u/Conscious-Ear-1238

Hey guys! I LIVE IN LOS ANGELES FOR CONTEXT

I need help.. i currently have a camaro 2020.. i owe 18k on it.. i got it last year.. my loan length was 5 years and 17%, i was making $20/hr at the time of me getting that car lol... anyways my rent is $1550, parking spot $150.. my car note was $462 and $400 car insurance.. my camaro is 99000 miles, i got it at 87k last year.. anyways .. i just got it discharged thru bankruptcy but driving it around until they take it...

im making $4200 a month now, my only big expense is rent $1650 ( with parking)

im tryna be proactive and figure out if i wanna get another car note but maybe get like a 2018-2020 honda/toyota around 90k miles... i have been quoted $180-220 for full coverage for those type of cars... another option i was thinking of was a tesla or ev car because of these damn gas prices lol

But in LA for 3-5k range, i cant even find a decent honda civic unless its like a 2007 110k miles or anything 2010 and older or ford fusions, kia rios etc.. i heard so much about them needing engine replacment

HELP

He's 30 im 27

Hey guys me and my partner got into an argument sunday night/monday morning. He basically came to the club with his friend, i was at the same club and we texted each other, i offered to get him a drink and then he texted me asking me for the drink i went to do it we was hanging out okay cool. I went to the section i was at. He eventually texted me he was leaving and his friend he came with left him and that he asked to go with his friend who was getting dropped off, and he would go with his friend to his friends house and if i wanted to i could pick him up but if not hes gonna sleepover his friends house.

So immediately when he texted that i was pissed lol, and was like do what makes sense to you.... because in my head if im your MAN... and you are asking a friend whose being dropped off by his friend to go to his house, while your MAN is the same spot, who couldve brought you home or to stay at your mans place why wouldn't you do that . Anywho.. he was taking 30 minutes to respond each time.. and there was a 2 hour span of texting where he responded every 30 min.. and he was acting like he didnt understand why i was upset and he also proceeded to ask me for $25 to give the driver ( which i did not give)

next day i told him im still upset. he did essentially apologize but he i felt like he did it to shut me up... and i was not gonna be shut up idc. he eneded up being mad aand saying that i punished him by leaving him stranded at his friend house with no way home and that the only reason he went with his friend is so he can come to my house since we lived closeby... and he was upset because he felt like i punished him by not picking him up and he ended up hanging up the phone because i didnt necessarily agree that i was punishing him and he said hes gonna show me how to play games.. then proceeded to not talk to me for 4 days until today i was the one to reach out and say i did not like how the convo went... and we argued more today and hes honestly more upset than me about this situation at this point and he said hes not gonna beg me and im not GOD ... man i just want to be heard and feel like if im upset that you would try and show that care to make me feel good.

Side note; hes been jobless for 2 1/2 months and i been paying for everything when we go out to eat, this groceries ... everything but i love him and would not have him struggle.. it hurts to see him be so defensive or go as hard to make me feel okay.. idk

SIDE NOTE TWO; His friend also has talked to me before at a party and reffered to him as "a sexy ass n***" in a way where it sounded like he would take that down.. that friend is also 45 and in the past my partner has dated older men so it may play apart in my extra anger..

side note three: We had a previous scenario where he was drunk aparelently and also slept over at another friends house who lived close to mine.. instead of having his friend drop him off at mine

He has communicated it all but still idk.. whose the drama lol

He's 30 im 27

Hey guys me and my partner got into an argument sunday night/monday morning. He basically came to the club with his friend, i was at the same club and we texted each other, i offered to get him a drink and then he texted me asking me for the drink i went to do it we was hanging out okay cool. I went to the section i was at. He eventually texted me he was leaving and his friend he came with left him and that he asked to go with his friend who was getting dropped off, and he would go with his friend to his friends house and if i wanted to i could pick him up but if not hes gonna sleepover his friends house.

