are playing around him, which they are planning to deceive him, rob him, or k//l him; then he has to make decisions where the game is going on, and that decision will remove the genuineness. And now he has to play the meta-game of what others are doing, and there will be a gap between the action and the actor, otherwise he will be simply affected in multiple ways including his life.

The Tibetan monks were the most genuine people, operating from the right centre and acting effortlessly, but they still got overpowered by China, because they did not keep the track of what others were doing and then they had to flee, and their very existence became a big problem.

So, what exactly is going on here? What am I missing? When I asked the AP framework, it said that:

"The objection is sound as far as it goes. A man absorbed in genuine purpose can be robbed, k*//ed, or ignored reproductively. The Tibetan monks were genuine and got expelled. These are facts.

But notice what the objection is actually demanding: that the genuine man also be strategically alert, physically imposing, financially secured, and socially dominant. That is not a correction to the previous point. That is a completely different project, and it is the ego's project.

The framework does not promise safety. It says the genuine life is more alive than the defended one, not that it is safer. The man living from actual purpose may die younger, poorer, and without a mate. That is a real cost. The question is not whether the cost exists. The question is what you are actually choosing between: a defended life organized around managing exposure, or a genuine life that accepts it. The Tibetan monks lost Tibet. They did not lose what they were."

So, what is the point of seizing territory that one can't even defend? *'*The Tibetan monks lost Tibet. They did not lose what they were.' Very soon the whole world will be overpowered by the ignorance and will suffer endlessly which they were fighting in the first place.

When we look at the universe and ourselves, we find that everything is changing; literally everything.

If there is a pillow in front of my eyes that is continuously changing its shape, size, colour, and all its properties, then we would say it is not real. Something underneath the pillow that is not changing is the reality.

Similarly, when someone says that my passion, or my purpose, or my goal, or whatever it is; to have a family, to become an engineer, doctor, politician, lawyer, footballer, businessman or anything.

It is just that we are rearranging the permutation and combination of atoms, and there is nothing really happening or progressing towards anything. Everything else is just maintenance to keep things in order.

The only true purpose is the pursuit of that truth that is not changing, when our body, cells, every atom, emotions, and thoughts are continuously changing.

For the past few months, I've been slowly opening up to my girlfriend about one of my s**/x fantasies. I took it step by step and she was surprisingly cool with it. Last week we finally acted it out and it was honestly amazing.

Today she decided to tell me her own fantasy. I thought it would be something mild since she's usually very shy, but what she described is next-level extreme. She wasn't joking at all.

She wants us to do this scene where she's dressed in a super s//*y, aroused-looking nurse uniform. The bed has to have pure white sheets. We both wear these special gloves with sharp blades on them. While we're passionately kissing and touching each other, the blades make small cuts, we start bleeding, the white bed sheet is now red in colour and then we get completely soaked in each other's blood before having s/**x.

She's this shy, intelligent, highly respected person in our social circle, so hearing this come out of her mouth completely floored me. It feels surreal.

I love her and want to make her feel as fulfilled as she made me feel, but this is pretty hardcore blood play/knife play territory. Has anyone here actually done something like this? How did you make it safe? Any advice on how to approach this without things going wrong?

Thanks.

For the past few months, I've been slowly opening up to my girlfriend about one of my s**/x fantasies. I took it step by step and she was surprisingly cool with it. Last week we finally acted it out and it was honestly amazing.

Today she decided to tell me her own fantasy. I thought it would be something mild since she's usually very shy, but what she described is next-level extreme. She wasn't joking at all.

She wants us to do this scene where she's dressed in a super s//*y, aroused-looking nurse uniform. The bed has to have pure white sheets. We both wear these special gloves with sharp blades on them. While we're passionately kissing and touching each other, the blades make small cuts, we start bleeding, the white bed sheet is now red in colour and then we get completely soaked in each other's blood before having s/**x.

She's this shy, intelligent, highly respected person in our social circle, so hearing this come out of her mouth completely floored me. It feels surreal.

