Been working as a software developer for 6 years, now layed off and tired of it. I ABSOLUTELY DO NOT WANT TO START AN IT COMPANY.
I have built decent savings though and willing to take risk.
I was thinking something in service Sector. Like a clinic or physio therapy Center, but everything seems so saturated.
Title. I’ve been working as a python dev in a startup, ever since 1 yoe I have been working as a solo dev- no senior, no junior. The goal was always to get things to work, no matter how. There was no SRS, no code review, bare minimum testing. No thought given to scalability, version control etc. As long as it worked it was okay.
Yes I realise it was a mistake to stay this long. I have been lazy and complacent. But now I have gotten serious and want to move on.
But I find myself very lost. Where to start? What level would I apply to: sde 1/2/3? How to bridge the gap of dirty coding vs formal coding. What do I write in my work experience (I delivered only 2 projects in 6 years, rest were all POCs that didn’t materialise).
My plan was to:
Study DSA of course
System design patterns
Use AI to correct my coding practices.
I have always had severe social anxiety, no friends, no socialisation, no relationship even with relatives, even my own father.
I have always rejected myself before others could. I’ve always considered myself beneath other people. Chronically. In social situations, I would always be so self conscious of not being able to talk freely. But then I actually looked around myself.
I met a distant cousin recently. He was arrested for drug dealing, cheated on his wife, used to abuse her. He was talking and laughing so loudly. He made sexist remarks about women, dismissed his past actions. And he was so confident and brash about it. I was astounded by his shamelessness.
This made me realise:
There are cheats, frauds, abusers, thieves, criminals all around us. And they don’t feel any shame at all. Why must I feel ashamed? Why must I feel I’m beneath others? Yes there are some skills that I lack, and those skills are essential. But it’s okay. I’m not harming others. I don’t deserve to feel like this.
After this realisation, I feel much more confident now. Although I’m 29 now and a lot of damage has been done, lots of though patterns have been set that still creep up. But it is a bit freeing. I wish someone explained this to me earlier 🥲🥲🥲
The purpose behind posting this is to help anyone else in the same position as me.
Most racist organisations are also by default anti-LGBT and sexist. This leaves no space for people who are just racist but not necessarily misogynistic or homophobic for genuine discourse.
We have driving schools to teach you how to drive. We should also open driving schools that teach you how to drive better under influence. Harm reduction.
The title basically. I’m very very “mentally checked out” in life. I literally don’t care about most things. I 100% do not want kids as I don’t think I’m capable of caring/loving them for years and years. I don’t care much about progress, ambition, achievements, appearances, dressing up.
I work an above avg job, making above avg money. I’m okay with it.
I have a cousin sister, with whom I’ve had a very very close and cordial relationship (much more stronger than avg cousins).
She unfortunately got married to an extremely misogynistic, narcissistic insane man. There’s something mentally wrong with him. He spends close to approximately 20+ hours/week simply shouting on her for literally no reason. He is abusive not just to my sis/his wife but literally every single person in his life: his parents, his neighbors, his maid/driver etc. the very first time, he introduced his friends to my sis, his friends openly locked him and told my sister that she must be a saintly woman if she can tolerate him, even we can’t tolerate him at times.
I have never liked him from day one. Something he has always sensed. He has completely isolated her from me and completely restricted her from
Talking to me, to which she has completely complied. If I call her, she doesn’t pickup my phone. Ignores my messages. Then she communicated through her mother to stop contacting her as her husband complains about me.
She has chosen to stay with him as she comes from a dysfunctional family herself. She doesn’t have a father, her mother is literally mentally insane, her brother is an unemployed abusive alcoholic, her sister is not a bad person but quiet apathetic.
Can I do something for her? Or is it a lost cause?