u/FIREH0RSE

I’m sorry for the crappy organization of this, I’m taking a break to ask Reddit and I need to get back to work.

Long story short.. dress code states blouses, slacks, dress pants, appropriate length skirts and dresses, heels.

It says “no denim of any kind, sneakers/running shoes, sandals, tshirts with slogans on it, overly revealing clothing, loungewear, halter tops, no leggings unless with a sweater dress or tunic”

I have been wearing blue or black jeans and a neck-high tank top with 2 inch thick straps and nice accessory’s to compliment. I have been wearing sandals in the summer (I am in the back corner of an office and not public facing ever) and clean running shoes in other seasons.

I’ve been here 2.5 years, and I have been wearing this exact wardrobe nearly the whole time with no issues.

I started wearing this stuff because I noted this is what everyone else wore (and much more casual than that. The guy we hired for front desk and actually did face the public wore a huge spider man hoodie every day and had his hood up all day.. jeans and runners.) and the one lady who followed the code (pencil skirts, blouses, heels, etc) was made fun of behind her back for “peacocking around the office” all the time. I dropped my coded clothes and followed everyone else.

One lady used to wear **mini** skirts and thigh high leather boots and she was the HEAD OF HR. she has since left at the start of 2026. But she WAS THE HEAD. OF HR. 😭 this dress policy has been in effect the whole time and last updated in 2023.

4 days ago I got pulled aside by my boss and said someone dress coded me and sent me the policy. He wouldn’t say who. They would have had to have gone through HR for him to even present this to me as something to be addressed. He’s good like that. But then again, it could have just been HR themselves.

I wore the blouse, heels, pencil skirt, etc today, but everyone and their dog stopped me and asked me what the special occasion was and was floored I got coded and no one else did. They all pointed out how they were in jeans, tank tops and running shoes while having this conversation with me. There were 6 different people, including one supervisor that’s not mine.

The only thing I’ve done “wrong” recently was send in a medical accommodation form from a doctor changing my work hours to not go past midnight. That was 1.5 months ago. And it was necessary.

I tried applying and interviewing for 3 different jobs internally over 6 months to try and make the change organically but I always got beat out. These jobs were the hours that fit me better. And management and HR knew I was struggling badly with the 12 hour 7-19, 7-19, 19-7, 19-7 rotation I was on the whole time.

I’m following code to the T now, but I feel like the new peacock. And I feel weird.

What do I do? I feel singled out. Maybe like they’re building a case against me for being a nuisance. I don’t know what’s going on. I am not unionized.

I hate lotion on my palms and the transfer. Anyone know a spray on oil/lotion/ointment for dry hands that actually moisturizes and restores?

I’m losing sleep over this.

My mom is recently widowed and mid 60’s. Her car with 100k kms blew the engine. We’ve been looking for vehicles for months now.

She only wanted to spend 25k on a vehicle because she is poor. We struggled to find anything that wasn’t very high mileage/reliable enough. She’s on leave from work right now to grieve my dad’s death. He was a mechanic and always fixed her vehicle. Having him gone has her absolutely lost.

She caved and went with something newer, pushed her budget to 35k for this vehicle. She only went with this one because the payments were going to be around mid 200’s biweekly, and it still had 4 years warranty left with only 20k kms.

She also only wanted a 7 year loan because she would be in her 70’s before it’s paid off and she will never be able to quit working.

Well, she walked in expecting 35k financed.

She walked out with over 55 thousand financed for 9 years at nearly 7% interest..

She’s so hyper paranoid about getting old and her vehicle blowing up on her, that by the time she got into the finance office (she travelled 3 hours 1 way to go to the dealership), the guy was able to talk her into 17+ thousand in add on protections. Life and disability, extended warranty, asset protection, some GAP protection, tire and rim protection.

She tried calling me while she was in there and he was hurling these add ons at her and I missed her call 😔..

The only add ons she could explain to me were the life, disability, and extended warranty. She had no idea/was unable to explain to me what other protections she bought into…

She walked out with a certificate for the extended warranty but nothing outlining what these other protection plans were. She had the bill of sale, the certificate, and the financing quote she signed that only had 3 of these 6 add ons and was way lower in biweekly payments than what she actually got.

I want to make this right for her. She’s started at 25k being her limit and she’s at 55+ now with 2k downpayment, so 57+ all in, plus the 7% interest over 9 years.

The deal was signed at 530 tonight and the dealership closed at 6.

Please tell me I can call them and get these add ons removed. He told her if she wanted the add ons removed it wouldn’t change her biweekly payment.. which is 343 now.