I love her and want to make her feel as fulfilled as she made me feel, but this is pretty hardcore blood play/knife play territory. Has anyone here actually done something like this? How did you make it safe? Any advice on how to approach this without things going wrong?

Thanks.

I have seen this phenomenon of people thinking "mas//bation is wrong" happening again and again. Like, it is, some kind of a sin and it is wrong to do this. I never understood this phenomenon.

I think it is more a matter of social and moral conditioning than really a biological response. I never experienced this, but I see people asking questions regarding it as if they are doing something wrong.

Like, a human has the urge to drink water, eat food, excrete, urinate, sweat. He feels good and relaxed when he fulfills his bodily urges without harming anyone or breaking any law. So why is it that if every day there is an urge to ma//urbate, it is considered wrong?

Just do it, fulfill it, and move on with your life. Why make so much fuss about it? You don't make so much fuss when you are drinking water, eating food, going to the washroom, using a towel to remove sweat, cleaning your teeth and body. These are all urges, and you fulfill them and move on with your life. So why not just ma//urbate if you have the urge and move on with your life?

It is all because of some stupid people who wanted to share everything they are creating with the world instead of just keeping it to themselves, privately. I don't know what they were expecting that the world would celebrate them for the masterpiece they have created. Now everything got censored.

So, now that we know the end has come, what’s the alternative? Where are you all shifting to? On weekends, I used to have some normal sci-fi fantasy chats with Grok, and now it’s all gone? So, what are other LLMs that are as good in quality as Grok was?

I live alone, and I thought I would get through this summer without an AC, just like last summer, to save on the purchase cost and electricity bills. But I was so wrong; this heat is just so unbearable. I thought I would just d*/e this month, and the months of May and June are still left.

Just a week ago, I installed my AC, and it’s made a night-and-day difference. Literally, when there was no AC, I was having trouble breathing and had to forcefully inhale and exhale. My breath was short, I felt drowsy and nauseous all the time, and I had no desire to eat anything. Food I used to enjoy earlier had become bland. I was constantly drinking water only. I was sleeping for ten hours a day, and I literally did not have any energy to do anything.

I was getting irritated so much by the smallest of the smallest things, and it felt like I would physically fight anyone without any reason. On my scooty, if an uncle cut me off even slightly, I would have fought him. Even my digestion and everything else were getting affected.

I am just 22, and in my own lifetime I am seeing the devastation of climate change. I don’t know what is really going to happen in the future.

Just yesterday in the evening, after reading one great book for eight hours, I went to the park to think about it. I was recalling in my mind what the author said, what I agreed with, and what I didn't, and was making a mind map while walking in the park alone.

Suddenly, something was lying in the way; I don't know what it was, but I think it was a broken lamp and my left foot got entangled in it, and I lost my balance. I was about to fall, but luckily, I balanced myself and moved on with my walk.

Then suddenly, I heard this voice of a woman in her early twenties who was saying to her female friend and then to me that I was looking and staring at them, and that's why I didn't see that lamp and lost my balance. I was like, WT did I heard and who is she and how can someone be so self-obsessed?

Two more unknown people gathered and started saying, 'Stop staring at women; it is not a good thing.' I told them nothing like that happened and after few exchanges of words; finally, they let me go and I just moved away.

But I was thinking: if that woman had randomly accused me of eve-teasing her, or touching her, or trying to attack her and her friend be a witness of it, I am sure I would be in jail for a few weeks or I don't know how long. Things are really, really bad here. A man is just guilty in the eyes of the society if a woman has said anything against it.

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Not even recording the event. In today's day and age, a man should wear a body cam with a clear audio recorder 24/7. Indian laws are pure stupidity.

No wonder people are leaving this country, and it is this country's loss only. I am a mid-20s physicist by profession. Earlier I used to think I would contribute to this country, and I used to see people who are leaving this country as not-so-good people, but now I am understanding why they left it. Now I also want to leave as soon as possible.

Food, education, civic sense, environment, laws; everything is going down.

