u/Lalu-Palu

I always thought women would prefer men with a clean past, so they wouldn’t have to deal with someone who’s been heartbroken before.

But after talking to a few girls about this, I heard the opposite. They said they’d rather be with someone who has been in a relationship before, because he already understands how things work and they wouldn’t have to “teach” him how to handle one.

That honestly confused me. It doesn’t fully make sense in my head.

Am I being naive here, or is this actually how most people think ? Do you guys think that a person who has not been in a relationship will be some kind of weird person to deal with ?

I always thought women would prefer men with a clean past, so they wouldn’t have to deal with someone who’s been heartbroken before.

But after talking to a few girls about this, I heard the opposite. They said they’d rather be with someone who has been in a relationship before, because he already understands how things work and they wouldn’t have to “teach” him how to handle one.

That honestly confused me. It doesn’t fully make sense in my head.

Am I being naive here, or is this actually how most people think ? Do you guys think that a person who has not been in a relationship will be some kind of weird person to deal with ?

Why do people who have past or can date come in AM ?

I have seen many people saying and posting that they had past or 1 or more than 1 past relationships but go for arrange marriage (AM).

If you have dating experience and good personality or you are able to talk with girls / boys then find your partner yourself why even come in AM.

Let's say your parents are forcing you for marriage then try to find and date a person from your own caste, religion or community. So that they will not be against the BF/GF if things goes to marriage.

The most hypocrite thing is that boys and girls hide their past from the prospect or at least don't tell them the whole truth so that they can get married. Or sometimes they even twist the truth by saying they only had 1 past max and it was ldr or nothing physical. Hookups (causal sêx) are not even revealed or hidden from prospects.

Also the boys and the girls who are still in touch with their ex because parents didn't agree for marriage or you or your BF/GF breakup OR still didn't move on from past relationships, don't even think of entering AM. It will be good for you and your prospects.

First move on completely and block the person completely from your life i.e. Mentally and Socially. Then try AM.

And please tell the whole truth about your past to your prospect so that if he/she understands then it will be a good marriage i.e. both of you will be happy in your marriage.

A marriage started on a lie will end in misery. If you tell the truth after engagement or marriage, your partner will never trust you again and sometimes it will lead to divorce. If the trust is broken then the marriage is nothing but 2 people living under the same roof and eventually it will lead to divorce or something extreme also.

Also why even go into a relationship or multiple relationships or date, when you know your parents will be against it and you will be going for Arrange Marriage in the end. My own cousin's sisters have done it. They all had boyfriends but they did arrange marriage because they were getting a good match in AM i.e. better options then their BF.

Why do people who have past or can date come in AM ?

I have seen many people saying and posting that they had past or 1 or more than 1 past relationships but go for arrange marriage (AM).

If you have dating experience and good personality or you are able to talk with girls / boys then find your partner yourself why even come in AM.

Let's say your parents are forcing you for marriage then try to find and date a person from your own caste, religion or community. So that they will not be against the BF/GF if things goes to marriage.

The most hypocrite thing is that boys and girls hide their past from the prospect or at least don't tell them the whole truth so that they can get married. Or sometimes they even twist the truth by saying they only had 1 past max and it was ldr or nothing physical. Hookups (causal sêx) are not even revealed or hidden from prospects.

Also the boys and the girls who are still in touch with their ex because parents didn't agree for marriage or you or your BF/GF breakup OR still didn't move on from past relationships, don't even think of entering AM. It will be good for you and your prospects.

First move on completely and block the person completely from your life i.e. Mentally and Socially. Then try AM.

And please tell the whole truth about your past to your prospect so that if he/she understands then it will be a good marriage i.e. both of you will be happy in your marriage.

A marriage started on a lie will end in misery. If you tell the truth after engagement or marriage, your partner will never trust you again and sometimes it will lead to divorce. If the trust is broken then the marriage is nothing but 2 people living under the same roof and eventually it will lead to divorce or something extreme also.

Also why even go into a relationship or multiple relationships or date, when you know your parents will be against it and you will be going for Arrange Marriage in the end. My own cousin's sisters have done it. They all had boyfriends but they did arrange marriage because they were getting a good match in AM i.e. better options then their BF.

I have seen many people saying and posting that they had past or 1 or more than 1 past relationships but go for arrange marriage (AM).

