u/FatCockroach002

I want to be a tree when I die. Is it something I can do? What kind of paperwork can I fill? I am 26 years old and live in the US. In Maryland for now but I'll settle in Minnesota.

I think becoming a tree after death is a neat celebration of life because trees bring a lot of life into our world. I'm not religious. And I'm an organ donor.

A big tree would be ideal. So it can stay up for longer and be more resilient.

I really want to make that happen.

So I'm talking to this girl I met on Feeld, and she said she's a size queen. I wouldn't say mine is huge, I think it's closer to average (15-17 cm long (20 from the and about 15cm in girth). I haven't had any issues with past partners (that I know of)....but I am about 185cm tall and large so it kinda looks small on my frame. Is it too small for a size queen?

Should I just tell her what I have? Am I just overthinking this?

This is a dating question.....So I (26M) matched with this girl (25F) on Hinge (Let's call her Sally...that's my Subuwu's name 🥹) about a month and a half ago. I recently graduated as a nurse and she was still in school for her BS in Psychology. I live in MD and she is in WI (I am planning to move to MN soon and was very open about it in my profile) and I said I could visit her when I would go on trips to MN to see which neighborhoods I'd like to live in between when we met and when I was planning to move (next year) and she seemed to agree to be ok with that when we talked about it.

Now because of the long distance, I tried to find stuff for us to do every week so we could still interact with each other while doing something together. I thought of games, watch parties or just calls with eachother......she said she was ok with watch parties because she doesn't watch a lot of stuff by herself and only watches stuff people recommend her to watch. And she had a potato laptop when I have a fking battle station but she didn't want to play even Minecraft.....the only way we would "meet" would be through the watch parties on discord.

We talked a lot about psychology and she was reading a book about this sociopath that became a psychologist and coincidentally I had seen an interview with her and I thought it was cool....she basically went over her book in the interview. We had similar tastes in books, and same views politically....same life goals....and I felt like we made a great team....she said I made her feel appreciated and loved. Her last relationship was pretty much some guy having an affair bcs he was married.

I shipped her flowers for her birthday (when she turned 25), and a massage at a place she felt safe going to. And she loved those experiences (she told me no one had ever given her flowers....and she is a stress ball...she needed the massage).

I after a month we talked so much about our lives and plans that we slowed down a bit and I thought it would be a great idea to tell her that I was ready to put a label on the situationship we had.... But then she opened up and said that she didn't want a label until after I am in MN. I was planning to visit her for her graduation in May but she also denied that and we talked about visiting parks together in fall but the suddenly felt uncertain about it. That was literally in the span of a week..... everything changed.

She started breadcrumbing in the last week and then I redownloaded Hinge (yes ...I was so certain about us that I removed hinge from my phone) and she had unmatched me....at that point I didn't hear from her for about 2-3 days.

Can you please enlightened me as to how I fumbled this? I'm kinda lost. She seemed to be like an amazing communicator, it was honestly refreshing. I felt pampered....we both thought we'd make a great partners.

I know this is all over the place.....but I'm very confused.