u/Dazzling-Lead-8557

Why is he still following me when he has me muted?

he is either really good at not looking at my stories or definitely has me muted. he said he would hit me up once he frees up lmao okay sure, you literally just posted you were at the beach 😂😂 have not heard from him for a week. so fucking weird to send these sweet paragraphs, make the effort to train me in boxing, talking to me from morning till night then suddenly dissappear.

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u/Dazzling-Lead-8557 — 5 hours ago
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I feel like I won't find love for a long time

I'm 25 and I have been in and out relationships for years which I know is terrible. I can't seem to trust any guy no matter how long I have been with them. I feel like I'm being dismissed and that I'm just considered too much when I'm feeling down and lonely. what makes it hard is I have no close friends so I'm either hanging out alone or with my whoever I'm dating. even when I go out alone I noticed almost everybody is in a relationship and no one is social anymore.

I just wish it were like the movies 😭 for any of you that have partners, how did you meet? I don't go clubbing and I'm sober so finding someone is going to be so difficult. any support would be great since I have no one rn

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u/Dazzling-Lead-8557 — 19 hours ago

I feel like I won't find love for a long time

I'm 25 and I have been in and out relationships for years which I know is terrible. I can't seem to trust any guy no matter how long I have been with them. I feel like I'm being dismissed and that I'm just considered too much when I'm feeling down and lonely. what makes it hard is I have no close friends so I'm either hanging out alone or with my whoever I'm dating. even when I go out alone I noticed almost everybody is in a relationship and no one is social anymore.

I just wish it were like the movies 😭 for any of you that have partners, how did you meet? I don't go clubbing and I'm sober so finding someone is going to be so difficult

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u/Dazzling-Lead-8557 — 19 hours ago

I don't understand why people do this

I'm 25 and it confuses me when people act so interested in you then leave. it hurts even more when you have known the person for years and just days prior said he would be 100% honest with me even if it hurts. he said its attractive when a women stands on business. I hope to hell he comes crawling back so I can say, you want a woman that stands on business and is honest with you but yet you can't do the same?

he is the one that initiated everything and clearly showed he was interested in me and even my guy friends said the same.

said the sweetest texts to me while drunk and even mentioned he was sorry for taking hours to respond and that he was sorry missing out on my day. until day after he said all that he completely switched up, got dry then acted like I never existed. even followed up to eventually hang out and just said he was busy then never heard from him yet he posts stories. fuck people . I unfollowed him right away and he still follows me but does not watch my stories anymore

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u/Dazzling-Lead-8557 — 1 day ago

How to meet people outside of apps?

I go to the gym, coffee shops, snowboard, ice rink and I swear everyone is in a relationship now. I spend a lot of time alone and no one strikes up conversations anymore. of course its also due to fear of rejection but I feel like I'm in this constant cycle. its hard because I am completely sober and don't like clubbing. how do you even find people anymore?

I am slowly losing hope lol

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u/Dazzling-Lead-8557 — 2 days ago

I feel like I won't find the right man for a long time

as soon as I start trusting someone they fuck me over. they make me feel crazy for being anxious and trusting my intuition and they always prove me right. I have so much love to give and I always do my best to be considerate and aware of my actions. I have learned to be straight forward and can't stand guys that ghost.

I hope the right love finds me one day. in a majority of my relationships I have been told "I'm not social enough, I feel too much, I'm a drama queen" which has made me so insecure of myself. I'm tired of constantly holding back my emotions

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u/Dazzling-Lead-8557 — 2 days ago

I can't stop thinking about why he ghosted me

I knew this person since for 10 years and he would hit me up every so often just texting. he would text me saying he wanted to go to rave then go to out of the country to see our favorite artist. we talked for a month straight ever since and really fell for each other after we had coffee. he then invited me to go boxing and things got very flirty. he would make the effort to see me and would make it up to me if things didn't work out.

he wanted to plan a future hangout to go to the beach then thats when he started get busy since he has a side business along with having to go to an event and traveling within the same month. he went on a work trip, got drink and started saying thoughtful paragraphs about how he wanted to be honest with me even if it ment it hurt. I would make effort and showed interest back, he couldnt even take a compliment.

then how he apologized for taking long to reply and how he wanted to give me my full attention. he was super sweet then we he got back from his trip to go home he completely switched up. would talk to me less and became super dry, then finally didn't text me. I followed up with a morning text and to let me know when he is free again then said he would reach out once he is less busy. Haven't heard in a week and stopped looking at my instagram stories and posted a few times.

I am baffled of how someone shows so much interest to that extent then completely bails. even my guy friends are confused and I can't wrap my head around it. I am so fucking hurt because I felt such a connection with him, I have never had guy fuck me over this bad. I keep questioning why?

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u/Dazzling-Lead-8557 — 3 days ago

How do you get used to being screwed over so many times?

I am so tired of having my emotions swept under the rug. why is it so difficult for adults to have a simple conversation of whether its working out or not instead of being straight forward? I am tired of hearing the busy excuse and seeing people have the time to constantly post on their instagram and view my stories. he used to apologize if he took too long to reply, and would make things up to me if he cancelled last minute.

it hurts even more when you have known that person for over 10 years, and things were going so well. He would say nice things to me like how strong our bond is and how he would always be honest with me no matter how much it hurts me. he came back from a trip, started talking to me less then slowly disappeared and I even sent him a quick good morning text and tried seeing if we could hangout whenever he is free. Haven't heard from him in 5 days lol I am so done holy shit I feel like I will never find someone. I was so interested in this man and he made it even more obvious

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u/Dazzling-Lead-8557 — 3 days ago