u/Inside_Breakfast_777

Pata hai aaj kya hua, I've so many things pending to do and have responsibilities but whenever I sit in free time I get the thoughts of having a girl. Touching her Smoothly and Open my heart and thoughts and also Kiss her and do romantic stuff like a teen couple do.

But it all started when I got a crush on my friend and she rejected me and I was dumb and deprived of her attention that I started to convince her 3-4 times in 8 months. And finally i Accepted the defeat but the relationship and loneliness thoughts comes daily. It has been a year and still the feeling of holding hands and having a girl Frustrated me a lot. I'm 20 years old recently graduated and at home.

I've so many things pending to do and have responsibilities but whenever I sit in free time I get the thoughts of having a girl. Touching her Smoothly and Open my heart and thoughts and also Kiss her and do romantic stuff like a teen couple do.

But it all started when I got a crush on my friend and she rejected me and I was dumb and deprived of her attention that I started to convince her 3-4 times in 8 months. And finally i Accepted the defeat but the relationship and loneliness thoughts comes daily. It has been a year and still the feeling of holding hands and having a girl Frustrated me a lot. I'm 20 years old recently graduated and at home.

I've so many things pending to do and have responsibilities but whenever I sit in free time I get the thoughts of having a girl. Touching her Smoothly and Open my heart and thoughts and also Kiss her and do romantic stuff like a teen couple do.

But it all started when I got a crush on my friend and she rejected me and I was dumb and deprived of her attention that I started to convince her 3-4 times in 8 months. And finally i Accepted the defeat but the relationship and loneliness thoughts comes daily. It has been a year and still the feeling of holding hands and having a girl Frustrated me a lot. I'm 20 years old recently graduated and at home.

I've so many things pending to do and have responsibilities but whenever I sit in free time I get the thoughts of having a girl. Touching her Smoothly and Open my heart and thoughts and also Kiss her and do romantic stuff like a teen couple do.

But it all started when I got a crush on my friend and she rejected me and I was dumb and deprived of her attention that I started to convince her 3-4 times in 8 months. And finally i Accepted the defeat but the relationship and loneliness thoughts comes daily. It has been a year and still the feeling of holding hands and having a girl Frustrated me a lot. I'm 20 years old recently graduated and at home.

I've so many things pending to do and have responsibilities but whenever I sit in free time I get the thoughts of having a girl. Touching her Smoothly and Open my heart and thoughts and also Kiss her and do romantic stuff like a teen couple do.

But it all started when I got a crush on my friend and she rejected me and I was dumb and deprived of her attention that I started to convince her 3-4 times in 8 months. And finally i Accepted the defeat but the relationship and loneliness thoughts comes daily. It has been a year and still the feeling of holding hands and having a girl Frustrated me a lot. I'm 20 years old recently graduated and at home.

Well from my class 11 to till now (Graduation completed), I've noticed that every fair girl I see I get some shyness and little crush type and sometimes thinks about them even if I get into home. And Seeing fair skin girls or Beautiful girls, I get crush type feeling and Thinks about them for a little.

Recently a family took rent beside my house and the family has a girl who's Studying and Seeing her frequently Made my brain to think about her most of the times. It's like I've got crush on her but On the other Side I'm not ready in relationships or anything but still my mind reminds of her when I didn't saw even a single time in a day.

By the way I'm 20 years old Male.

What's the reason behind this and you also faced this?

Well from my class 11 to till now (Graduation completed), I've noticed that every fair girl I see I get some shyness and little crush type and sometimes thinks about them even if I get into home. And Seeing fair skin girls or Beautiful girls, I get crush type feeling and Thinks about them for a little.

Recently a family took rent beside my house and the family has a girl who's Studying and Seeing her frequently Made my brain to think about her most of the times. It's like I've got crush on her but On the other Side I'm not ready in relationships or anything but still my mind reminds of her when I didn't saw even a single time in a day.

By the way I'm 20 years old Male.

