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I am at a loss tbh and would really appreciate some guidance. My husband and I are both 27, and we have been together almost 6 years. We have recently hit a rough patch, mostly from just being overwhelmed and miscommunicating. A little more than a month ago, he announced that he was thinking heavily about separation, and for the next three weeks, my life was pure hell. I lost weight, could barely function, was ultra obsessed with doing everything to be a better wife (and failing at that ofc too, every once in a while). This was at a highly important time in my life, too - I needed to attend my PhD defence at the end of April, in another country (I moved for my husband a few years ago and was commuting back and forth). After those three hellish weeks, I left for that country, and I am currently still there, because I am terrified of going back to my husband. I have been away for three weeks, and I have started antidepressants, therapy, and am surrounded by my friends. Going back to him means I will be stuck with someone who is now throwing whatever frustration he has with his life at me and is not likely to try to address some of his own issues. I can see that he is waiting for me, even though he is showing it in a very passive agressive way, but probably because underneath he is very scared of being left alone in his depression. I am also in a quite sensitive stage, as even though I have savings, I don't have a job just yet, so staying at Airbnb is not as pretty. Plus, I guess I do want to try and give our relationship another go.... And if I don't go, I will probably ruin our chances as he will further believe that I do not prioritise him, and I don't want to piss him off..... We had a fight today about that, where he was really angry at me and very annoyed, but later it turned out that he is just really afraid of losing me, even though he cannot admit it openly... So, what do I do, do I stay or do I go?

I am at a loss tbh and would really appreciate some guidance. My husband and I are both 27, and we have been together almost 6 years. We have recently hit a rough patch, mostly from just being overwhelmed and miscommunicating. A little more than a month ago, he announced that he was thinking heavily about separation, and for the next three weeks, my life was pure hell. I lost weight, could barely function, was ultra obsessed with doing everything to be a better wife (and failing at that ofc too, every once in a while). This was at a highly important time in my life, too - I needed to attend my PhD defence at the end of April, in another country (I moved for my husband a few years ago and was commuting back and forth). After those three hellish weeks, I left for that country, and I am currently still there, because I am terrified of going back to my husband. I have been away for three weeks, and I have started antidepressants, therapy, and am surrounded by my friends. Going back to him means I will be stuck with someone who is now throwing whatever frustration he has with his life at me and is not likely to try to address some of his own issues. I can see that he is waiting for me, even though he is showing it in a very passive agressive way, but probably because underneath he is very scared of being left alone in his depression. I am also in a quite sensitive stage, as even though I have savings, I don't have a job just yet, so staying at Airbnb is not as pretty. Plus, I guess I do want to try and give our relationship another go.... And if I don't go, I will probably ruin our chances as he will further believe that I do not prioritise him, and I don't want to piss him off..... We had a fight today about that, where he was really angry at me and very annoyed, but later it turned out that he is just really afraid of losing me, even though he cannot admit it openly... So, what do I do, do I stay or do I go?

I am at a loss tbh and would really appreciate some guidance. My husband and I are both 27, and we have been together almost 6 years. We have recently hit a rough patch, mostly from just being overwhelmed and miscommunicating. A little more than a month ago, he announced that he was thinking heavily about separation, and for the next three weeks, my life was pure hell. I lost weight, could barely function, was ultra obsessed with doing everything to be a better wife (and failing at that ofc too, every once in a while). This was at a highly important time in my life, too - I needed to attend my PhD defence at the end of April, in another country (I moved for my husband a few years ago and was commuting back and forth). After those three hellish weeks, I left for that country, and I am currently still there, because I am terrified of going back to my husband. I have been away for three weeks, and I have started antidepressants, therapy, and am surrounded by my friends. Going back to him means I will be stuck with someone who is now throwing whatever frustration he has with his life at me and is not likely to try to address some of his own issues. I can see that he is waiting for me, even though he is showing it in a very passive agressive way, but probably because underneath he is very scared of being left alone in his depression. I am also in a quite sensitive stage, as even though I have savings, I don't have a job just yet, so staying at Airbnb is not as pretty. Plus, I guess I do want to try and give our relationship another go.... And if I don't go, I will probably ruin our chances as he will further believe that I do not prioritise him, and I don't want to piss him off..... We had a fight today about that, where he was really angry at me and very annoyed, but later it turned out that he is just really afraid of losing me, even though he cannot admit it openly... So, what do I do, do I stay or do I go?

Hi all,

I wonder if you can confirm this for me. I am a PhD student on a student visa, and I recently had my viva (yay!). I was also recently offered a scientific consultancy position in the UK on a freelance basis. Obviously, I know that freelancing while physically in the UK is prohibited for student visa holders. But I want to clarify two things:

1- Does passing my viva/submitting my corrections change anything in terms of employment rules, or does this change only when I start my application for Graduate visa? Btw, when I submit my application for Grad visa, do I still follow the student visa rules or the grad visa rules re work?

2 - My university is very chill about PhDs in general. Obviously, since I also had my viva already, they can't care any less about my geolocation. So, does it mean that whenever I am outside of the country, I can charge consultancy hours and work as a freelancer with no consequences for my visa?

3- also a bonus question in case anyone knows - if my freelance contract is very much related to my PhD, can I apply for the Global talent visa with this?..

Many thanks!