If you have dating experience and good personality or you are able to talk with girls / boys then find your partner yourself why even come in AM.

Let's say your parents are forcing you for marriage then try to find and date a person from your own caste, religion or community. So that they will not be against the BF/GF if things goes to marriage.

The most hypocrite thing is that boys and girls hide their past from the prospect or at least don't tell them the whole truth so that they can get married. Or sometimes they even twist the truth by saying they only had 1 past max and it was ldr or nothing physical. Hookups (causal sêx) are not even revealed or hidden from prospects.

Also the boys and the girls who are still in touch with their ex because parents didn't agree for marriage or you or your BF/GF breakup OR still didn't move on from past relationships, don't even think of entering AM. It will be good for you and your prospects.

First move on completely and block the person completely from your life i.e. Mentally and Socially. Then try AM.

And please tell the whole truth about your past to your prospect so that if he/she understands then it will be a good marriage i.e. both of you will be happy in your marriage.

A marriage started on a lie will end in misery. If you tell the truth after engagement or marriage, your partner will never trust you again and sometimes it will lead to divorce. If the trust is broken then the marriage is nothing but 2 people living under the same roof and eventually it will lead to divorce or something extreme also.

Also why even go into a relationship or multiple relationships or date, when you know your parents will be against it and you will be going for Arrange Marriage in the end. My own cousin's sisters have done it. They all had boyfriends but they did arrange marriage because they were getting a good match in AM i.e. better options then their BF.

I have seen many people saying and posting that they had past or 1 or more than 1 past relationships but go for arrange marriage (AM).

If you have dating experience and good personality or you are able to talk with girls / boys then find your partner yourself why even come in AM.

Let's say your parents are forcing you for marriage then try to find and date a person from your own caste, religion or community. So that they will not be against the BF/GF if things goes to marriage.

The most hypocrite thing is that boys and girls hide their past from the prospect or at least don't tell them the whole truth so that they can get married. Or sometimes they even twist the truth by saying they only had 1 past max and it was ldr or nothing physical. Hookups (causal sêx) are not even revealed or hidden from prospects.

Also the boys and the girls who are still in touch with their ex because parents didn't agree for marriage or you or your BF/GF breakup OR still didn't move on from past relationships, don't even think of entering AM. It will be good for you and your prospects.

First move on completely and block the person completely from your life i.e. Mentally and Socially. Then try AM.

And please tell the whole truth about your past to your prospect so that if he/she understands then it will be a good marriage i.e. both of you will be happy in your marriage.

A marriage started on a lie will end in misery. If you tell the truth after engagement or marriage, your partner will never trust you again and sometimes it will lead to divorce. If the trust is broken then the marriage is nothing but 2 people living under the same roof and eventually it will lead to divorce or something extreme also.

Edit : Also why even go into a relationship or multiple relationships or date, when you know your parents will be against it and you will be going for Arrange Marriage in the end. My own cousin's sisters have done it. They all had boyfriends but they did arrange marriage because they were getting a good match in AM i.e. better options then their BF.

Vîrgîn men who married an experienced women (non Vîrgîn woman) in Arrange Marriage

How has it turned out ?

Did you know about her past before marriage ?

Does it really matter ?

How is your life right now ?

Is/Was it a deal breaker for you ?

How did you feel when you found out about it after engagement or marriage ?

How has it turned out ?

Did you know about her past before marriage ?

Does it really matter ?

How is your life right now ?

Is/Was it a deal breaker for you ?

Edit : How did you feel when you found out about it after engagement or marriage ?

I just saw two people i.e. I know about them and I was in metro City and I saw both the husband and wife were with different people in club/restaurant i.e. too closed like couple. I was confused and I know them because they were in my Jija's Party in my home town. I didn't tell this to anyone in my family and also didn't tell my Jijaji (cousin sister husband).

Then I saw this same thing in my company where I used to work. Two people are cheating on their BF, GF, Wife or husband. 16 affairs in my company were going on. My colleague's girlfriend is in the HR department and she told him and then he told me that many people are doing this in our company and even in other companies this thing is common. Since no one is breaking any company rule or filing any complaint so the company cannot do anything and these people do it mostly outside of office hours. The 16 people who are in affairs are known once i.e. the HR and other company people know they are doing it. But others don't know the exact number of people who are doing it and hiding it really well.

When does this thing become normal and generalized ?