What's the reason behind this and you also faced this?

Well I've come across A lots of relationship posts and I've observed that Girls who has been with a Toxic or bad boys, they mostly didn't breakup until the girl gets exhausted by trying to change him and Forgive him a lot Until the girl gets the maturity that She's wasting her life with that boy.

But with good guys, most girls Being in relationship with a green guy guy Doesn't end up with marriage. They both Dreamt of marriage with each other but at some point girls breakup or cheat even if the good guy is a green flag because the girls lacks thrill and excitement, adventure that a green guy unable to provide.

And After breakup, girls can easily find another. If in case she got a bad toxic guy and the relationship fails but most girls try to keep the relationship go on until the girls gets exhausted and the guy sucked her life out of her body.

And then the girls settle with a guy in arrange marriage who is earning good and from Well-off family and he never get into relationship (if he had any past relationships then he can smell the girls with greater chances)

What's your opinion? Any family incidents took in your surroundings or in your life? I'm not generalizing I'm saying most of them are like that.

Well I've been a person who believed good girls are more in ratio than Good boys.

But few things Made me to Concern about this.

1. We Assume good Girls are those who are traditional and never in a relationship because of maintaining parents Respect in society and not get any degrading themselves.

My Assumption: So it may means that girls whom we think good are not actually good girls. They maybe not in relationship or not Against their parents wishes because they always thinks what people will think if they do such things (insecure girls that thinks about themselves to show they are pure nature and no one say anything bad about their character)

2. Girls who are Pretty introvert and people assume she is a silent girl in whole group and she's a good girl because she never talks against anyone and obeys every word of her parents or never gets angry or shouts on Anyone

My Assumption: because the girl will think about her character will be degrade infront of others, if she Disobey her parents or Shouts on anyone in reverse (Society Kya kahegi ka chinta karne wali ladkiya)

3. Girls that Talks Nice and behaves nice and introvert to everyone

My Assumption : Deep inside they are insecure and has jealously nature like if another girl gets anything then they'll get jealous or if she gets anything then she'll show off to other girls to get attention and be on top clouds.

Incidents I faced:

1. I and My female class mate got connected in WhatsApp and for 5 days she initiated conversations and I was like why unnecessarily msging when there's nothing to talk. So after few days i got to know from her friend that she said to her that in 5 days I initiated Whatsapp Msgs to her. I was like what!

2. My Mom. So There's nothing I can do because she always thinks about society and tells us to do this and that as per her wish like job and she didn't care about what i want to do in life because my mom cares to show the society that her son got govt job.

3. A girl who is traditional and Introverted and never been in relationship and thinks about what society will say. So I confessed to this girl and she rejected me and sometimes she do something that she knows I get Jealous but still she do it and tries to make me more Jealous.

Conclusion: if a girl is good that's because she thinks about what society will think if she gets into relationship or If she talks against her parents or maybe she's insecure girl. But goodness in girls i even never understand what's there in a girl.

Maybe I'm wrong and my perspective also maybe wrong. So that's why sharing it to change it.

Well I've been a person who believed good girls are more in ratio than Good boys.

But few things Made me to Concern about this.

1. We Assume good Girls are those who are traditional and never in a relationship because of maintaining parents Respect in society and not get any degrading themselves.

My Assumption: So it may means that girls whom we think good are not actually good girls. They maybe not in relationship or not Against their parents wishes because they always thinks what people will think if they do such things (insecure girls that thinks about themselves to show they are pure nature and no one say anything bad about their character)

2. Girls who are Pretty introvert and people assume she is a silent girl in whole group and she's a good girl because she never talks against anyone and obeys every word of her parents or never gets angry or shouts on Anyone

My Assumption: because the girl will think about her character will be degrade infront of others, if she Disobey her parents or Shouts on anyone in reverse (Society Kya kahegi ka chinta karne wali ladkiya)

3. Girls that Talks Nice and behaves nice and introvert to everyone

My Assumption : Deep inside they are insecure and has jealously nature like if another girl gets anything then they'll get jealous or if she gets anything then she'll show off to other girls to get attention and be on top clouds.