Just yesterday in the evening, after reading one great book for eight hours, I went to the park to think about it. I was recalling in my mind what the author said, what I agreed with, and what I didn't, and was making a mind map while walking in the park alone.

Suddenly, something was lying in the way; I don't know what it was, but I think it was a broken lamp and my left foot got entangled in it, and I lost my balance. I was about to fall, but luckily, I balanced myself and moved on with my walk.

Then suddenly, I heard this voice of a woman in her early twenties who was saying to her female friend and then to me that I was looking and staring at them, and that's why I didn't see that lamp and lost my balance. I was like, WT did I heard and who is she and how can someone be so self-obsessed?

Two more unknown people gathered and started saying, 'Stop staring at women; it is not a good thing.' I told them nothing like that happened and after few exchanges of words; finally, they let me go and I just moved away.

But I was thinking: if that woman had randomly accused me of eve-teasing her, or touching her, or trying to attack her and her friend be a witness of it, I am sure I would be in jail for a few weeks or I don't know how long. Things are really, really bad here. A man is just guilty in the eyes of the society if a woman has said anything against it.

Not even recording the event. In today's day and age, a man should wear a body cam with a clear audio recorder 24/7. Indian laws are pure stupidity.

No wonder people are leaving this country, and it is this country's loss only. I am a mid-20s physicist by profession. Earlier I used to think I would contribute to this country, and I used to see people who are leaving this country as not-so-good people, but now I am understanding why they left it. Now I also want to leave as soon as possible.

Food, education, civic sense, environment, laws; everything is going down

Pata Hai Aaj Kya Hua.. Just yesterday in the evening, after reading one great book for eight hours, I went to the park to think about it. I was recalling in my mind what the author said, what I agreed with, and what I didn't, and was making a mind map while walking in the park alone.

Suddenly, something was lying in the way; I don't know what it was, but I think it was a broken lamp and my left foot got entangled in it, and I lost my balance. I was about to fall, but luckily, I balanced myself and moved on with my walk.

Then suddenly, I heard this voice of a woman in her early twenties who was saying to her female friend and then to me that I was looking and staring at them, and that's why I didn't see that lamp and lost my balance. I was like, WT did I heard and who is she and how can someone be so self-obsessed?

Two more unknown people gathered and started saying, 'Stop staring at women; it is not a good thing.' I told them nothing like that happened and after few exchanges of words; finally, they let me go and I just moved away.

But I was thinking: if that woman had randomly accused me of eve-teasing her, or touching her, or trying to attack her and her friend be a witness of it, I am sure I would be in jail for a few weeks or I don't know how long. Things are really, really bad here. A man is just guilty in the eyes of the society if a woman has said anything against it.

Not even recording the event. In today's day and age, a man should wear a body cam with a clear audio recorder 24/7. Indian laws are pure stupidity.

No wonder people are leaving this country, and it is this country's loss only. I am a mid-20s physicist by profession. Earlier I used to think I would contribute to this country, and I used to see people who are leaving this country as not-so-good people, but now I am understanding why they left it. Now I also want to leave as soon as possible.

Food, education, civic sense, environment, laws; everything is going down.

I with my whole family is going to my very close relative son's wedding tomorrow, and I have given my sherwani for dry cleaning because it is white and there were some stains on it., which will hardly cost anything.

My mother was taunting me: 'Why are you wearing this? Why did you give it for dry cleaning? Not everyone will be looking at you. Just go there, eat food, and come back. Whom are you trying to impress?' and so on.

She herself is wearing a saree and has given it to be washed and pressed to remove the wrinkles.

Today, I was washing my jooti as it was dirty. I don't know how to wash it and whether I should wash it or not. I asked her, and again the same reply: 'Why do you want to wash it? Not everyone will be clicking pictures of your footwear. What does it matter if they get dirty?'

I am like, what the ..? What's happening here? I am not able to understand anything.

Can someone explain to me who has been in such a situation?

And I have not taken any money; I have spent my own earned money. There is no issue of money here.