Nedavno sam se setio čuvene rečenice iz Povratka otpisanih, pa bih pitao ovde šta ona zapravo znači ukoliko je neko odgonetnuo. Neki su mi pričali da ona prosto ne znači nikakav prevod sa nemačkog ili ništa slično.
Pojašnjenja radi, pod "nemogućom" porodicom podrazumevao bih odrastanje s striktnim roditeljima, u uslovima gde imaš oba ili jednog emocionalno nedostupnog roditelja ili teškog ignoranta, prezaštinički nastrojene roditelje... Ili recimo, kao nažalost ne tako retka situacija, da neko od roditelja počne da se alkoholiše ili da je nasilnik.
Suština pitanja bila bi da sročite u kojoj meri je celo iskustvo odrastanja u lošoj porodici uticalo na socijalizaciju, što bi podrazumevalo i odnos prema ljubavnom životu. Okruženje koje bi, prirodno, trebalo da bude naveća podrška detetu i oslonac u odrastanju, na kraju ispadne kao najveći neprijatelj.
Prisustvovanje scenama roditeljskih svađa koje se na kraju završe tučom ili dugim periodima međusobnog nekomuniciranja, osećanje manjka razuma čak i za najosnovnije potrebe deteta, nedostatak bilo kakve podrške u zamenu za prikriveno nametanje potrebe za težnjom ka ostvarenju njihovih neostvarenih želja... To su samo su neki od razloga zašto deca mogu da provedu godine u depresiji preispitujući, pre svega, njihov odnos, i da na to gledaju kao opomenu pazeći kako će se odnositi prema stupanju u veze. Na to bih dodao i poteškoće u opštoj socijalizaciji, što dodatno utiče na smanjenje šansi za uspeh u ljubavi.
Počeću prvo od primera svojih poznanika. Jedna drugarica mi je godinama dete razvedenih roditelja te je s tim u vezi formirala stav da ne želi uopšte da nalazi dečka tokom osnovnih studija da joj ne poremeti planove za završetak studija. Njena majka se u toku studija udala te je iste i napustila, što se na kraju razvodom završilo. Poznajem i još jednu osobu koja se slično postavila u istoj situaciji.
Da li se slično desilo i vama?
I know anyone can't give me a precise know-how guide about my specific context, but i'm looking for general advice how to behave in order to give her a good impression about myself as person.
So, i finally gathered balls to invite girl i like on first date, which we agreed to happen in next 10-15 days after her exams end (she is very passionate nerd like me, so we strongly respect each other in that field). We met each other on extracuricular activity on our college months ago, but we started to hang out more intensively in recent time. On our first group meetup, i thought she was interested in my personality, and in reverse i expressed interest for her, so we had talk about that when we stood up alone in front of the table in bar, for whole night.
But, since it's, for now, my first succesful date invite ever, i'm concerned about it will fail in the end. I'm 22, so it's weird for men my age to be inexperienced with women (at least, in the Balkans, Europe where i live) in terms of love, relationships, and sex.
Since i lived under very hard conditions last three years (financially, dealing with ill old parents, trying to do best at the college...) i had a pause from my trials to find a girlfriend. But meanwhile, i managed to get some female friends, and i used to go with them out, even 1 to 1, but on all load i had to deal with, relationship with person who was under stress every day would feel for some girl like hell.
And in the end, i must avoid any sign of inexperience which can be forseeable for her. With those friends, i didn't talk about sex or etc, since it would feel unpleasant to themselves.
So, what will you propose in my situation? Clothing, behavior, topics, and other tips and tricks for first date and keeping contact after it?
Thanks in advance!
I know anyone can't give me a precise know-how guide about my specific context, but i'm looking for general advice how to behave in order to give her a good impression about myself as person.
So, i finally gathered balls to invite girl i like on first date, which we agreed to happen in next 10-15 days after her exams end (she is very passionate nerd like me, so we strongly respect each other in that field). We met each other on extracuricular activity on our college months ago, but we started to hang out more intensively in recent time. On our first group meetup, i thought she was interested in my personality, and in reverse i expressed interest for her, so we had talk about that when we stood up alone in front of the table in bar, for whole night.
But, since it's, for now, my first succesful date invite ever, i'm concerned about it will fail in the end. I'm 22, so it's weird for men my age to be inexperienced with women (at least, in the Balkans, Europe where i live) in terms of love, relationships, and sex.
Since i lived under very hard conditions last three years (financially, dealing with ill old parents, trying to do best at the college...) i had a pause from my trials to find a girlfriend. But meanwhile, i managed to get some female friends, and i used to go with them out, even 1 to 1, but on all load i had to deal with, relationship with person who was under stress every day would feel for some girl like hell.
And in the end, i must avoid any sign of inexperience which can be forseeable for her. With those friends, i didn't talk about sex or etc, since it would feel unpleasant to themselves.
So, what will you propose in my situation? Clothing, behavior, topics, and other tips and tricks for first date and keeping contact after it?
Thanks in advance!
I know anyone can't give me a precise know-how guide about my specific context, but i'm looking for general advice how to behave in order to give her a good impression about myself as person.
So, i finally gathered balls to invite girl i like on first date, which we agreed to happen in next 10-15 days after her exams end (she is very passionate nerd like me, so we strongly respect each other in that field). We met each other on extracuricular activity on our college months ago, but we started to hang out more intensively in recent time. On our first group meetup, i thought she was interested in my personality, and in reverse i expressed interest for her, so we had talk about that when we stood up alone in front of the table in bar, for whole night.
But, since it's, for now, my first succesful date invite ever, i'm concerned about it will fail in the end. I'm 22, so it's weird for men my age to be inexperienced with women (at least, in the Balkans, Europe where i live) in terms of love, relationships, and sex.
Since i lived under very hard conditions last three years (financially, dealing with ill old parents, trying to do best at the college...) i had a pause from my trials to find a girlfriend. But meanwhile, i managed to get some female friends, and i used to go with them out, even 1 to 1, but on all load i had to deal with, relationship with person who was under stress every day would feel for some girl like hell.
And in the end, i must avoid any sign of inexperience which can be forseeable for her. With those friends, i didn't talk about sex or etc, since it would feel unpleasant to themselves.
So, what will you propose in my situation? Clothing, behavior, topics, and other tips and tricks for first date and keeping contact after it?
Thanks in advance!
Čitajući poslove na slične teme ovde na redditu, vrlo retko sam nailazio na informacije o poslovima u bankama, a da nisu šalterski službenici i slično, te zato pitanje formulišem na ovaj način.
Uglavnom, pozicije za koje se interesujem su u rizicima (kreditni, tržišni, i slično). Svestan sam da u čitavom risk odeljenju postoje raznolike pozicije, stoga postavljam pitanja za pojedinačna iskustva ljudi koji su radili ovakve poslove. Kakve su početne i najviše plate, kako se napreduje, radna atmosfera i slična pitanja.