Incidents I faced:

1. I and My female class mate got connected in WhatsApp and for 5 days she initiated conversations and I was like why unnecessarily msging when there's nothing to talk. So after few days i got to know from her friend that she said to her that in 5 days I initiated Whatsapp Msgs to her. I was like what!

2. My Mom. So There's nothing I can do because she always thinks about society and tells us to do this and that as per her wish like job and she didn't care about what i want to do in life because my mom cares to show the society that her son got govt job.

3. A girl who is traditional and Introverted and never been in relationship and thinks about what society will say. So I confessed to this girl and she rejected me and sometimes she do something that she knows I get Jealous but still she do it and tries to make me more Jealous.

Conclusion: if a girl is good that's because she thinks about what society will think if she gets into relationship or If she talks against her parents or maybe she's insecure girl. But goodness in girls i even never understand what's there in a girl.

Maybe I'm wrong and my perspective also maybe wrong. So that's why sharing it to change it.

Well I've been a person who believed good girls are more in ratio than Good boys.

But few things Made me to Concern about this.

1. We Assume good Girls are those who are traditional and never in a relationship because of maintaining parents Respect in society and not get any degrading themselves.

My Assumption: So it may means that girls whom we think good are not actually good girls. They maybe not in relationship or not Against their parents wishes because they always thinks what people will think if they do such things (insecure girls that thinks about themselves to show they are pure nature and no one say anything bad about their character)

2. Girls who are Pretty introvert and people assume she is a silent girl in whole group and she's a good girl because she never talks against anyone and obeys every word of her parents or never gets angry or shouts on Anyone

My Assumption: because the girl will think about her character will be degrade infront of others, if she Disobey her parents or Shouts on anyone in reverse (Society Kya kahegi ka chinta karne wali ladkiya)

3. Girls that Talks Nice and behaves nice and introvert to everyone

My Assumption : Deep inside they are insecure and has jealously nature like if another girl gets anything then they'll get jealous or if she gets anything then she'll show off to other girls to get attention and be on top clouds.

Incidents I faced:

1. I and My female class mate got connected in WhatsApp and for 5 days she initiated conversations and I was like why unnecessarily msging when there's nothing to talk. So after few days i got to know from her friend that she said to her that in 5 days I initiated Whatsapp Msgs to her. I was like what!

2. My Mom. So There's nothing I can do because she always thinks about society and tells us to do this and that as per her wish like job and she didn't care about what i want to do in life because my mom cares to show the society that her son got govt job.

3. A girl who is traditional and Introverted and never been in relationship and thinks about what society will say. So I confessed to this girl and she rejected me and sometimes she do something that she knows I get Jealous but still she do it and tries to make me more Jealous.

Conclusion: if a girl is good that's because she thinks about what society will think if she gets into relationship or If she talks against her parents or maybe she's insecure girl. But goodness in girls i even never understand what's there in a girl.

Maybe I'm wrong and my perspective also maybe wrong. So that's why sharing it to change it.

Well I'm 20 years old recently graduated and i never been in a relationship but I always had a preference that if I'm a virgin then I'll look for a virgin.

As current genz and people are doing sex, kiss or have relationships before marriage. And Some did sex in in relationships or casuals, flings or with friends. So my preference is a virgin who never had any relationships just like me.

But in this current situation I guess its very hard to find such girl. So in future if I luckily find someone of my preference then I'll wait few months without touching them as to just know about them and to get their trust so that they'll reveal themselves and doesn't hide anything to me. And during that If I found they are opposite of my preference I'll silently breakup. If I didn't find anyone of my preference then either i stay single or at the end compromise my preference.

I just feel disgusting omto think that my wife or gf had a partner before me. And Intimate is really big thing to me. So to not break my heart I'm having this preference.