u/Fluffy-Device9832

I love this group so much 🫶 and I didn't know where else to turn..

I am a 41 F who is in premenopause and I am so hormonal these days.... 🫠

My relationship started when I was 39 and not in pre menopause yet. We are mid distance, about 45 minutes, and usually see each other one night a week, Saturdays. He's 55, a worholic and has PTSD from his job. I have PTSD too and am a single mom to three kids, one with special needs. We are both super stressed and burnt out. Both dating post divorce but not our first post divorce relationship. We don't see each other during the week, but do daily phone calls, texts, send photos, etc.

The whole first year I would pack by mid week and couldn't wait to spend my weekend with him. It was one of the things I looked forward to the most.

But since January we both had a lot of life things happen, and we starting only seeing each other two nights a month. Snow storms, sickness, injuries .... It was all out of our control but it did effect us. I'm a quality time person.

He's also an introvert and I'm a super extrovert so that does come into play too.

We don't fight, we can have conflict calmly and respectfully, we don't have any toxic things, it really is healthy.

In spite of all of that ..

In the past few months I've realized I don't get excited to go there anymore. The past five months have kind of felt, different. I know burnt out is playing a huge role, and also this is year 2, and relationships ebb and flow.

I'm such a lover girl, so usually on fire with passion and feels alllll the things....and I just feel, nothing.

I know sometimes relationships run their course. I know that I haven't ever had a healthy relationship until now, and I really don't want to lose him. It's just so unlike me to feel nothing....

I'd appreciate any tips or POV you all have. ❤️

I've been thinking a lot about this and how it effects dating post divorce. I'm wondering if some of us simply don't want to move in or live with partners because we got so used to living alone?

I'd love to hear any points of view you have.

My 2013 Ford Flex is in the shop (again) and I don't want to keep putting $$ into fixing it, it's only worth 5k on Kelly Blue Book.

I cant put a down payment on a used car.

What's my most affordable option? I'm not a great problem solver and don't have a dad, lol so I thought I'd ask here. Thank you 😊

My partner (M55) and I (F41)had terrible long term marriages and are dating post divorce. We have a really healthy relationship, and when we are together, it's fantastic. But we live in different towns. So we only see each other on weekends. We have been together a year and a half.

We always say we can't imagine ever getting married again but part of me wonders if we are just afraid.

Does anyone have any tips, or any success stories on second marriages later in life?