Nagmessage sa akin ang tatay ko saying na “Anak kita, gusto ko ‘wag kang maglilihim sa akin, kakampi mo ako oras oras” “basta magsabi ka lang”. Pero natatakot pa rin ako kasi kapag nakakakita sila ng bading or lesbian, may negative talagang nasasabi ☹️. Gusto ko na mag come out, sobrang bigat ng dinadala ko ngayon, feeling ko kapag nailabas ko ‘yun gagaan ang pakiramdam ko 🥹.
I recently ended things with my partner even though mahal ko pa siya, and now I’m questioning if tama ba yung naging decision ko.
For a long time, I felt emotionally drained and unheard in our relationship. Every time I tried opening up about my feelings, parang hindi talaga naa-address yung side ko because the conversation would shift to their stress, pagod, or explanations. I understood that they were struggling too, so I kept trying to understand them, pero habang tumatagal, parang ako nalang lagi yung umiintindi.
What hurt me the most was realizing they could give time, effort, and energy to other things, but when it came to us, parang laging kulang.
Mahal ko pa siya, but I started feeling emotionally alone in the relationship. Valid ba yung decision kong umalis, or did I give up too soon?
I’ve been reflecting a lot on emotional intelligence lately, especially in relationships, and I think one of the hardest realizations is understanding the difference between being understanding and emotionally neglecting yourself for the sake of love.
I recently ended a relationship with someone I still deeply love because I felt emotionally exhausted and unheard for a long time. Whenever I tried opening up about my feelings, the conversations would somehow shift toward their stress, exhaustion, or explanations for their behavior. I genuinely tried to understand them because I knew they were struggling too, but over time I started feeling emotionally alone in the relationship.
One thing that really hurt me was realizing they could make effort, time, and energy for other things, but when it came to us, I often felt like I was asking for too much just by wanting quality time or emotional reassurance.
The hardest part is that I don’t think they’re a bad person. I think they were just emotionally unavailable and overwhelmed. But I’m starting to realize that loving someone isn’t always enough if your emotional needs are constantly being sidelined.
Now I’m questioning myself because part of me still believes things could’ve been fixed. But another part of me wonders if emotional maturity also means knowing when you’re starting to lose yourself trying to understand someone who no longer has the emotional capacity to fully understand you back.
Have any of you experienced something similar? How do you know when walking away is self-respect instead of “giving up too soon”?
I recently ended things (1+ years relationship) with my partner because I felt emotionally neglected and exhausted in the relationship, but now I’m questioning whether my decision was valid or if I gave up too easily.
One of the things that really hurt me was realizing they were willing to spend money on going out with friends, but whenever I invited them out or wanted quality time together, the usual reason was that they didn’t have money. I understand that it’s their money and they can spend it however they want, but over time it made me feel like I wasn’t being prioritized.
I tried communicating how heavy everything had been feeling for me and how emotionally alone I was starting to feel. But during our conversations, I felt like my feelings were never fully addressed. Instead, the focus would shift to their exhaustion, their struggles, or defending their side. I know they were going through a lot too, and I genuinely understand that they were tired, but I kept asking myself: what about my feelings?
I still love them deeply, which is why this hurts so much. I didn’t leave because I stopped caring. I left because I felt emotionally drained and like I was always the one adjusting, understanding, and carrying the emotional weight of the relationship.
Now I’m scared I made the wrong decision because part of me still believes things could be fixed.
TL;DR: I broke up with my partner because I felt emotionally neglected, unprioritized, and unheard for a long time. I still love them, but I got exhausted from always being the one understanding and adjusting. Now I’m wondering if my decision was valid or if I gave up too soon.
I recently ended things with my partner because I felt emotionally neglected and exhausted in the relationship, but now I’m questioning whether my decision was valid or if I gave up too easily.
One of the things that really hurt me was realizing they were willing to spend money on going out with friends, but whenever I invited them out or wanted quality time together, the usual reason was that they didn’t have money. I understand that it’s their money and they can spend it however they want, but over time it made me feel like I wasn’t being prioritized.
I tried communicating how heavy everything had been feeling for me and how emotionally alone I was starting to feel. But during our conversations, I felt like my feelings were never fully addressed. Instead, the focus would shift to their exhaustion, their struggles, or defending their side. I know they were going through a lot too, and I genuinely understand that they were tired, but I kept asking myself: what about my feelings?
I still love them deeply, which is why this hurts so much. I didn’t leave because I stopped caring. I left because I felt emotionally drained and like I was always the one adjusting, understanding, and carrying the emotional weight of the relationship.
Now I’m scared I made the wrong decision because part of me still believes things could be fixed.
I recently ended things with my partner because I felt emotionally neglected and exhausted in the relationship, but now I’m questioning whether my decision was valid or if I gave up too easily.
One of the things that really hurt me was realizing they were willing to spend money on going out with friends, but whenever I invited them out or wanted quality time together, the usual reason was that they didn’t have money. I understand that it’s their money and they can spend it however they want, but over time it made me feel like I wasn’t being prioritized.
I tried communicating how heavy everything had been feeling for me and how emotionally alone I was starting to feel. But during our conversations, I felt like my feelings were never fully addressed. Instead, the focus would shift to their exhaustion, their struggles, or defending their side. I know they were going through a lot too, and I genuinely understand that they were tired, but I kept asking myself: what about my feelings?
I still love them deeply, which is why this hurts so much. I didn’t leave because I stopped caring. I left because I felt emotionally drained and like I was always the one adjusting, understanding, and carrying the emotional weight of the relationship.
Now I’m scared I made the wrong decision because part of me still believes things could be fixed.
Was my decision valid, or did I give up too soon?