u/Every_Maize1155

Hola all,

Quick background, im 35, I had two surgeries. One at 7 one at 18.

I was born okay so to speak but due to impact af the back in my head at 7 muscle in my eye seized. Two surgeries later, things are looking very much same same.

Anyway, I am coming here with another question.

Do you see colour same with both eyes?

For me the difference is quite noticeable in saturation and tone. It makes it very hard to choose makeup, or judge colour of clothes that work for me.

Anyway, just wondering if anyone else is on the same page?

Just curious

I feel like reditt is filled with so much misery, so how about something positive?

What your win of the week? Month? Year Decade?

What do you really not suck at? Or enjoyed sucking at?

Did you make something? Say something? Been somewhere? Made someone day?

Please, please no negativity. the whole point of this is to uplift people and allow space to safely celebrate wins

No triggers please.

Hi all, im at loss and quite confused at this point.

My mother is retired, we have had a long history of poor contact. She has virtually zero fridns an no family members that stay in touch. She lives with my father who is in the exact same situation. They hate each other and stayed together simply because they coudnt afford divorce.

Nevertheless I am trying to stay in touch but I feel like its really challenging to speak to her.

She keeps diverting every conversation/subject to things that annoy yer/ frustrate her.

She has a lot of time on her hands and spend it all reading bullshit on Internet. All day every day.

When i approach her she just wants to talk about crisis, war, economicall collapse, doom and gloom.

Today I message her about my dog needing to get dental procedure, and how me and my dog both have a dentist day on Friday, she didn't ask me why im going to dentist (to out on braces she never wanted to pay for) within minutes she complained about weather, and how nothing good every comes from West.. what do i even say to that.. I dont usually engage with negativity but she only has negativity in her mind. Nothing is ever good. Not that it ever was but now its extra bad.

I feel at loss. I tried to tell her I dont want to talk about war, fear, doom and gloom. Politics and climate change. She isnt really ever remembering i said that.

Theres so many subjects we could talk about but i feel she just wants to off load all her (self induced) worries on me and its surpised I dont want to listen. Even if I call her with a unrelated questions, be sure conversation will turn to war, crisis, some other depressing shit. She needs to get out more, im sure shes depressed. I just dont understand why it should be my problem? Or what i can do? Im not​ her parent, I will not parent her.

What do I do at this point?

Hi all,

Ive been toying with an idea of finding guidance, has anyone ever had a mentor?

How do I find one? How do i know its a good idea to have one?

Thank you