u/Divine_DarkMatter

What do you guys really feel when a girl you know/suspect to have romantic interest in makes eye contact in a way that looks like she is trying to read you and moves her gaze to your lips and eyes again?

Especially if you are not dating or anything but you know this girl likes you. Do you notice the difference?

There's this guy I like, and I have told him early that I like him (I didn't want it to be limerence if left unspoken for long, as have this tendency).

We met organically, and I thought he liked me too because he gave random non-standard compliments and noticed little details I've said, and that makes me feel seen, but maybe I read body language wrong and that was just him being friendly.

Apparently I came on a bit strong with my directness and suddenness, so when I told him I like him, he asked to slow things down because he's not used to it. I have AuDHD, and whenever we talk, I sometimes make a conscious effort to make eye contact, other than because I want to read his expression. Do you think he noticed?

He makes bold eye contact as well, as if he's trying to observe me. He has this curious, observant gaze, which makes me uncomfortable or electrical sometimes because it's a bit intense and I don't know whether it's just a neutral regular eye contact or something else, but he never averts his gaze or look away first. Does it mean he doesn't feel the electrical?

Months ago,I decided to end things with my aro ace partner after 6 years of being together. I was quite happy because he's very stable (emotionally, mentally, and financially), but down along the road I realised that I crave romantic and sexual intimacy. I know he's like this from the beginning, but maybe back then he was exactly what I needed and I identify myself as gray/demi so I thought it won't be a problem. He's a good guy and we connect intellectually, but because we can't connect romantically and it's difficult to connect emotionally, I never have sexual attraction to him.

We had sex in the past, but it became a routine rather than real intimacy, so we did it less and less and stopped doing that more than a year ago. He said he'll be completely fine if we never have sex anymore ever again. The way we show affection to each other is also very different, which makes us both sometimes feel unappreciated even though in general we are still very good friends.

I realised I want someone to really want me. I tried to communicate my needs for years for affection and sex, and I don't expect him to change, but we didn't find a way for him to help me satisfy this desire. Months ago I told him that I can't do it anymore and want to break up. He did say he love me, and I do love him as well, eventhough now it's platonically, but he accepted my decision to break up and he does not even seem to be upset about it.

He said there's a chance I will get back to him when I crave the stability again, and he will be there, but if not, he's just happy if I can find happiness and he said he'll be fine.

In the meantime we are still married (got married for practical reasons) and live together because we both are foreigners, and we make a plan to move out in about a year, so now we just exist peacefully as roommates. There's no drama other than small, annoying roommate-kind-of drama, and that rarely happens.

I made him cry twice in the past when I was suicidal, so I believe he is/was sad or capable of feeling so. But this time we just talk about ending things with no drama, and he's completely fine with me starting to see other guys. I'm really grateful for him, and I don't regret that we met, it's just still difficult for me to understand from my own emotional perspective. I'm like an iceberg in warm climate, so I melt quickly because I'm very vocal and direct about everything. I also "dump" things a lot to him, but he doesn't do that and mostly just like to listen to my stories. He doesn't talk a lot, and I've been the main communicator in our relationship, so sometimes it makes me wonder if there's more below the tip of the iceberg, even though maybe there isn't?

I genuinely want him to be happy too. Is this the best way for us or is there something I can still try to salvage this?

I just need to vent here and maybe hear some similar stories if any or whatever you think about my situation.

Is it possible for a man to be emotionally unavailable and still likes or desires you?

We haven't known each other for long. About 2 months, organically, so it began with no intent of dating.

I confessed having romantic interest, and he said he's emotionally unavailable now but also doesn't really want to close the door completely and would rather go on at a slower pace because things felt sudden.

I didn't ask about what he feels about me because I don't want to overwhelm and wanted to give him space to reflect, but he's warm when we are in person, although very dry in text. And sometimes he initiates closer proximity although I am aware that I roll the ball way more often. Sometimes I feel the tension, he makes me believe that I might eventually have a chance to be with him.

In the meantime I'm trying to move on and really go on dates with other guys and try to get to know other people so my energy is channelled elsewhere, but my heart still yearns for him.

Can you share your story related/similar to this? Why were you emotionally unavailable?

We haven't known each other for long. About 2 months, organically, so it began with no intent of dating.

I confessed having romantic interest, and they said they're emotionally unavailable now but also don't really want to close the door completely and would rather go on at a slower pace because things felt sudden for them.

I didn't ask about what they feel about me because I don't want to overwhelm and wanted to give them space to reflect, but they're warm when we are in person, although very dry in text. And sometimes I feel the tension; they made me believe that I might eventually have a chance to be with them.

In the meantime I'm trying to move on and really go on dates with other people and try to get to know other people so my energy is channelled elsewhere, but my heart still yearns for them.

Can you share your story related/similar to this?