u/HelloKitties_xo

I have been trying to date for a while now. Today I just ended things with a guy I had been seeing for about 2 weeks after he said some pretty horrible things to me. Earlier in the day he was so nice to me and this is the first time I’ve seen him upset, but it felt like a switch just flipped.

I want to continue dating and getting to know people but after so many failed attempts it feels like there’s no point to keep going. This goes for relationship and friendship betrayals. I don’t want to keep opening up to people just to have things I said in a vulnerable moment thrown back in my face.

Whenever I post here about anything, people always assume that I must be in the situation I’m in because of something I did. No specific example, because it just always happens.

Does anyone think you’re the reason for your loneliness? I have always been lonely because I grew up in an abusive household and my biological dad abandoned me. Wondering why you think you’re lonely.

I was dating a guy for a bit, I am 26F, he is 28M. He is always so sweet to me and I honestly thought he adored me. Today, we started talking about a new neighbor I have who told me he was gay, and we hung out for about a week, and then after the week he told me he’s actually bisexual and began to hit on me non stop, and would not take no for an answer. When I said no, he would begin to knock on my door, my wall, text me threatening messages, etc. Eventually I had to get the cops involved.

I mentioned to the guy I was seeing that I feel like the neighbor pretended to be gay just to get closer to me. And then admit later he’s actually bisexual.

The guy I was seeing didn’t respond at all, then there was a complete change in his voice. He sounded really offended and just extremely uncomfortable. I was so confused and finally I just asked “do you like men?” And he didn’t answer. Then he became so offended, started calling me a horrible person, that I have issues, bad person, etc.

I kept asking where this reaction came from? What I said that upset him so badly? He never actually answered whether or not he likes men. He’s a virgin (I am not) which I didn’t think anything of because we’re both Christian. He’s also never had a girlfriend.

Did he get so offended because he does like men? I don’t think men get that offended just from being asked if they like men. I told him that I wasn’t for the name calling and that we are done.

I graduated college yesterday it took me 8 years because I have severe ADHD. I’m 26. I wish my family stayed to take pictures with me but I looked around for them after and they left. I am going to sit my phone against the wall tomorrow and take pictures with my dogs in my cap and gown. Im the first in my family to graduate. I wish I had a better mom or I wish I had a dad.