So immediately when he texted that i was pissed lol, and was like do what makes sense to you.... because in my head if im your MAN... and you are asking a friend whose being dropped off by his friend to go to his house, while your MAN is the same spot, who couldve brought you home or to stay at your mans place why wouldn't you do that . Anywho.. he was taking 30 minutes to respond each time.. and there was a 2 hour span of texting where he responded every 30 min.. and he was acting like he didnt understand why i was upset and he also proceeded to ask me for $25 to give the driver ( which i did not give)

next day i told him im still upset. he did essentially apologize but he i felt like he did it to shut me up... and i was not gonna be shut up idc. he eneded up being mad aand saying that i punished him by leaving him stranded at his friend house with no way home and that the only reason he went with his friend is so he can come to my house since we lived closeby... and he was upset because he felt like i punished him by not picking him up and he ended up hanging up the phone because i didnt necessarily agree that i was punishing him and he said hes gonna show me how to play games.. then proceeded to not talk to me for 4 days until today i was the one to reach out and say i did not like how the convo went... and we argued more today and hes honestly more upset than me about this situation at this point and he said hes not gonna beg me and im not GOD ... man i just want to be heard and feel like if im upset that you would try and show that care to make me feel good.

Side note; hes been jobless for 2 1/2 months and i been paying for everything when we go out to eat, this groceries ... everything but i love him and would not have him struggle.. it hurts to see him be so defensive or go as hard to make me feel okay.. idk

SIDE NOTE TWO; His friend also has talked to me before at a party and reffered to him as "a sexy ass n***" in a way where it sounded like he would take that down.. that friend is also 45 and in the past my partner has dated older men so it may play apart in my extra anger..

side note three: We had a previous scenario where he was drunk aparelently and also slept over at another friends house who lived close to mine.. instead of having his friend drop him off at mine

He has communicated it all but still idk.. whose the drama lol

He's 30 im 27

Hey guys me and my partner got into an argument sunday night/monday morning. He basically came to the club with his friend, i was at the same club and we texted each other, i offered to get him a drink and then he texted me asking me for the drink i went to do it we was hanging out okay cool. I went to the section i was at. He eventually texted me he was leaving and his friend he came with left him and that he asked to go with his friend who was getting dropped off, and he would go with his friend to his friends house and if i wanted to i could pick him up but if not hes gonna sleepover his friends house.

So immediately when he texted that i was pissed lol, and was like do what makes sense to you.... because in my head if im your MAN... and you are asking a friend whose being dropped off by his friend to go to his house, while your MAN is the same spot, who couldve brought you home or to stay at your mans place why wouldn't you do that . Anywho.. he was taking 30 minutes to respond each time.. and there was a 2 hour span of texting where he responded every 30 min.. and he was acting like he didnt understand why i was upset and he also proceeded to ask me for $25 to give the driver ( which i did not give)

next day i told him im still upset. he did essentially apologize but he i felt like he did it to shut me up... and i was not gonna be shut up idc. he eneded up being mad aand saying that i punished him by leaving him stranded at his friend house with no way home and that the only reason he went with his friend is so he can come to my house since we lived closeby... and he was upset because he felt like i punished him by not picking him up and he ended up hanging up the phone because i didnt necessarily agree that i was punishing him and he said hes gonna show me how to play games.. then proceeded to not talk to me for 4 days until today i was the one to reach out and say i did not like how the convo went... and we argued more today and hes honestly more upset than me about this situation at this point and he said hes not gonna beg me and im not GOD ... man i just want to be heard and feel like if im upset that you would try and show that care to make me feel good.

Side note; hes been jobless for 2 1/2 months and i been paying for everything when we go out to eat, this groceries ... everything but i love him and would not have him struggle.. it hurts to see him be so defensive or go as hard to make me feel okay.. idk

SIDE NOTE TWO; His friend also has talked to me before at a party and reffered to him as "a sexy ass n***" in a way where it sounded like he would take that down.. that friend is also 45 and in the past my partner has dated older men so it may play apart in my extra anger..

side note three: We had a previous scenario where he was drunk aparelently and also slept over at another friends house who lived close to mine.. instead of having his friend drop him off at mine

He has communicated it all but still idk.. whose the drama lol

be honest what od you think