u/Catsforfour

I miss feeling like my husband wants me or lusts after me like when we are dating. Sometimes I day dream about cheating and not with any person- I just miss the feeling of knowing someone wants you as much as you want them.

I’ve started dressing cute and done my hair differently. I always want to go to rock concerts and go places but he just wants to stay home so I go by myself or with friends. Sometimes I wish I would’ve married someone more like me.

I feel like my husband couldn’t care less about the way I look. He rarely even compliments me unprompted. I’ve explained my issue before but he blows me off.

We’ve been married 12 years and I never want to leave him or cheat because I love him but I want to “date” again, I want him to want me.

How do you manage to keep your adhd kid on top of their work but also not feel like you are CONSTANTLY reminding them?

I’m so stressed about my sons missing work and grades that sometimes I feel like I’m the one in school constantly reminding him. If I don’t constantly remind him, then he just doesn’t do his work. If I do remind him he gets mad and says I’m stressing him out.

I went a couple weeks without bothering him and he is now failing two classes and is so far behind he is overwhelmed trying to catch up.

I feel like I could cry because I have so much stuff to do (at work and with my other kids) and dealing with missing work and homework is really adding to my stress.

My stepmom married my dad a few years ago so she’s pretty new to the family. We are all really nice to her and we are a friendly family so we accept new people. After a few months she just seemed off to me… like idk she just has this weird fake nice vibe. She’s super religious like rapture religious. She’s also pro-life and she is just nothing like anyone else in our family. I decided not to judge her for that bc she’s old and also it’s not my business.

But anyways she’s kind of recently said sarcastic/off putting comments about my 13 year old alternative son. But comments that were not OUTWARDLY rude. She gets on him about his clothes and stuff when I’m not around. He stayed with my dad over the weekend to go fishing and of course she was there. I asked my dad to not mention my son’s hair right now. He has long hair that he wears directly in his face. He is kinda going through some stuff right now with self esteem and personal issues so I just let him wear his hair in his face because he’s a good kid and it’s not hurting anyone and he dresses a little emo/punk.

My son came home and said he heard my stepmom going off about his hair to my dad and how his hair in his face is so disrespectful and she won’t stand for it.

Would I be wrong to say something to my dad? Because if she doesn’t cool it soon my teenager isn’t going to want to go over there and my dad is going to lose his really good relationship with my son. My dad’s house used to be welcoming and inviting but ever since he married my stepmom it feels weird and awkward. My dad definitely knows I don’t like my stepmom because I have told him multiple times she has a weird vibe but now I feel like she’s crossing a line. My son isn’t even really her grandson and she’s only been in the family a few years so not long enough to where she feels like a true grandmother to him.

I just don’t understand why my son wearing his hair in his face hurts anyone or is disrespectful- he’s just going through a 13 year old phase that’ll pass.