Hallo zusammen,
ich habe eine Frage, weil ich mir gerade unsicher bin, ob mein Fall normal ist.
Ich versuche seit etwa einem Monat, meinen Fahrlehrer wegen Fahrstunden zu erreichen, bekomme aber leider keine Rückmeldung. Ich habe schon mehrmals geschrieben und angerufen, aber ohne Erfolg.
Ist so etwas üblich in Fahrschulen ?
Danke euch im Voraus für eure Erfahrungen.
I am really struggling and would appreciate outside advice.
I live with my husband and our children abroad, and we are going on holiday to my home country soon. The issue is my brother.
My brother has had serious behavioral problems. He has been verbally aggressive, used offensive language, and caused major conflicts. My husband got him a job at his workplace, but he was fired after causing problems. After that, he started sending threatening messages to my husband’s employer, where they both worked, which created a very stressful situation for my husband. He has also shouted at and disrespected our parents. On top of that, he struggles with alcohol and medication use, which makes his behavior unpredictable.
Because of all this, my husband has completely lost trust in him. He says he does not want to ever see him again, and he does not want our children around him at all.
My husband allows me to visit my mother, but he does not allow the children to go to her house or our family property as long as my brother is there or might come. Even if I say my brother will not be there, he still refuses because he says he cannot trust the situation.
At the same time, my mother and grandfather are very important to me, and I want my children to have a relationship with them. They can meet us outside, and that part is not a problem, but it is still very difficult emotionally.
I feel very stuck between my husband and my family. I understand my husband’s concerns, but I also feel sad that my children may never have a relationship with their uncle, especially because he has always been kind to them personally.
Assalamu alaikum,
I am really struggling and would appreciate advice, especially from an Islamic perspective.
I live with my husband and our children abroad and we are going on holiday to homeland now,and the issue is my brother.
My brother has had serious behavioral problems. He has been verbally aggressive, used offensive language, and caused major conflicts. My husband got him a job at his workplace and he got fired for causing problem.then he started to send threatening messages to my husband’s employer ,where they both worked, which created a very stressful situation for my husband. He has also shouted at and disrespected our parents. On top of that, he struggles with alcohol and medication use, which makes his behavior unpredictable.
Because of all this, my husband has completely lost trust in him. He says he does not want to ever see him again, and he does not want our children around him at all.
My husband allows me to visit my mother, but he does not allow the children to go to her house or our family property as long as my brother is there or might come. Even if I say my brother will not be there, he still refuses because he says he cannot trust the situation.
At the same time, my mother and grandfather are very important to me, and I want my children to have a relationship with them. They can meet us outside, and that part is not a problem, but it is still very difficult emotionally.
I feel very stuck between my husband and my family. I understand my husband’s concerns, but I also feel sadness that my children may never have a relationship with their uncle, especially because he has always been kind to them personally.
My question is:
How should I handle this situation in a way that is right in Islam?
And if my brother truly changes one day, is it reasonable to hope things could improve, or should I accept this as permanent?
Jazakum Allahu khayran.
Assalamu alaikum,
I am really struggling and would appreciate advice, especially from an Islamic perspective.
I live with my husband and our children abroad and we are going on holiday to homeland now,and the issue is my brother.
My brother has had serious behavioral problems. He has been verbally aggressive, used offensive language, and caused major conflicts. My husband got him a job at his workplace and he got fired for causing problem.then he started to send threatening messages to my husband’s employer ,where they both worked, which created a very stressful situation for my husband. He has also shouted at and disrespected our parents. On top of that, he struggles with alcohol and medication use, which makes his behavior unpredictable.
Because of all this, my husband has completely lost trust in him. He says he does not want to ever see him again, and he does not want our children around him at all.
My husband allows me to visit my mother, but he does not allow the children to go to her house or our family property as long as my brother is there or might come. Even if I say my brother will not be there, he still refuses because he says he cannot trust the situation.
At the same time, my mother and grandfather are very important to me, and I want my children to have a relationship with them. They can meet us outside, and that part is not a problem, but it is still very difficult emotionally.
I feel very stuck between my husband and my family. I understand my husband’s concerns, but I also feel sadness that my children may never have a relationship with their uncle, especially because he has always been kind to them personally.
My question is:
How should I handle this situation in a way that is right in Islam?
And if my brother truly changes one day, is it reasonable to hope things could improve, or should I accept this as permanent?
Jazakum Allahu khayran.
Hi everyone,
I need outside opinions because I feel stuck between my husband and my family.
I live in Germany with my husband and our children.
The issue is my brother.
My brother has a history of serious behavioral problems. He has been verbally aggressive, caused major conflicts in the family, and acted inappropriately in the past. He also struggles with alcohol and medication use, and his behavior can be unpredictable.
Because of this, my husband has made a strict rule that our children are not allowed to go to my mother’s house or our family property if my brother is there or might be there. He says it is not a safe environment for them.
He is okay with me visiting my mother alone, but not with the children being there.
At the same time, my mother and grandfather are very important to me, and the children have a good relationship with them. It is not a problem for them to spend time with us elsewhere — for example going to parks, playgrounds, or meeting us outside — and they can see the children regularly that way.
I understand my husband’s concerns about safety, but I also feel like the boundaries are very strict and it is becoming difficult to manage both sides of my family.
Has anyone been in a similar situation where one partner doesn’t trust the other’s family because of one member? How did you handle it without damaging relationships?