u/ExpressionAntique494

It has been months since my engagement broke and I still feel stuck in the exact same place emotionally while everyone around me seems to be moving forward so easily.

What hurts the most is that I was not even at fault, yet somehow I’m the one carrying all the emotional damage every single day. I had imagined my entire future around this person. My routines, my dreams, my comfort, my sense of safety, everything was tied to that future. And one day it all disappeared.

Since then, I wake up every day trying to function like a normal person. I try therapy. I try skincare, journaling, meditation, distractions, watching comfort shows, staying busy - literally trying everything people say helps. Some days I feel slightly okay for a few hours and then suddenly it all crashes again.

I cannot explain how exhausting it is to pretend you’re healing when inside you still feel shattered.

The worst part is seeing other people happy and moving ahead with life while I feel emotionally frozen. Engagements, weddings, couples, family gatherings everything triggers this deep feeling of grief and unfairness in me. I hate admitting that because I was never this kind of person before.

Now a religious festival is coming in two weeks and instead of feeling excited, I feel anxious. I already know relatives will come, people will ask questions, give fake sympathy, whisper things, or look at me with pity. I genuinely do not have the strength to make my pain a discussion topic for everyone.

Part of me just wants to leave for a week, go somewhere alone, stay in a quiet hotel, sit in cafés, sleep peacefully, and disappear from everyone for a little while.

I don’t even know what I’m asking here. Maybe I just want to know if anyone else has ever felt this emotionally destroyed after a broken engagement or heartbreak, especially when you tried so hard to heal but still felt stuck.

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,

I’m requesting your duas because I genuinely feel lost right now. Around 5 months ago, my engagement broke off, and ever since then I feel like I’ve been stuck in that moment. I never imagined in my wildest dreams that something like this would happen to me. I had imagined my entire future with that person, and suddenly everything feels shattered into pieces.

What hurts even more is seeing everyone around me happy and moving forward while I feel left behind. I’ve started feeling jealous and bitter at times, and I hate feeling this way. I don’t want this sadness to turn me into someone negative. I want peace in my heart again.

Before all this happened, I used to pray 5 times a day. But after this incident, I became distant from salah and from Allah. There were moments of extreme pain where I even questioned things and felt hopeless, and that scares me because I don’t want to lose my connection with Allah. Deep down, I want to come back. I want to pray again, heal again, focus on good things, and stop living in constant fear about my future.

Please make dua that Allah eases my pain, removes this heaviness from my heart, forgives me for my weakness, brings me closer to Him again, and grants me peace, healing, and a future better than what I had imagined for myself.

JazakAllah Khair.

So, I am turning 30 in few months, and I feel like my entire life has completely stalled.

I got engaged at 28, the engagement didn’t last for long, got dumped without any real explanation and am heartbroken, dont know what’s written for me.. I keep on thinking about him not because I want him back but because I can’t make sense of what happened!

I am now trying to move on, but nothing is helping, and whats making it even more difficult are the thoughts of being alone forever, not finding someone and even if I do, the fear of him turning out to be exactly like my ex partner.. I am not a bad person but as I see people around me getting engaged, it kind of hurts.. I have isolated myself, deleted all socials, barely talk to anyone and I’m struggling to focus on work even though I used to be a top performer.

Has anyone in their late 20s/30s gone through something similar and actually come out okay on the other side?

What helped you realistically ? Not just “time heals everything,” but actual steps or mindset shifts?

I don’t know if anyone else feels this, but mornings have become the hardest part of my day.😭

The moment I wake up, there’s this heavy feeling in my chest. It’s like I’m forced to relive everything all over again. I hate mornings now. It feels like I’m waking up into a life I didn’t choose, and I have to drag myself through the same pain every single day.

I used to be a top performer at work. I cared about what I did. Now I barely feel anything. I have zero motivation. I don’t even care if I lose my job, even though I know I need it. I’m just… surviving.

This all started after my engagement ended unexpectedly a few months ago. I’m trying to move on, but it feels like I’m stuck, especially in the mornings.

For those who’ve been through something similar:

Does this get better?

How long did it take for you?

What helped you get through mornings specifically?

How do you function when you feel completely empty?

I’m open to any advice. I just don’t want to feel like this forever.

I don’t even know where to start, but I really need to get this out.

I recently went through a breakup after an engagement. It was an arranged setup, and he ended things suddenly without giving me any real explanation or closure. One day everything felt like it was moving forward, and the next it was just over. I had even bought the wedding dress. I still don’t understand what went wrong.

It’s been 4 months, and I want to move on, I really do, but I feel stuck. He’s still on my mind all the time. No matter what I do, my thoughts keep going back to him and everything that happened.

Since it ended, I feel like I’ve completely lost myself. My days feel heavy, especially mornings. I wake up with this sinking feeling in my chest and it just doesn’t go away.

I’ve also stopped taking care of myself. I don’t remember the last time I properly got ready or even felt like looking in the mirror. It’s like I don’t have the energy to be myself anymore.

What hurts the most is the shame. I’ve pulled away from people and lost contact with friends and even some family because I don’t know how to face them. I feel like they’ll judge me or ask questions I don’t have answers to. I feel embarrassed, like I failed somehow.

I’m almost 30, and I always wanted to get married and have a family. Now I’m scared that it won’t happen for me. I keep thinking maybe I wasn’t enough, maybe something about me made him leave.

I keep going in loops … missing him, wanting to check on him, trying to stop myself, then feeling worse. I’ve tried cutting contact and distracting myself, but my mind doesn’t stop.

I see people around me being happy and moving on with their lives, and it makes me feel even more alone.

Has anyone been through something like this after a broken engagement and actually come out okay? How did you move on when you didn’t even get closure?

I just want to feel normal again, even a little bit.