I feel sick to my stomach. My mom is too sweet for this. I feel she was taken advantage of while she was overwhelmed and tired and I failed her by not being there. This was her first new(ish) vehicle purchase. It was supposed to be a sigh of relief after everything that’s happened. When she showed me the papers of how much she signed on, the fear in her eyes broke me.

I’m losing sleep over this.

My mom is recently widowed and mid 60’s. Her car with 100k kms blew the engine. We’ve been looking for vehicles for months now.

She only wanted to spend 25k on a vehicle because she is poor. We struggled to find anything that wasn’t very high mileage/reliable enough. She’s on leave from work right now to grieve my dad’s death. He was a mechanic and always fixed her vehicle. Having him gone has her absolutely lost.

She caved and went with something newer, pushed her budget to 35k for this vehicle. She only went with this one because the payments were going to be around mid 200’s biweekly, and it still had 4 years warranty left with only 20k kms.

She also only wanted a 7 year loan because she would be in her 70’s before it’s paid off and she will never be able to quit working.

Well, she walked in expecting 35k financed.

She walked out with over 55 thousand financed for 9 years at nearly 7% interest..

She’s so hyper paranoid about getting old and her vehicle blowing up on her, that by the time she got into the finance office (she travelled 3 hours 1 way to go to the dealership), the guy was able to talk her into 17+ thousand in add on protections. Life and disability, extended warranty, asset protection, some GAP protection, tire and rim protection.

She tried calling me while she was in there and he was hurling these add ons at her and I missed her call 😔..

The only add ons she could explain to me were the life, disability, and extended warranty. She had no idea/was unable to explain to me what other protections she bought into…

She walked out with a certificate for the extended warranty but nothing outlining what these other protection plans were. She had the bill of sale, the certificate, and the financing quote she signed that only had 3 of these 6 add ons and was way lower in biweekly payments than what she actually got.

I want to make this right for her. She’s started at 25k being her limit and she’s at 55+ now with 2k downpayment, so 57+ all in, plus the 7% interest over 9 years.

The deal was signed at 530 tonight and the dealership closed at 6.

Please tell me I can call them and get these add ons removed. He told her if she wanted the add ons removed it wouldn’t change her biweekly payment.. which is 343 now.

I feel sick to my stomach. My mom is too sweet for this. I feel she was taken advantage of while she was overwhelmed and tired and I failed her by not being there. This was her first new(ish) vehicle purchase. It was supposed to be a sigh of relief after everything that’s happened. When she showed me the papers of how much she signed on, the fear in her eyes broke me.

’m losing sleep over this.

My mom is recently widowed and mid 60’s. Her car with 100k kms blew the engine. We’ve been looking for vehicles for months now.

She only wanted to spend 25k on a vehicle because she is poor. We struggled to find anything that wasn’t very high mileage/reliable enough. She’s on leave from work right now to grieve my dad’s death. He was a mechanic and always fixed her vehicle. Having him gone has her absolutely lost.

She caved and went with something newer, pushed her budget to 35k for this vehicle. She only went with this one because the payments were going to be around mid 200’s biweekly, and it still had 4 years warranty left with only 20k kms.

She also only wanted a 7 year loan because she would be in her 70’s before it’s paid off and she will never be able to quit working.

Well, she walked in expecting 35k financed.

She walked out with over 55 thousand financed for 9 years at nearly 7% interest..

She’s so hyper paranoid about getting old and her vehicle blowing up on her, that by the time she got into the finance office (she travelled 3 hours 1 way to go to the dealership), the guy was able to talk her into 17+ thousand in add on protections. Life and disability, extended warranty, asset protection, some GAP protection, tire and rim protection.

She tried calling me while she was in there and he was hurling these add ons at her and I missed her call 😔..

The only add ons she could explain to me were the life, disability, and extended warranty. She had no idea/was unable to explain to me what other protections she bought into…

She walked out with a certificate for the extended warranty but nothing outlining what these other protection plans were. She had the bill of sale, the certificate, and the financing quote she signed that only had 3 of these 6 add ons and was way lower in biweekly payments than what she actually got.

I want to make this right for her. She’s started at 25k being her limit and she’s at 55+ now with 2k downpayment, so 57+ all in, plus the 7% interest over 9 years.

The deal was signed at 530 tonight and the dealership closed at 6.

Please tell me I can call them and get these add ons removed. He told her if she wanted the add ons removed it wouldn’t change her biweekly payment.. which is 343 now.

I feel sick to my stomach. My mom is too sweet for this. I feel she was taken advantage of while she was overwhelmed and tired and I failed her by not being there. This was her first new(ish) vehicle purchase. It was supposed to be a sigh of relief after everything that’s happened. When she showed me the papers of how much she signed on, the fear in her eyes broke me