Am I able to just send in a new, correct form? It’s just the top part that’s incorrect. All of my information is correct. Do I wait until it’s denied then send another? Any help is appreciated. Thank you!
I’m starting the hers 4mg every other day. Anyone have any insight or experiences? Should I cancel and switch to something that gives you pills every day?
Hello. My husband has been suffering with ED since he was about 18. We are desperately looking for the cause. He is making a doctor appointment today but in the mean time we are looking for possible causes.
My husband’s mother is…a lot. She guilt trips, fakes illnesses, extreme outbursts, enmeshes, threatens suicide. If you have dealt with a pwBPD you probably understand. His mother was also very religious and told him masturbation was bad. She texts him giant monologues of useless information or pity seeks almost every single day. Would setting boundaries on the useless texts be a good idea? Would it help him heal from his trauma and possibly help with his ED? I know PTSD can cause this and he feels shame when he finishes from masturbation. (I do too but I was sexually abused) sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask this stuff. Just looking for any insight or advice. Thank you.
I read the rules and I’m not 100% sure this is allowed. But my husband’s mother has BPD and when he was a child (and most of this stuff even today) would have very intense emotions, would try to guilt trip him, give him conditional gifts, fake medical emergencies, try to keep constant contact with him, and since she was religious she also would tell him masturbation was bad etc. Obviously that’s a super basic rundown, there’s so much to her treatment of him. But my husband has been suffering with ED since he was about 18 years old and we cannot figure out why…is there a decent chance it could be linked to his mother’s abuse? She usually texts him multiple times a day, really long monologues about nothing important or pity searching. Would setting boundaries with his mother about only texting him for important things help? Or like maybe only once a week? Any help is appreciated. Also, I got permission before posting this so no one’s privacy is being invaded <3
TW: Suicide attempts
My husband (27M) and I (23F) have been together for about 5 years and this has been a struggle our entire relationship. His mother is so overbearing. She cries all the time. She called me her daughter in law within a month of my husband and I being together.
At first it wasn’t bad because she was friendly but then thanksgiving 2021 happened. She told us she was sick so we shouldn’t come over…so we didn’t and she threatened to slit her throat and send us a video and hurled every insult. She broke into my husbands car and dropped off “gifts” (it’s always stuff no one asked for that she will make sure you still have every time you see her) she threatened us with legal issues, attempted to complain about my FIL (personal information that I didn’t need to know, they’ve been divorced for years) she needs constant attention. Texts to my husband every single day, many texts…usually random stuff (she saw someone from 20 years ago?) or talking about how “sick” she is (has health problems but we never know what’s the truth and what isn’t). She’s just so much. She seems to think that her son owes her attention and help…all the time. She will guilt trip. If you ignore her too much she’ll start insulting you and playing the victim.. we have two kids and she’s been great to them but I’m so so nervous she will do this to them too!
Once we were even on vacation and she called to tell my husband that she was getting a heart transplant the next week. He almost fell for it but I told him that is NOT how it works, you don’t get a heart a week after needing one. She went into theatrics about the will, her heart being literally black..everything for attention…she did end up getting a stent replaced, why didn’t she just say that??? She’s constantly sick in some way. I just don’t know what to do. The constant texts. Asking for stuff to be picked up from marketplace and favors.
Right now she’s being friendly to us but she doesn’t even remember my college major…I’m mechanical engineering and she ALWAYS says electrical..it’s small but she expects so much from everyone else. If you forget stuff about her she’ll be so upset. If you blow her off…but she has made it to ONE of my kids events..she flakes..the other day she said she was going to the hospital (should’ve just went to the dr, it was a stubborn cold, but she wants people to know she’s in the ER) and that we must go let her dog out. We were both super busy. She was chill about that thankfully (we would’ve went late at night if no one else was able to, no dogs were harmed) and then the next day told some story about a cop cutting in the pharmacy drive through line, her getting out of her car and flipping him off and berating him and cussing him out…no way! She would’ve gotten arrested!! Why even lie about that?? And don’t let her do anything nice for you because it’s always conditional…she expects my husband’s constant attention and care but used to put her boyfriends before him.
Sorry for this word salad. I’m sure I’ve left a lot out. How do I deal with this??? How can someone be nice sometimes but flip like this? How do we set boundaries about the paragraphs and paragraphs of texts every day…what causes people to lie like this about being ill?? Any advice PLEASE!