u/Different_Plan6910

Trigger warning if it’s needed I don’t think so: family issues, violence mentioned?

I’ve actually been referred too here by another Reddit I’m not quite sure why but I’ll post the same thing that I said there.

Honestly looking for advice on where to start getting help or how to deal with my brother. Or how to support my mother too

(She’s agreed to get help after the funeral tomorrow)

We lost my eldest brother 36 a month ago now and my youngest of 3 older brothers has been a nightmare to deal with since. Now that may sound harsh, I know he’s going through grief and everyone deals with it differently but it’s not right.

He broke his arm a week after and can’t work now so I know he’s going through it but he gets violent and in a rage. Breaks stuff in the house, speaks to my mum like shit when she’s already dealing with bad shit.

He tells her to give him money or a loan or says he will doing something stupid or go sell drugs. My mums in a panic and doesn’t know what to do.

Now here’s the part that may change the story. He was like this before my brother died he would throw a rage whenever he didn’t get his own way. Destroyed his tv then kicked off saying he needs a new one but won’t buy it or save for one. Treats my mum like shit anyway, doesn’t get involved in family things.

My mum has tried to get him into counselling before and he refused to go at all. He’s a 6ft2 man we cannot force him into the car.

What on earth do people do about situations like this i don’t know where to go what kind of people deal with this or is there even a way to deal with it?

TL;DR brother needs help but refuses to accept it and unsure how to help him now.

I’d love to go to my own mum about this stuff but she’s struggling more than me and I automatically try to handle everything I have done since I was a kid so don’t feel like I can share my feelings with her or it will just make her worse.

My oldest of 3 older brothers died last month, my mums a mess, the youngest of those 3 is a nightmare to live with. Always has been and has gotten worse since. He threatens to do stuff if my mum doesn’t give him money and obviously she’s panicking.

He refuses to get help at all and he’s a 6ft2 man me and my mum cannot force him to get into the car. My other brother shuts down and is just angry about his behaviour and they just argue.

Honestly just feeling lost on how to help and struggling with my own grief would love a friend or parental advice.

Trigger warning if it’s needed I don’t think so: family issues, violence mentioned?

I’m not sure why I’ve been referred to this Reddit but got told to post here instead as you may have better advice??

Honestly looking for advice on where to start getting help or how to deal with my brother. Or how to support my mother too

(She’s agreed to get help after the funeral tomorrow)

We lost my eldest brother 36 a month ago now and my youngest of 3 older brothers has been a nightmare to deal with since. Now that may sound harsh, I know he’s going through grief and everyone deals with it differently but it’s not right.

He broke his arm a week after and can’t work now so I know he’s going through it but he gets violent and in a rage. Breaks stuff in the house, speaks to my mum like shit when she’s already dealing with bad shit.

He tells her to give him money or a loan or says he will doing something stupid or go sell drugs. My mums in a panic and doesn’t know what to do.

Now here’s the part that may change the story. He was like this before my brother died he would throw a rage whenever he didn’t get his own way. Destroyed his tv then kicked off saying he needs a new one but won’t buy it or save for one. Treats my mum like shit anyway, doesn’t get involved in family things.

My mum has tried to get him into counselling before and he refused to go at all. He’s a 6ft2 man we cannot force him into the car.

What on earth do people do about situations like this i don’t know where to go what kind of people deal with this or is there even a way to deal with it?

TL;DR brother needs help but refuses to accept it and unsure how to help him now.

Trigger warning if it’s needed I don’t think so: family issues, violence mentioned?

Honestly looking for advice on where to start getting help or how to deal with my brother. Or how to support my mother too

(She’s agreed to get help after the funeral tomorrow)

We lost my eldest brother 36 a month ago now and my youngest of 3 older brothers has been a nightmare to deal with since. Now that may sound harsh, I know he’s going through grief and everyone deals with it differently but it’s not right.

He broke his arm a week after and can’t work now so I know he’s going through it but he gets violent and in a rage. Breaks stuff in the house, speaks to my mum like shit when she’s already dealing with bad shit.

He tells her to give him money or a loan or says he will doing something stupid or go sell drugs. My mums in a panic and doesn’t know what to do.

Now here’s the part that may change the story. He was like this before my brother died he would throw a rage whenever he didn’t get his own way. Destroyed his tv then kicked off saying he needs a new one but won’t buy it or save for one. Treats my mum like shit anyway, doesn’t get involved in family things.

My mum has tried to get him into counselling before and he refused to go at all. He’s a 6ft2 man we cannot force him into the car.

What on earth do people do about situations like this i don’t know where to go what kind of people deal with this or is there even a way to deal with it?

TL;DR brother needs help but refuses to accept it and unsure how to help him now.