19 yr old!
I’m in uni right now so I’ve tried saving but still cost cautious
I’m wanting to book a trip maybe for September. Any places to consider? I’m wanting to go somewhere tropical for the summer, maybe I could snorkel. Ideally somewhere safe. I’m thinking asia?! I also wanna meet other cool women in hostels.
this girl. We only have a month left. But this girl pmo so much. When I applied for a Roomate I specifically asked for a clean girl.
This girl cleans, respects our shared space. She never takes the bathroom bins out. I’ve told her to take it out several times but uses the excuse where her spine hurts?!? I’ve seen her carry her shopping and things for the committee. Absolute bs. I’ve left the bathroom bin outside of our bathroom hoping she’d use some common sense and take it away. But not it got left out for 2 weeks until I had to tell her again.It’s comes to the point where u need to use initiative, girl never does this.
Today I just wanna lash out at her. But I’m keeping my cool. I left out bathroom mats to dry by the window. Btw these are wet and soggy and just gross. After I came back from work, I see that she decides to dry her shoes by the window but PLACES THESE DIRTY MATS ON TOP OF MY BOOKS.
I have a lot of anger and I’m trying my hardest not to lash out at her. It’s futile since she wont even keep her the space clean despite me telling her to do.
It makes me not want to try atp. I’m getting my own room next yr ofc.
19F girl and I’m constantly trying to change myself. It’s like this because I used to live in social isolation a lot in my teen yrs until last yr. This was due to insecurities.
Now I’m in a better position, I feel like living and doing everything. But because I had to wait, I feel behind. Consequently, I’ve been just doing everything to catch up to people my age.
I’m constantly comparing people my age on social media when I don’t even know their journey.
I used American terms but I’m from the uk. But I never had a good secondary school/ college. By this I mean, I wasn’t present back then, I was super insecure and self isolated. I never felt worthy of friends, so I pushed people away, I didn’t have boundaries, I let people manipulate me.
Fast forward, I don’t have any close friends. In uni, I’m struggling with making close friends. Even if there are a bunch of people who fake being friends with one another, it still doesn’t change the fact that they tried during high school whereas despite me wanting to, I mentally wasn’t in the position because I felt that insecure.
I don’t want the fact that I missed out basiclaly the core teen experiences on self isolation. I wanna take back and relive the years I lost before it’s too late.
I’m 19. I’m struggling to know who I am. Besides the identity I’ve created. I have things I’ve always looked up to/ interests eg. Victoria secret, baking, movies, yoga, knitting on some occasions, roller skating.
Outside this, I do feel hollow ig? I’m thinking if someone rlly got to know me, what would I be like disregarding how I am perceived.
I feel like values I have have been passed on from my parents. I hadn’t explored in my teen yrs so i have deviated not by a lot from my parents, in values. But it’s like what else is there about me.
I was rlly insecure >=18 about my appearance, so I was concerned about what others thought when they saw me and I felt like everyone was staring into my insecurity constantly. I grew up being shamed for it that’s why.I had a glow up and look kinda unrecognisable. But it’s like has that habit of performing like I’m being watched gone or…?!? Despite my best at serving myself rather than to others.
Idk but I just can’t do more than one friend. I’ve never explored friendship till uni. But I feel like most ppl have multiple friendships groups for different aspects of them. I feel like I couldn’t do that. Maybe because I still have yet to explore more about myself. But it’s like when all of these hobbies/ideologies/ personalities were absent who would I go to? I’d be alone.
I see that I usually become friends with one person till they do something wrong and if I’m able to set boundaries I will but they’re human and break them so we stop being friends and I’m all alone. This whole cycle repeats
I feel like I’m the end jt just comes down to ur backbone. I feel like if I had maternal support I wouldn’t need to seek out for an imperfect friend. Also it’d be easier to just have surface level friendships
Idk if this post makes any sense
I’m 19F here and in my first yr of uni. One thing I’m struggling with in terms of social skills is having humour/ witt. I lack it. Tbh I think I’ve always lacked it.
I’ve had a very negative and depressing upbring and uni has been the time where I’ve been growing.
I am socially confident but I’m not sure how to engage in humour or to be humorous around me peers. If I find something funny I say it but most of the time I’m silent and I think I’m pretty serious for someone my age. People my age tend to be chronically online but I don’t catch up w that cuz I don’t find that funny. I’m just a calm girl tbh. I enjoy doing things rather than socialising and I don’t know what to say most of the time so I stay silent because what’s the point of talking if I’ve got nothing to say?
I’m not trynna lose myself trying to gain this humorous skill. It’s just it can set me back with creating friendships, job opportunities.
Heyy, so I have a friend I made at uni. I didn’t know it was her birthday tomorrow until one of her other friends invited me for her surprise birthday party. I don’t have much time. She likes 2000s things.
Any gift ideas? My budget is £5-£15.
I was considering flowers, baking cookies or something and maybe a small gift.
So I’d say my family ( based on my parents earning) is low income. I’ve been raised without proper self care, haven’t been taught skills/lessons, also education wasn’t rlly promoted for me cuz my parents thought I was doing well in school.
I work part time while in uni. I’m a uni with a lot of people whose parents have a degree/ earn way more than my parents for sure. Also a lot of international students too.
I have always loved clothes and dressing up. But I feel like I give the wrong perception of it from how I dress.
I also don’t take cate of myself well/ do self care. I don’t play a sport or instrument. I haven’t read books in sometime. I don’t connect w people since I lack skills. I try and eat healthy and balanced but the quality of my food can be okayish sometimes. I try and go outside during the nice weather. I work rlly hard manually rather than use logic and my brain.
It’s exhausting and I genuinely feel like I need to change my life.