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Hinge(other dating apps too) clearly monetising relationships by designing such algorithm which doesnt show what you want! If not dating apps then how to meet CF women?

A girl from a different office location has come to the office I work in as part of site visit. Since my workload isnt that much my manager told me to show her around the factory. But I genuinely I dont want to do this because I get insanely nervous around women. So nervous that no voice comes out of my throat. I get palpitations, profusely sweating, shivering hands, legs and BP becomes so high that it feels my head is about to burst. I havent seen a woman around me for the past 10 years(last I saw a woman was in 2017 in my school). After that I studied mechanical engineering which is infamous for having 0 XX chromosomes. Then workplace also has all men. Day in, day out I am surrounded by men only and its been going for 10 years. For the first time in 10 years I will have my first interaction with a woman and really dont want to mess it up by not being nervous and destroying my image, my managers image in front of her. What should I do?

Please help me

A girl from a different office location has come to the office I work in as part of site visit. Since my workload isnt that much my manager told me to show her around the factory. But I genuinely I dont want to do this because I get insanely nervous around women. So nervous that no voice comes out of my throat. I get palpitations, profusely sweating, shivering hands, legs and BP becomes so high that it feels my head is about to burst. I havent seen a woman around me for the past 10 years(last I saw a woman was in 2017 in my school). After that I studied mechanical engineering which is infamous for having 0 XX chromosomes. Then workplace also has all men. Day in, day out I am surrounded by men only and its been going for 10 years. For the first time in 10 years I will have my first interaction with a woman and really dont want to mess it up by not being nervous and destroying my image, my managers image in front of her. What should I do?

Please help me

I am on dating apps(Hinge, Bumble, Aisle) but even after putting good pictures I have got 0 likes. I am average in height(5'7), below average face(I'd rate myself 2-3/10). I am lean, fit, go to run 3-4 times a week. I have noticed all the men with gf/wife/partner etc have good looking face(strong jaw, good height etc). I have none of those. My jaw is not that prominent, roundish face, average height. Maybe this makes me ugly/unwanted in dating apps. According to my opinion small/less prominent jaw, height makes a man ugly/undesirable as a potential partner because looks matter to women also. I maybe wrong too thats why I want to know from women what makes a man ugly?

I was first put on Atomoxetine and it worked marvelously. Cured my social anxiety, helped me become more social, started understanding social cues. But the biggest impact it made on me was it allowed me to not lose my attention when someone was talking to me. Active listening came naturally to me. My attention wasnt getting derailed by tiny random thought suddenly popping in my head during conversations. I began to hear the words in the English songs I was listening to. I turned off the subtitles in the webseries because my ears and brain were doing the translation. My working memory improved a lot. My friends were calling me "photographic memory". But I quit it because atomoxetine failed when it came to studying from books. I was constantly distracted by the surroundings making it astronomically difficult for me to concentrate.

Then I thought maybe methylphenidate could help. So I gave methylphenidate a try. First tried Inspiral, did nothing at all. 0. After continuing for 3 months, I switched to Addwize. Same story. After being on Addwize for 2 months I switched to Concerta. Now I have stopped taking Concerta after 10 days because its the same story. MPH did nothing for me to say it made an effect. Didnt improve my listening ability which was back to 0 after quitting Atomoxetine, didnt improve my working memory, didnt improve my attention/concentration. It only gave me horrible, crippling MPH crash anxiety.

Now I will ask my psych to switch me back to Atomoxetine.

Key takeaway is - Everyone reacts differently to meds and trial and error is the only solution to know which works for you

Hope this helps

100 Medieval History Books — From Beginner to Advanced

I’ve arranged these roughly in increasing difficulty:

1–25 → very beginner-friendly, narrative, visual, easy prose

26–50 → solid intermediate history

51–75 → university-level depth

76–100 → advanced/specialist/academic works

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Level 1 — Absolute Beginner (1–25)

1. The Time Traveller’s Guide to Medieval England

2. The Bright Ages

3. Powers and Thrones

4. The Plantagenets

5. The Templars

6. A Distant Mirror

7. Life in a Medieval Village

8. Life in a Medieval Castle

9. Life in a Medieval City

10. The Middle Ages

11. Medieval Europe

12. The Norman Conquest

13. The Crusades Through Arab Eyes

14. The Black Death

15. The White Ship

16. The Hollow Crown

17. The Wars of the Roses

18. The Viking World

19. SPQR

20. The Fall of Rome

21. The Vikings

22. Medieval Lives

23. The Anglo-Saxons

24. In the Name of Rome

25. The Hundred Years War (Volume 1 is readable)

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Level 2 — Beginner to Intermediate (26–50)

26. The Inheritance of Rome

27. The Making of Europe

28. The Civilization of the Middle Ages

29. The Crusades

30. Cathedral, Forge and Waterwheel

31. The Medieval Machine

32. The Medieval World

33. Europe After Rome

34. The Age of Chivalry

35. The Origins of the Modern World

36. The Ottoman Centuries

37. Byzantium

38. The Byzantine Empire

39. God’s War

40. The Late Middle Ages

41. Medieval Christianity

42. The Carolingians

43. Charlemagne

44. The Vikings and Their Enemies

45. The Battle of Hastings

46. The First Crusade

47. The Silk Roads

48. Medieval England

49. The Medieval Economy and Society

50. Women in Medieval Europe

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Level 3 — Intermediate / University Level (51–75)

51. The Oxford Illustrated History of Medieval Europe

52. The New Cambridge Medieval History

53. The Shorter Cambridge Medieval History

54. Feudal Society

55. The Formation of a Persecuting Society

56. The Birth of Purgatory

57. Medieval Civilization

58. The Waning of the Middle Ages

59. The Crisis of the Early Italian Renaissance

60. The Commercial Revolution of the Middle Ages

61. The Medieval Universities

62. The Gothic Cathedral

63. The Papacy in the Middle Ages

64. The Investiture Controversy

65. The Reconquest Kings of Portugal

66. Byzantium and the Crusades

67. The Mongols

68. The Ottoman Empire

69. The Medieval Church

70. The Age of Bede

71. The Vikings in History

72. England Under the Norman and Angevin Kings

73. The Aristocracy in England

74. The Medieval World System

75. The Black Death Transformation of the West

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Level 4 — Advanced / Specialist (76–100)

76. The King’s Two Bodies

77. Montaillou

78. The Cheese and the Worms

79. The Mediterranean

80. War and Government in the Middle Ages

81. The Pursuit of the Millennium

82. The Three Orders

83. Rural Economy and Country Life

84. The Growth of the Medieval City

85. The State in Medieval Europe

86. Medieval Canon Law

87. The Government of Philip Augustus

88. The English Manor

89. The Medieval Economy

90. The Intellectual Life of Western Europe

91. The Crisis of Church and State

92. The Origins of European Individualism

93. Law, Sex and Christian Society

94. The Friars

95. The Formation of Christendom

96. The Medieval Imagination

97. Medieval Thought

98. The Discarded Image

99. The Historian’s Craft

100. The Annals of Imperial Rome (not medieval, but useful background for transition from Rome)

Was getting E&TC branch in this college

So I work in a very big manufacturing firm and the company has manufacturing locations all over in EU, UK, US, Latam etc. I want to go to UK because it has manufacturing sites at various locations in UK and also want to settle in UK permanently/long term. Whom should I approach for internal transfer?